Our TFMR Stories | Our decisions, our grief, real true parent stories

Goodbye Google & Meta: How I'm protecting your TFMR / ending a wanted pregnancy story

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Sat, 13 Jun 2026 05:59:00 GMT

Your TFMR story is sacred - the words you share in grief circles, the journals, the downloads you've trusted with your healing, your baby's story... they MUST be handled with care. If you've been looking for TFMR support that actually protects you, this episode is for you.

Sabrina (that's me, The TFMR Doula) takes you behind the scenes on her ongoing process of moving away from big tech - Google, Meta, and the companies whose AI is quietly reading, scraping, and training on everything we put into their clouds - to build something safer for all of us. Safer for you, safer for your baby.

This isn't just about encrypted video calls or coded forums (although yes, she built the forum herself from scratch, and yes, that's pretty f-ing cool). It's about what becomes possible when TFMR parents finally feel safe... how your healing actually happens, when humans connect heart to human heart, not filtered through a platform that doesn't care about us at all. This is TFMR grief support the way it was always meant to be - private, sovereign, and completely yours.

Some recommendations from the episode so you too can keep your TFMR story safe: Firefox browser, Proton mail, Signal messaging app

To meet with Sabrina schedule your Connect Chat and find your exhale and safety within our groups/1on1: http://www.thetfmrdoula.com/schedule-call

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And in this episode we invite you to join us in this space, just for TFMR parents:

THE TFMR SUPPORT SANCTUARY

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If you're carrying the weight of your TFMR alone... you don't have to anymore.

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The TFMR Support Sanctuary: a monthly community for parents who want ways to release the shame, guilt, and despair of this loss and feel sure and seen in their motherhood, their parenthood, and the love they have for their baby.

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💜 A safe place to feel whole again and honor your baby & feel the strength to get through another day

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💬 Live circles every couple of weeks, replays always available and JUST as powerful

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💜 Month-to-month, as you need support

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🌸 $55/month

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Join us: ⁠www.theTFMRdoula.com/join⁠

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FREE FACEBOOK GROUP:

Join other TFMR parents who just GET it and are here to listen and hold you.

PLUS you'll get early access to new podcast episodes (like this episode here, previously recorded LIVE in the group) and ask your questions and share YOUR story.

Application only, free membership:

⁠http://www.theTFMRdoula.com/facebookgroup

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🎙 Want to share your story?

Email Sabrina to be featured on the podcast: sabrina [at] theTFMRdoula [dot] com

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Music credit:

"Pamgaea" Kevin MacLeod (https://incompetech.com/music/royalty-free/index.html?isrc=USUAN1300036&Search=Search )

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For when you feel like no one understands your loving choice

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Wed, 10 Jun 2026 05:59:00 GMT

Unfortunately TFMR baby loss, ending a wanted pregnancy, abortion for medical reasons is still very misunderstood. In this episode we talk about how this may be showing up in your relationships, your emotions, and how you communicate about your baby loss.

You'll also hear some gentle inspiration for the hardest days from Sabrina, who has also been through TFMR, for hydrops & cystic hygroma, and how she found and facilitates understanding spaces for you. In the hardest most impossible parenting, this is the place for you 💜

To meet with Sabrina schedule your Connect Chat: www.thetfmrdoula.com/schedule-call

...
And in this episode we invite you to join us in this space, just for TFMR parents:
THE TFMR SUPPORT SANCTUARY
‌
If you're carrying the weight of your TFMR alone... you don't have to anymore.
‌
The TFMR Support Sanctuary: a monthly community for parents who want ways to release the shame, guilt, and despair of this loss and feel sure and seen in their motherhood, their parenthood, and the love they have for their baby.
‌
💜 A safe place to feel whole again and honor your baby & feel the strength to get through another day
‌
💬 Live circles every couple of weeks, replays always available and JUST as powerful
‌
💜 Month-to-month, no long commitment
‌
🌸 $55/month
‌
Join us: ⁠www.theTFMRdoula.com/join⁠
‌
FREE FACEBOOK GROUP:
Join other TFMR parents who just GET it and are here to listen and hold you.
PLUS you'll get early access to new podcast episodes and a chance to ask questions live. All in our private Facebook group, the TFMR Support Circle. You'll get to witness the raw, unedited version of my solo episodes before anyone else. You can also join in live and share your comments and get your questions answered to shape the episodes.
‌
Application only, free membership:
⁠http://www.theTFMRdoula.com/facebookgroup
‌
🎙 Want to share your story?
Email Sabrina to be featured on the podcast: sabrina [at] theTFMRdoula [dot] com
‌
Music credit:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
Creative Commons License
https://incompetech.com/music/royalty-free/index.html?isrc=USUAN1300036&Search=Search

"I feel like a monster after my TFMR" - about this tough abortion baby loss thought

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Mon, 08 Jun 2026 05:59:00 GMT

If you've asked yourself "am I a monster for choosing this?" this episode is for you.

Sabrina speaks directly to the thought that haunts so many TFMR parents... before, during, and long after the procedure is over. She speaks to *why* that "monster" thought creeps in once the medical crisis has passed, why both paths can feel monstrous, and why the fact that you're asking the question at all is proof that you're not one.

This is fierce parenting. This is a mama on fire. And you are not a monster.

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JOIN US IN THE TFMR SUPPORT SANCTUARY:

If you're carrying the weight of your TFMR alone... you don't have to anymore.

The **TFMR Support Sanctuary** is a monthly community for parents who want ways to release the shame, guilt, and despair of this loss and feel sure and seen in their motherhood, their parenthood, and the love they have for their baby. Finding ways to live their lives again, TTC again, parent and be in relationships - all while honoring the baby that has died.

💜 A safe place to feel whole again and honor your baby/pregnancy lost to TFMR

💬 Live circles every couple of weeks, REPLAYS always available if you can't make it live

💜 Month-to-month, no long commitment

🌸 $55/month

Join us: http://www.theTFMRdoula.com/join

FREE FACEBOOK GROUP:

Want early access to new podcast episodes and a chance to ask questions live? Join our private Facebook group, the TFMR Support Circle. You'll get to witness the raw, unedited version of my solo episodes before anyone else. You can also join in live and share your comments and get your questions answered to shape the episodes.

Application only, free membership:

http://www.theTFMRdoula.com/facebookgroup

🎙 Want to share your story?

Email Sabrina to be featured on the podcast: sabrina [at] theTFMRdoula [dot] com

Music credit:

Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod

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"Reproductive Anxiety Disorder" - a call to a new classification with Alexia Leachman, expert on clearing tokophobia

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Thu, 04 Jun 2026 05:59:01 GMT

Today we are talking with Alexia Leachman and her call to classify tokophobia and MANY other reproductive experiences (like the trauma and anxiety that comes from baby loss) under what she calls “Reproductive Anxiety Disorder.” If your anxiety after TFMR has been brushed off as "yeah a lot of folks feel that" but you KNOW there is more to your story, listen in.

Alexia Leachman is the author of Fearless Birthing, founder of Head Trash. The Head Trash book and website and method helped her clear her tokophobia - which is the visceral, unexplainable reaction or fear of pregnancy and birth.

Her links for more info:
https://tik-tokophobia.com/podcast/

https://fearless-birthing.com/white-paper/

Tokophobia = extreme fear of birth

RAD = Reproductive Anxiety Disorder

...
And in this episode we invite you to join us in this space, just for TFMR parents:

THE TFMR SUPPORT SANCTUARY
‌
If you're carrying the weight of your TFMR alone... you don't have to anymore.
‌
The TFMR Support Sanctuary: a monthly community for parents who want ways to release the shame, guilt, and despair of this loss and feel sure and seen in their motherhood, their parenthood, and the love they have for their baby.
‌
💜 A safe place to feel whole again and honor your baby & feel the strength to get through another day
‌
💬 Live circles every couple of weeks, replays always available and JUST as powerful
‌
💜 Month-to-month, no long commitment
‌
🌸 $55/month
‌
Join us: ⁠www.theTFMRdoula.com/join⁠
‌

FREE FACEBOOK GROUP:
Join other TFMR parents who just GET it and are here to listen and hold you.
PLUS you'll get early access to new podcast episodes and a chance to ask questions live. All in our private Facebook group, the TFMR Support Circle. You'll get to witness the raw, unedited version of my solo episodes before anyone else. You can also join in live and share your comments and get your questions answered to shape the episodes.
‌
Application only, free membership:
⁠http://www.theTFMRdoula.com/facebookgroup
‌
🎙 Want to share your story?
Email Sabrina to be featured on the podcast: sabrina [at] theTFMRdoula [dot] com
‌
Music credit:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
Creative Commons License
https://incompetech.com/music/royalty-free/index.html?isrc=USUAN1300036&Search=Search

How to handle the 'what-ifs' after TFMR

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Mon, 20 Apr 2026 17:00:28 GMT

The “what ifs” after TFMR baby loss can knock you over with their intensity and AMOUNT. After abortion for medical reasons pregnancy loss, you may look back and wish you could have changed the date, the timing, the type of procedure, your habits, your diet - ‘What if’ this or that would have made a difference or led to a different outcome?

In this episode we talk about where the ‘what ifs’ may be showing up, how it feels when these thoughts get loud, and what is under these thoughts. And gentle ways to hold and care for the ‘what ifs.’

JOIN US IN THE TFMR SUPPORT SANCTUARY:

If you're carrying the weight of your TFMR alone... you don't have to anymore.

The TFMR Support Sanctuary is now open: a monthly community for parents who want ways to release the shame, guilt, and despair of this loss and feel sure and seen in their motherhood, their parenthood, and the love they have for their baby. Finding ways to live their lives again, TTC again, parent and be in relationships - all while honoring the baby that has died.

💜 A safe place to feel whole again and honor your baby/pregnancy lost to TFMR

💬 Live circles every couple of weeks, REPLAYS always available if you can't make it live

💜 Month-to-month, no long commitment

🌸 Grand opening price: $45/month (going up to $55 on May 11th)

Join us: http://www.theTFMRdoula.com/join

FREE FACEBOOK GROUP:

Application only, free membership:
http://www.theTFMRdoula.com/facebookgroup

🎙 Want to share your story?
Email Sabrina to be featured on the podcast: sabrina [at] theTFMRdoula [dot] com

Music credit:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
Creative Commons License https://incompetech.com/music/royalty-free/index.html?isrc=USUAN1300036&Search=Search

How can I live with this? 5 skills every TFMR parents needs │ What grief after TFMR actually needs - Part 3 of 3

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Thu, 09 Apr 2026 05:59:00 GMT

Sabrina & Kate wrap up part 3 of 3 of "What Your Grief Actually Needs after TFMR" series and share the key 5 ways to work with and hold your grief gently and survive the horror of TFMR baby loss - these are real, doable, repeatable and helpful things you can do today. We practice these skills deeply and TOGETHER in the TFMR Support Sanctuary if you want to join us live. Through May 11th we have an opening price of $45/monthly and you are invited 💜

You were never meant to do this alone, and we survive this together, helping each other in the heartbreak of abortion of wanted babies.

JOIN US IN THE TFMR SUPPORT SANCTUARY:

If you're carrying the weight of your TFMR alone... you don't have to anymore.

💜 A safe place to feel whole again and honor your baby/pregnancy lost to TFMR

💬 Live circles every couple of weeks, REPLAYS always available if you can't make it live

💜 Month-to-month, no long commitment

🌸 Grand opening price: $45/month (going up to $55 on May 11th)

Join us: www.theTFMRdoula.com/join

FREE FACEBOOK GROUP:

Application only, free membership:
http://www.theTFMRdoula.com/facebookgroup

🎙 Want to share your story?
Email Sabrina to be featured on the podcast: sabrina [at] theTFMRdoula [dot] com

Music credit:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
Creative Commons License https://incompetech.com/music/royalty-free/index.html?isrc=USUAN1300036&Search=Search

What TFMR grief does NOT need │ What grief after TFMR actually needs - Part 2 of 3

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Wed, 25 Mar 2026 05:59:00 GMT

‌Sabrina (Fletcher) and Kate (Carson) are back, sharing more about what your grief after TFMR *actually* needs. We're going all the way over to what you DON'T need in your grief after abortion baby loss. If these things have NOT felt like a help to you in your grief, you are not alone, and you are not crazy.

And tune back in to part 3 of 3 next time to hear how we have helped ourselves and our clients not only survive, but LIVE after TFMR, simple and doable.

And in this episode we invite you to check out this space, just for you:

THE TFMR SUPPORT SANCTUARY

If you're carrying the weight of your TFMR alone... you don't have to anymore.

The **TFMR Support Sanctuary** is now open: a monthly community for parents who want ways to release the shame, guilt, and despair of this loss and feel sure and seen in their motherhood, their parenthood, and the love they have for their baby.

💜 A safe place to feel whole again and honor your baby

💬 Live circles every couple of weeks, starting April 2nd

💜 Month-to-month, no long commitment

🌸 Grand opening price: $45/month (going up to $55 on May 1st)

Join us: www.theTFMRdoula.com/join

FREE FACEBOOK GROUP:

Application only, free membership:

http://www.theTFMRdoula.com/facebookgroup

🎙 Want to share your story?

Email Sabrina to be featured on the podcast: sabrina [at] theTFMRdoula [dot] com

Music credit:

Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod

Creative Commons License

https://incompetech.com/music/royalty-free/index.html?isrc=USUAN1300036&Search=Search

When therapy just ISN'T enough │ What grief after TFMR actually needs - Part 1 of 3

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Tue, 24 Mar 2026 05:59:00 GMT

‌In Part 1 of 3 of 'What grief after TFMR *actually* needs,' Sabrina Fletcher brings in Kate Carson. These two TFMR grief experts talk about when therapy isn't enough and why you may be feeling this way. We are talking about when therapy models helps and when therapy models falls short (by no fault of the therapist) and when other supplemental grief spaces are needed.

This is part 1 of 3 of this series so tune back in over the next few days for more on this topic.

IN THIS EPISODE WE ALSO SHARE A SPECIAL INVITATION FOR YOU TO JOIN US IN THE TFMR SUPPORT SANCTUARY:

If you're carrying the weight of your TFMR alone... you don't have to anymore.

💜 A safe place to feel whole again and honor your baby

💬 Live circles every couple of weeks, starting April 2nd

💜 Month-to-month, no long commitment

🌸 Grand opening price: $45/month (going up to $55 on May 1st)

Join us: www.theTFMRdoula.com/join

OTHER SUPPORT ---> FREE FACEBOOK GROUP:

Application only, free membership:

http://www.theTFMRdoula.com/facebookgroup

🎙 Want to share your story?

Email Sabrina to be featured on the podcast: sabrina [at] theTFMRdoula [dot] com

Music credit:

Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod

Creative Commons License

https://incompetech.com/music/royalty-free/index.html?isrc=USUAN1300036&Search=Search

Life after termination for Down Syndrome - Becky's TFMR for T21 story (Part 2 of 2)

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Thu, 19 Mar 2026 05:59:00 GMT

In Part 2 of Becky's story, we pick up after her termination for T21 (Down Syndrome, Trisomy 21) and what life has looked like in the two and a half months since.

Becky talks about how she found the TFMR community... and how even then, she felt alone in her specific diagnosis. She shares what it was like to post her story in a mommy group and have 11 people private message her saying "me too, but don't tell anyone."

Becky talks about what nobody told her about the D&E procedure itself, that it was a two-day process. She talks about grieving loudly while her husband grieved quietly, and the moment she realized he was carrying the pain too, just differently.

Becky closes with words for anyone right now in the thick of a Trisomy 21 diagnosis, deciding whether to end their pregnancy: you're going to be able to breathe again. The first breath will feel like a gasp. But somehow, time marches on.

Thank you, Becky. Your baby boy was here, real, and so fiercely loved. <3

GROUP SUPPORT IN TFMR GRIEF:

If you're carrying the weight of your TFMR alone... you don't have to anymore.

💜 A safe place to feel whole again and honor your baby

💬 Live circles every couple of weeks, starting April 2nd

💜 Month-to-month, no long commitment

🌸 Grand opening price: $45/month (going up to $55 on May 1st)

Join us: www.theTFMRdoula.com/join

FREE FACEBOOK GROUP:

Application only, free membership:
http://www.theTFMRdoula.com/facebookgroup

🎙 Want to share your story?
Contact Sabrina to be featured on the podcast: www.theTFMRdoula.com/podcast

Music credit:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
Creative Commons License https://incompetech.com/music/royalty-free/index.html?isrc=USUAN1300036&Search=Search

Deciding to end pregnancy after Down Syndrome diagnosis - Becky's TFMR story (Part 1 of 2)

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Wed, 18 Mar 2026 05:59:00 GMT

Becky, TFMR mom and mom to one living kid, shares her story of termination for T21. Becky was almost 40 and considering IVF when she found out she was pregnant naturally. She was over the moon to be pregnant. Then came the NIPT call... at work... while she was in front of her classroom. A heartbreaking 93% chance of T21, Trisomy 21.

In Part 1 of 2 of Becky's story, you'll hear how she decided to end her pregnancy after a Down’s Syndrome diagnosis. Becky needed to feel 100% certain before she could move forward. So she got her placenta biopsied, and when the results came back confirmed, she and her husband considered the two potential pictures of their baby's future - and what it would mean for their whole family. They thought about their ages, their firstborn toddler, finances, divorce statistics, and a world that isn't always kind. Even then, Becky was still going back and forth on her decision when more medical information - a poor pregnancy diagnosis for herself as well - also came into play.

Thank you for sharing about your baby boy and his Down Syndrome diagnosis, Becky. <3

GROUP SUPPORT IN TFMR GRIEF:

If you're carrying the weight of your TFMR alone... you don't have to anymore.

💜 A safe place to feel whole again and honor your baby

💬 Live circles every couple of weeks, starting April 2nd

💜 Month-to-month, no long commitment

🌸 Grand opening price: $45/month (going up to $55 on May 1st)

Join us: www.theTFMRdoula.com/join

FREE FACEBOOK GROUP:

Application only, free membership:
http://www.theTFMRdoula.com/facebookgroup

🎙 Want to share your story?
Email Sabrina to be featured on the podcast: sabrina [at] theTFMRdoula [dot] com

Music credit:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
Creative Commons License https://incompetech.com/music/royalty-free/index.html?isrc=USUAN1300036&Search=Search

"Will this ever end?" What's really happening in your TFMR baby loss grief (Part 2 of 2)

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Tue, 10 Feb 2026 05:59:00 GMT

In Part 1, we talked about feeling "stuck" in TFMR grief and how that feeling comes from using old, outdated ideas - using a broken map. In this episode, I'm showing you what's ACTUALLY in these grief waters.

The old grief maps say "here be dragons" - monsters to fight, stages to conquer. But you've actually BEEN to this territory. You know what's really there: manatees (your baby's continuing love, the gentle waves of grief you learn to swim alongside) AND a giant squid (the soul fracture of choosing termination for a wanted baby, the impossible grief that wraps around you in the dark).

The problem? Most people refuse to believe the giant squid exists because they haven't lived it, haven't held their dead baby, haven't named a baby and then had to choose their death. You're not stuck. You're not imagining things. You're navigating waters that don't exist on anyone else's map.

And that's exactly why you need people who've seen the giant squid too.

TFMR GRIEF CIRCLE PROGRAM:
If you're longing for intimate, ongoing group support, apply now for the Ascend TFMR Grief Circle
💜 Small, caring groups of 5–6 people
💬 Honest conversation, healing practices, and community support
🌿 Next Wed. 7pm Eastern time round begins Feb. 18th 2026
👉 Learn more & apply: http://www.theTFMRdoula.com/ascend-apply

Application only, free membership:
http://www.theTFMRdoula.com/facebookgroup

🎙 Want to share your story?
Email Sabrina to be featured on the podcast: sabrina [at] theTFMRdoula [dot] com

Music credit:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
Creative Commons License https://incompetech.com/music/royalty-free/index.html?isrc=USUAN1300036&Search=Search

"Will this ever end?" On feeling 'stuck' in grief of TFMR baby loss (Part 1 of 2)

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Mon, 09 Feb 2026 05:59:00 GMT

If you’ve ever felt like your grief is never-ending, if you worry “will this ever end?” if you feel other people think you are ‘stuck’ in your grief after baby loss, listen in.

I share what that "I feel stuck" feeling may be showing up as after ending a wanted pregnancy. You’ll also hear why the *idea* of being “stuck in grief' feels so prevalent. And you’ll find relief in looking at “stuckness” in a new light.

Application only, free membership:
http://www.theTFMRdoula.com/facebookgroup

🎙 Want to share your story?
Email Sabrina to be featured on the podcast: sabrina [at] theTFMRdoula [dot] com

Music credit:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
Creative Commons License https://incompetech.com/music/royalty-free/index.html?isrc=USUAN1300036&Search=Search

Why "just think positive" doesn't work for TFMR baby loss grief

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Mon, 02 Feb 2026 05:59:00 GMT

You know that feeling when someone tells you to "just be grateful for what you have" and it makes you want to scream? When your own family acts like you should be "over it" by now, so you plaster on a smile and pretend you're fine? If you’ve been feeling so alone after losing your wanted baby, exhausted from putting on a “I’m okay” face, and wondering if you are the problem because positive thinking isn't fixing your shattered heart - listen in <3

This episode breaks down why toxic positivity doesn't just fail to help TFMR baby loss grief - it actively makes it worse. If you've been told to focus on the positive (even trying it yourself) but your grief feels exactly as heavy, this is for you.

Application only, free membership:
http://www.theTFMRdoula.com/facebookgroup

🎙 Want to share your story?
Email Sabrina to be featured on the podcast: sabrina [at] theTFMRdoula [dot] com

Music credit:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
Creative Commons License https://incompetech.com/music/royalty-free/index.html?isrc=USUAN1300036&Search=Search

Megan's grief and healing after molar pregnancy and fertility loss Part 2 of 2

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Thu, 29 Jan 2026 05:59:00 GMT

Megan Tennis' story & journey continues after her molar pregnancy diagnosis and medical interventions. Part 2 of 2 takes us through the cancer treatments that followed, the grief that regular therapy couldn't touch, and how Megan's own experience of feeling unseen and misunderstood in traditional therapy spaces led her to specialize in pregnancy loss counseling.

Megan has created something different: a therapeutic approach specifically for pregnancy loss that actually understands what grieving parents need. She shares what that looks like in this episode and how to help validate your grief after baby loss of all kinds.

This episode is for anyone who's tried traditional therapy after pregnancy loss (especially when it is a “unique” or “rare” or “not talked about” kind of loss -like TFMR-) and felt like something was missing. For those wondering if your grief "should" look different by now. For anyone who's thought "my therapist just doesn't understand this type of loss." Megan's story shows how going through it yourself & professional training can come together to create the support that actually helps.

CONNECT WITH MEGAN TENNIS:

@meganmiscarried on TikTok

Megan is also a licensed clinical professional counselor in Illinois: https://www.advancedbhs.com/megan-tennis-lpc/ and she wants to share the link for the helpful non-profit organization Chasing The Rainbows: https://linktr.ee/chasingtherainbows

TFMR GRIEF CIRCLE PROGRAM STARTING IN FEB. 2026:
If you're longing for intimate, ongoing group support, apply now for the Ascend TFMR Grief Circle
💜 Small, caring groups of 5–6 people
💬 Honest conversation, healing practices, and community support
🌿 Next Wed. 7pm Eastern time round begins Feb. 18th 2026
👉 Learn more & apply: http://www.theTFMRdoula.com/ascend-apply

Application only, free membership:
http://www.theTFMRdoula.com/facebookgroup

🎙 Want to share your story?
Email Sabrina to be featured on the podcast: sabrina [at] theTFMRdoula [dot] com

Music credit:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
Creative Commons License https://incompetech.com/music/royalty-free/index.html?isrc=USUAN1300036&Search=Search

Megan's molar pregnancy loss, two D&C procedures and cancer treatment Part 1 of 2

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Wed, 28 Jan 2026 06:33:08 GMT

Megan's story begins with complications in a wanted pregnancy leading to a life-threatening molar pregnancy diagnosis. A molar pregnancy happens when what should be placenta/baby/pregnancy tissue grows abnormally instead, creating cancerous cells.

For Megan, this meant facing something she never thought would come from pregnancy: becoming a cancer patient. She found herself not only grieving the loss of her pregnancy but also having to do cancer treatments to save her own life.

Listen in to hear the raw reality of making medical pregnancy decisions under crisis conditions. If you’ve felt isolated during fertility and pregnancy health crises (that are just never talked about!)… if you wonder how to survive grieving a pregnancy that needed heartbreaking medical interventions …. if you had to make impossible choices for your body/pregnancy… this episode is for you.

CONNECT WITH MEGAN TENNIS:

@meganmiscarried on TikTok

Application only, free membership:
http://www.theTFMRdoula.com/facebookgroup

🎙 Want to share your story?
Email Sabrina to be featured on the podcast: sabrina [at] theTFMRdoula [dot] com

Music credit:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
Creative Commons License https://incompetech.com/music/royalty-free/index.html?isrc=USUAN1300036&Search=Search

The dark thoughts that nobody talks about after ending a wanted pregnancy (TFMR) for health reasons

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Sun, 28 Dec 2025 05:59:00 GMT

You're not alone if you have tough, scary, horrible thoughts after ending a wanted pregnancy, terminating a wanted pregnancy, having an abortion for medical reasons. When you've lost a baby in pregnancy after a horrible prenatal diagnosis, of course not all your thoughts are cheery and light.

In this episode I talk about some hard thoughts you may be struggling with, and a safe space you could join if you'd like someone to hold you through it.

The thoughts that keep you up at 3am after TFMR aren't talked about in regular grief spaces. They're too raw, too complex, too misunderstood. But having these thoughts doesn't make you a monster… it makes you HUMAN.

In this solo episode, I share 5 of the toughest thoughts TFMR parents carry, from hoping your baby would die naturally to realizing there's no safe time in pregnancy. These aren't easy to hear, but if you've had them, you need to know you're not alone and you're not broken. We hold these thoughts together because that's the only way they become bearable.

Special holiday support package with a 1:1 session AND "Peace of Mind: Audio mindfulness program for TFMR parents" here: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/holiday-support

START 1on1 SUPPORT NOW:
📧 Email me, I want to hear from you: sabrina @ the tfmrdoula . com
📅 If you’ve received a devastating diagnosis and want emotional support through deciding what’s next, book a Decision Support call here: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/decision-support.html
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💜 Join our Facebook group: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/facebookgroup
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Getting through the holidays with love & grief

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Wed, 24 Dec 2025 07:55:54 GMT

Re-released episode, originally from 2023.

Grief can be especially hard around the holidays and through the new year with expectations to be "joyful" and "cheerful." In this episode I answer questions from other TFMR parents in the community about getting through the holidays. You'll hear 4 main tips PLUS an explanation of "Grieving in 4D."

This episode was originally recorded as a live video in the TFMR Support Circle Facebook group. Apply to join us here: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/facebookgroup to listen to episodes early.

Other links mentioned:
Get your free copy of the guide "Self-care in the Grief of TFMR" here: http://www.thetfmrdoula.com/tfmr-self-care

Special holiday support package with a 1:1 session AND "Peace of Mind: Audio mindfulness program for TFMR parents" here: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/holiday-support

START 1on1 SUPPORT NOW:
📧 Email me, I want to hear from you: sabrina @ the tfmrdoula . com
📅 If you’ve received a devastating diagnosis and want emotional support through deciding what’s next, book a Decision Support call here: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/decision-support.html
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‌MORE TFMR GRIEF SUPPORT RESOURCES:
For more TFMR support, join us over on Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/thetfmrdoula
💜 Join our Facebook group: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/facebookgroup
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Email Sabrina sabrina @ the TFMR doula . com to be featured on the podcast
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Life after TFMR for rare genetic diagnosis: Rachel's physical & emotional recovery, and pregnancy after loss PART 2 OF 2

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Fri, 24 Oct 2025 05:59:00 GMT

In Part 2 of 2 of Rachel Polans' TFMR story, we move into what happened after her baby’s rare ‘de novo’ genetic mutation diagnosis. The D&E procedure in Brooklyn, the physical reality of being postpartum without a baby. Rachel talks about what it was like being in a general surgery pre-op area with people there for all kinds of procedures, not a space designed for pregnancy loss.

Rachel shares about the haunting due date, seeing other people who were pregnant at the same time have their babies, and struggling with the medical record that says "elective termination" when that's not what this was at all.

Rachel also opens up about how being a genetic counselor shaped her grief differently - she never even knew the term TFMR existed until after her loss, even though she had counseled families through this exact experience.

If you're postpartum without your baby, if you're struggling with how the medical system names (or doesn’t name) what happened to you, if you work in healthcare and nobody prepared you for living through this yourself, or if you're trying to find your people and don't know what to search for: I hope Rachel's honesty about finding the TFMR community and now navigating pregnancy after loss will help you feel less alone.

Thank you, Rachel, for sharing your baby's story with us 💜

Rachel also wants to share her Instagram profile if you’d like to reach out to her:

https://www.instagram.com/rachel_polans

START 1on1 SUPPORT NOW:

📧 Email me, I want to hear from you: sabrina @ the tfmrdoula . com You can have specific grief support in the heartbreak of TFMR.

📅 If you’ve received a devastating diagnosis and want emotional support through deciding what’s next, book a Decision Support call here: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/decision-support.html

MORE TFMR GRIEF SUPPORT RESOURCES:

For more TFMR support, join us over on Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/thetfmrdoula

💜 Join our Facebook group: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/facebookgroup

🎙 Want to share your story on Our TFMR Stories?
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Rare genetic mutation KAT6B, led Rachel, a genetic counselor, to decide to terminate her wanted pregnancy PART 1 OF 2

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Thu, 23 Oct 2025 05:59:00 GMT

In Part 1 of 2 of this real TFMR story from mother Rachel Polans, we talk about the bad diagnosis that eventually led Rachel to end her wanted pregnancy. After struggles with infertility, IUI treatments, and a chemical pregnancy, Rachel finally got to hear this baby's heartbeat at 6 weeks.

But a later ultrasound scan showed bilateral club feet and led to more testing… 7 weeks of waiting for amniocentesis results… and then the phone call on her husband’s birthday that changed everything: KAT6B gene mutation. A condition so rare there are fewer than 150 cases in the world - and Rachel recognized it because she happened to have a patient with this exact gene.

As a pediatric genetic counselor, Rachel sees families going through these worst-case scenarios every single day. Going through it herself was something else entirely. Rachel's medical knowledge was both a blessing and a curse. It helped her know which tests to ask for, but it also meant she knew what could go awfully, awfully wrong.

If you're waiting for test results right now, if you work in healthcare and this is happening to you, if your body is telling you something's wrong even before the doctors say anything - Rachel's story will help you feel less alone. Thank you, Rachel, for sharing your baby’s story with us 💜

Rachel also wants to share her Instagram profile if you’d like to reach out to her:

https://www.instagram.com/rachel_polans

START 1on1 SUPPORT NOW:

📧 Email me, I want to hear from you: sabrina @ the tfmrdoula . com

📅 If you’ve received a devastating diagnosis and want emotional support through deciding what’s next, book a Decision Support call here: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/decision-support.html

MORE TFMR GRIEF SUPPORT RESOURCES:

For more TFMR support, join us over on Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/thetfmrdoula

💜 Join our Facebook group: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/facebookgroup

🎙 Want to share your story on Our TFMR Stories?
Email Sabrina sabrina @ the TFMR doula . com to be featured on the podcast

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How common actually is TFMR? The hidden numbers might surprise (and comfort) you

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Thu, 16 Oct 2025 05:59:00 GMT

The numbers around TFMR might surprise you and hopefully comfort you too. In this episode, Sabrina Fletcher (hi there, that's me, the TFMR Doula) shares an unofficial but conservative estimate: TFMR happens in approximately 1 in 55 pregnancies. 😲 Surprised? I was too.

And here's the thing: even that number is likely low when you factor in TFMR for maternal health, TFMR for mental health, and procedures performed at abortion clinics that never get counted as TFMR at all.

Why don't we hear about TFMR more if it's this common? So many factors, including needing to stay silent for fear of backlash, grieving parents having to hide behind terms like "pregnancy loss," the political landscape, incorrect tracking/earmarking, stigma, and more.

If you've ever felt alone in this experience, this episode is here to remind you: TFMR is happening far more than we think. You are NOT alone. You are one of many, and your grief is so very valid.

START 1on1 SUPPORT NOW:

📧 Email me, I want to hear from you: sabrina @ the tfmrdoula . com

📅 Book your Decision Support call: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/decision-support.html

MORE TFMR GRIEF SUPPORT RESOURCES:

For more TFMR support, join us over on Instagram: www.instagram.com/thetfmrdoula

💜 Join our Facebook group: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/facebookgroup

🎙 Want to share your story on Our TFMR Stories?
Email Sabrina sabrina @ the TFMR doula . com to be featured on the podcast

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If your pregnancy loss space never mentions TFMR, it's not for 'all'

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Mon, 13 Oct 2025 05:59:01 GMT

If you've ever searched for pregnancy loss support and felt invisible when TFMR isn't mentioned, this episode is for you. Sabrina Fletcher (that’s me, The TFMR Doula) gets real about what it means when baby loss spaces claim to be "for all" but never list termination for medical reasons alongside miscarriage and stillbirth. She shares practical suggestions for grief spaces that want to truly welcome TFMR families: from using the term explicitly in descriptions to moderating stigmatizing comments to highlighting our stories (even anonymously).

This isn't about calling any groups or specific people out. It's about calling them in.

Many broad loss spaces genuinely want to learn how to be better allies, especially during Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month. If you've been looking for language to help others understand why representation matters, or if you run a space yourself and want to support TFMR families better, this episode gives specific steps forward. Because TFMR *IS* pregnancy loss, and we deserve to be named.

START 1on1 SUPPORT NOW:

📧 Email me, I want to hear from you: sabrina @ the tfmrdoula . com

📅 Book you Decision Support call: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/decision-support.html

MORE TFMR GRIEF SUPPORT RESOURCES:

For more TFMR support, join us over on Instagram: www.instagram.com/thetfmrdoula

💜 Join our Facebook group: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/facebookgroup

🎙 Want to share your story on Our TFMR Stories?
Email Sabrina sabrina @ the TFMR doula . com to be featured on the podcast

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"Do I belong in the TFMR community?" (Yes, you do)

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Thu, 09 Oct 2025 05:59:00 GMT

"Do I belong here?" is the question that breaks my heart every time someone asks. If you're wondering whether your TFMR counts, whether your situation is "too different" to fit in our community, whether you'll be welcome here...this episode is for you.

The truth is, the world has already made you question your place in so many spaces. Not here. Here, you belong.

Whether your loss was for your health or your baby's health, whether it was a gray diagnosis or fatal, whether this was your first pregnancy or you have living children, whether you're fresh out or decades past. YOU BELONG. Your story matters. Your baby matters. And we want to hear from you. This is your invitation home.

START 1on1 SUPPORT NOW:

📧 Email me, I want to hear from you: sabrina @ the tfmrdoula . com

📅 Book you Decision Support call: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/decision-support.html

MORE TFMR GRIEF SUPPORT RESOURCES:

http://www.thetfmrdoula.com/everything to see guides, meditations, courses and current group offerings

💜 Join our Facebook group: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/facebookgroup

🎙 Want to share your story on Our TFMR Stories?
Email Sabrina sabrina @ the TFMR doula . com to be featured on the podcast.

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Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
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Worried about your baby suffering? Listen to this | TFMR grief support

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Tue, 07 Oct 2025 05:59:00 GMT

“Will my baby suffer?" This question haunts so many of us through the TFMR baby loss process - whether we're facing the decision right now or wrestling with it months or years later. It's the question that keeps you up at 2am, the one that makes your chest tight, the one nobody else seems to understand why it matters so very deeply.

In this tender solo episode, I share how my daughter Clara came to me in a dream when I asked her this exact question. I talk about how we're STILL parenting our babies through the veil, how ending suffering was an act of protection, and how peace became possible when I was finally seen as the mother I am. If you're asking yourself "will they suffer" or "did they suffer," this episode is for you.

RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

Decision Support Calls with Sabrina: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/decision-support.html
One-on-one TFMR grief support, email Sabrina: sabrina [at] theTFMRdoula [dot] com to get started

🎙 Want to share your story on the podcast?
Email Sabrina to be featured on the podcast: sabrina [at] theTFMRdoula [dot] com

Music credit:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
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From HG TFMR shame to baby loss community: Emily's story (PART 2 of 2)

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Thu, 02 Oct 2025 05:59:00 GMT

Are you struggling with shame about your TFMR? In Part 2 of 2, Emily Cross opens up about the years she spent lying about her hyperemesis gravidarum TFMR, telling people she miscarried instead of admitting she "chose" abortion.

When Emily's third pregnancy resulted in her son Marty, who lived four precious weeks before dying of SIDS, everything changed. Suddenly finding herself in baby loss communities, Emily realized something profound: she qualified. Her TFMR was ALSO real baby loss, deserving of the same grief and support as any other loss.

Emily shares how losing Marty gave her permission to finally grieve her first baby without shame, why there's no hierarchy in baby loss, and how finding her place in the baby loss community changed everything about how she saw her TFMR experience.

LINKS MENTIONED:

Read Emily’s story in this Boston Globe article

MORE TFMR GRIEF SUPPORT RESOURCES:

Send me an email at sabrina @ the tfmr doula . com to get 1on1 support/ a support call. You don’t have to go through this alone.

If you are looking for a kind ear as you decide whether TFMR or carrying to term will be right for you, (or help making a D&E or labor and delivery decision) schedule your Decision Support call here: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/decision-support.html

www.thetfmrdoula.com/resources to see guides, meditations, courses and current group offerings

🎙 Want to share your story?
Email Sabrina to be featured on the podcast: sabrina [at] theTFMRdoula [dot] com

Music credit:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
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When pregnancy could kill you: Emily's termination for hyperemesis gravidarum story (PART 1 of 2)

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Tue, 30 Sep 2025 05:59:00 GMT

Are you facing TFMR due to Hyperemesis gravidarum? Emily Cross shares her experience as a mom who survived two life-threatening HG pregnancies - one ending in TFMR, one resulting in a baby who lived four weeks before dying of SIDS. Listen in to hear how ALL our impossible decisions still make us GOOD mothers.

Emily's first pregnancy started magical (positive test in Paris on New Year's Eve) but quickly became a fight for survival when severe hyperemesis gravidarum left her unable to keep down even water. After losing 20% of her body weight, French doctors still told her "pregnancy isn't an illness" and forced a 7-day wait period. Her privilege allowed her to fly to England for immediate care - a choice that saved her life.

If you're googling "hyperemesis gravidarum TFMR" at 2am, this episode is your lighthouse. Emily shares the moment she knew she had to choose her own survival, what it really feels like when the pregnancy illness stops the second you become "unpregnant," and how she found her way from shame to community after years of not having words for her experience.

LINKS MENTIONED:

Read Emily’s story in this Boston Globe article

MORE TFMR GRIEF SUPPORT RESOURCES:

Send me an email at sabrina @ the tfmr doula . com to get 1on1 support/ a support call. You don’t have to go through this alone.

www.thetfmrdoula.com/resources to see guides, meditations, courses and current group offerings

🎙 Want to share your story?
Email Sabrina to be featured on the podcast: sabrina [at] theTFMRdoula [dot] com

Music credit:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
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Why self-care isn't enough for TFMR baby loss grief (what you ACTUALLY need)

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Wed, 24 Sep 2025 12:44:22 GMT

You're not broken if you’re doing all the “right” self-care things and something still feels like it’s missing after TFMR baby loss. If you're still feeling lonely despite all the bubble baths and journaling, there's nothing wrong with you. You're just needing the other half of healing: community care.

In this solo episode, I share why individual self-care can only take TFMR grief so far, and why community care - especially with other TFMR parents - changes everything.

When you're carrying thoughts and feelings that regular grief groups just don't understand, you need people who can remind you of your goodness, your motherhood, and that you're not losing your mind. We were never meant to grieve alone, and the healing happens faster, deeper, and more completely when we hold it together in community.

There’s still time to join our upcoming GRIEF CIRCLE (starting Sep. 24th! 7pm) if this is the community you’ve been looking for, waiting for. Here’s the link to apply to join us:
https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/ascend-apply

🎙 Want to share your story?
Email Sabrina to be featured on the podcast: sabrina [at] theTFMRdoula [dot] com

Music credit:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
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The questions that keep you up at night as a TFMR parent

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Mon, 22 Sep 2025 05:59:00 GMT

You're not alone in holding impossible questions as a TFMR parent. If you’ve lost a baby to termination for medical reasons and ever found yourself yourself pacing your house asking "am I a monster?" or lying awake wondering "does anyone actually understand?" then this episode is for you.

In this episode, I share why these questions can't be answered in isolation and where to find the community that understands why you're asking them in the first place:

“Will my baby suffer?”
”Am I a monster?”
”How do I survive?”
”Does anyone understand?”

…the questions that haunt TFMR moms and dads.

Because the crux of TFMR grief isn't just losing your baby - it's carrying questions so profound that only other parents who've made this impossible choice can truly hold them with you.

TFMR GRIEF CIRCLE PROGRAM:
If you're longing for intimate, ongoing group support, apply now for the Ascend TFMR Grief Circle
💜 Small, intimate groups of 5–6 people
💬 Honest conversation, healing practices, and community support
🌿 Next Wed. 7pm Eastern time round begins Sep. 24th & 25th 2025
👉 Learn more & apply: http://www.theTFMRdoula.com/ascend-apply

MORE TFMR GRIEF SUPPORT RESOURCES:

www.thetfmrdoula.com/resources to see guides, meditations, courses and current group offerings

🎙 Want to share your story?
Email Sabrina to be featured on the podcast: sabrina [at] theTFMRdoula [dot] com

Music credit:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
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Who joins Ascend TFMR Grief circles - parents like you

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Thu, 18 Sep 2025 05:59:00 GMT

You might be wondering if you belong in a TFMR grief circle. Maybe you're questioning whether your story fits, whether your diagnosis was "severe enough," or whether you'll connect with other parents who made this impossible choice.

The truth is, if you're asking these questions, you probably do belong here.

The parents who join our TFMR grief circles share something profound - we're all mothers and fathers who chose to end suffering, even when the world doesn't understand that choice. You followed your heart and survival through the most impossible decision love has ever asked of you.

Beyond that sacred shared experience, the parents who thrive in our circles tend to be busy but appreciate structure, they are naturally resilient (even when you don't feel it), and deeply kind - both to others and, we hope, eventually to yourselves.

Whether you have living children or are trying to conceive again, whether your diagnosis was chromosomal or structural, for you or baby, whether you're weeks or years out from your loss - your story matters here. You matter here.

🎙 Want to share your story?
Email Sabrina to be featured on the podcast: sabrina [at] theTFMRdoula [dot] com

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Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
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Finally a space where TFMR parents can say everything out loud | Circles open now

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Mon, 15 Sep 2025 05:59:01 GMT

When TFMR parents find out about Ascend, they don't ask about the curriculum or the healing frameworks. They ask: "Will there be other people like me? Can I finally say everything out loud? Will someone understand when I talk about my baby?"

Other parents like you share what they're most looking forward to in our grief circle: They were about connection in this tough abortion baby loss, having permission to speak their baby's name without explaining themselves and being able to SHARE their TFMR stories without judgement.

TFMR GRIEF CIRCLE PROGRAM:
If you're longing for intimate, ongoing group support, apply now for the Ascend TFMR Grief Circle
💜 Small, intimate groups of 5–6 people
💬 Honest conversation, healing practices, and community support
🌿 Next Wed. 7pm Eastern time round begins Spe. 24th 2025
👉 Learn more & apply: http://www.theTFMRdoula.com/ascend-apply

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Application only, free membership:
http://www.theTFMRdoula.com/facebookgroup

🎙 Want to share your story?
Email Sabrina to be featured on the podcast: sabrina [at] theTFMRdoula [dot] com

Music credit:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
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YES back to school IS as hard as it feels after TFMR baby loss

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Mon, 08 Sep 2025 05:59:00 GMT

If the back-to-school season has you feeling like you’re drowning, this episode is for you.

If September is hitting you like a freight train of grief, you're not imagining alone. Even if your baby's condition was fatal, even if you live somewhere without fall school starts - this season carries a weight that others can't see. The anger, the longing, the guilt over feeling joy while grieving the school years that will never come for THIS BABY…all of those feelings are valid, and all of it makes perfect sense.

There's a reason why back-to-school grief cuts so deep for TFMR families, and it has everything to do with a truth about love that death can't touch. When you understand what's really happening in your heart during these triggered moments, the pain doesn't disappear, but finally, FINALLY, it makes sense. Listen in to hear WHY back to school time IS as hard as it feels after termination baby loss.

TFMR GRIEF CIRCLE PROGRAM:
If you're longing for intimate, ongoing group support, apply now for the Ascend TFMR Grief Circle
💜 Small, intimate groups of 5–6 people
💬 Authentic connection with TFMR parents, healing practices, and community support
🌿 Next Wed. 7pm Eastern time round begins Sep. 24th, Thurs. 11am Eastern/4pm U.K. begins Sep. 25th
👉 Learn more & apply: http://www.theTFMRdoula.com/ascend-apply

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Application only, free membership:
http://www.theTFMRdoula.com/facebookgroup

🎙 Want to share your story?
Email Sabrina to be featured on the podcast: sabrina [at] theTFMRdoula [dot] com

Music credit:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
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Supporting Surviving Siblings after TFMR with Jessica Correnti

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Mon, 25 Aug 2025 05:59:00 GMT

When you’re going through your own TFMR grief while trying to protect and support your living children, it can feel impossible to know what's "right." How much do you share? What's too much? What if you say the wrong thing?

Jessica Correnti, Certified Child Life Specialist, author and fellow baby loss mom, joins us to talk through the tender territory of supporting surviving siblings after TFMR. If you've been walking on eggshells around your kids, wondering how to honor their baby sibling while protecting their innocence, this conversation will give you both permission and practical tools.

In this episode, we explore:

The surprising ways children process grief (hint: it might look nothing like adult grief)
Why kids need repetition and play to work through loss
Age-appropriate ways to talk about the baby who died without overwhelming young minds
One gentle first step overwhelmed parents can take today to support their child's grief journey
What TFMR parents need to hear most when supporting living children through this loss

Jessica's wisdom will help you trust your instincts while giving your surviving children the space and support they need to process this profound loss in their own way.

Resources mentioned:

The ABCs of Grief by Jessica Correnti
The ABCs of Grief: Emotions & Feelings by Jessica Correnti
Forever Connected by Jessica Correnti
Por Siempre Conectados (Spanish translation) by Jessica Correnti

More about all her books here: https://www.kidsgriefsupport.com/childrensgriefbooks

MORE TFMR GRIEF SUPPORT RESOURCES:

www.thetfmrdoula.com/resources to see guides, meditations, courses and current group offerings

🎙 Want to share your story?
Email Sabrina to be featured on the podcast: sabrina [at] theTFMRdoula [dot] com

Music credit:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
Creative Commons License
Links: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaea
License: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

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Examination of repro care in the U.S.: Rebecca Little and Colleen Long talk about their book "I'm Sorry For My Loss"

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Thu, 31 Jul 2025 05:59:00 GMT

Rebecca Little and Colleen Long join us to discuss their powerful book "I'm Sorry for My Loss: An Urgent Examination of Reproductive Care in America." Rebecca and Colleen are two lifelong friends and both journalists who've experienced devastating pregnancy losses. This book is an investigation into why reproductive care in America is so broken; their findings are both heartbreaking and essential.

Rebecca experienced six pregnancies: 2 uneventful pregnancies of her oldest living kids followed by chemical pregnancy, missed miscarriage at 8 weeks, stillbirth in 2014 and TFMR of twins at 23 weeks for a fatal heart condition, followed by a life-threatening uterine rupture that nearly killed her. Colleen lost her first baby to stillbirth in 2012 and has two living kids. Together, they've created the book they wish they'd had: one that doesn't just offer comfort, but also asks the hard questions:

Why are we so bad at grief?

Why is our language so limited?

Why aren't we even researching women's reproductive health?

This conversation goes deep into the impossible navigation of TFMR grief when neither "pro-choice" nor "pro-life" language fits your experience. We explore how “the myth of control over pregnancy” leaves families isolated when things go wrong, and why having language that fits your loss can be life-changing.

RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

For more on their book, find Rebecca and Colleen here: https://www.alittlelong.com/

And on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/imsorryformylossbook/

Get the book here: https://bookshop.org/p/books/i-m-sorry-for-my-loss-undoing-our-cultural-ignorance-around-pregnancies-that-end-without-a-baby-rebecca-little/20974919 or here: https://www.amazon.com/Im-Sorry-Loss-Examination-Reproductive/dp/1728292786

MORE TFMR GRIEF SUPPORT RESOURCES:

www.thetfmrdoula.com/resources to see guides, meditations, courses and current group offerings

🎙 Want to share your story?
Email Sabrina to be featured on the podcast: sabrina [at] theTFMRdoula [dot] com

Music credit:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
Creative Commons License
Links: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaea
License: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

Christina had a TFMR after a fatal fetal diagnosis. This is her baby boy's Trisomy 13 story.

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Mon, 23 Jun 2025 05:59:00 GMT

Christina's story is about the fierce love that guides us through impossible choices. When she received her baby Oliver's Trisomy 13 diagnosis, she didn't just face a medical decision. She faced a profound act of mothering that would challenge everything she thought she knew about love, protection, and what it means to care for your child.

Christina opens her heart about navigating a fatal fetal diagnosis as a first-time mom in Ontario, Canada. Her wisdom about values, language, and the misunderstood reality of TFMR will leave you feeling less alone and more grounded in your own truth.

If you've ever struggled with explaining your TFMR decision to others, or if you're searching for that centered knowing Christina has found so early in her grief, this episode is medicine for your heart. Thank you, Christina <3

MORE TFMR GRIEF SUPPORT RESOURCES:

www.thetfmrdoula.com/resources to see guides, meditations, courses and current group offerings

RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

www.reddit.com/r/nipt for during the decision period www.reddit.com/r/tfmrsupport For anonymous grief support after TFMR

OTHER CLOSED TFMR GROUPS:

www.thetfmrdoula.com/facebookgroup TFMR Support Circle

www.endingawantedpregnancy.com Ending a Wanted Pregnancy

🎙 Want to share your story?
Email Sabrina to be featured on the podcast: sabrina [at] theTFMRdoula [dot] com

Music credit:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
Creative Commons License
Links: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaea
License: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

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#TFMR #Trisomy13 #Patausyndrome #babyloss #griefsupport

Are you "grief stage shaming" yourself?

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Mon, 09 Jun 2025 05:59:00 GMT

Have you ever shamed yourself for not being "further along" or "done" with the "stages of grief"? If so, this episode is for you.

Learn the TRUE history of the "5 Stages of Grief" and about a gentle, holistic, and humane alternative grief model - especially important for those of us who have lost a baby in such a tragic and heartbreaking way as abortion termination baby loss.

TFMR GRIEF CIRCLE PROGRAM:
If you're longing for intimate, ongoing group support, apply now for the Ascend TFMR Grief Circle
💜 Small, intimate groups of 5–6 people
💬 Honest conversation, healing practices, and community support
🌿 Next Wed. 7pm Eastern time round begins June 11th 2025
👉 Learn more & apply: www.theTFMRdoula.com/ascend-apply

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Application only, free membership:
www.theTFMRdoula.com/facebookgroup

🎙 Want to share your story?
Email Sabrina to be featured on the podcast: sabrina [at] theTFMRdoula [dot] com

Music credit:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
Creative Commons License
Links: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaea
License: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

Lack of care & politicization of TFMR pregnancy loss with Linda Rönn, author of Behind Bulletproof Glass

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Mon, 02 Jun 2025 05:59:00 GMT

Linda Rönn is a TFMR mom and author of “Behind Bulletproof Glass: My Story About Prenatal Testing and Abortion in the United States.”

Linda tells her story of the lack of care surrounding TFMR and how taboo the whole process was of going through her loss in the U.S. She also share her cross-cultural observations, comparing the Swedish approach to what happens in the U.S.A.

Connect with Linda on IG:https://www.instagram.com/_lindaronn/

Book available on Amazon and all major publishers:

Amazon.com

Bookshop.org

Goodreads.com

LOOKING FOR GROUP SUPPORT? JOIN OUR UPCOMING TFMR GRIEF CIRCLE PROGRAM:
Next rounds of our TFMR Grief Circle program starting soon. Apply now to save your spot in our group grief support program (small intimate groups of 5 or 6 max)

If you are a bereaved TFMR parent looking for group grief support, here’s the link to check out our upcoming grief circles : https://www.theTFMRdoula.com/ascend-apply

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And if you would like to share your TFMR Story on "Our TFMR Stories," email me here to find out more: sabrina at theTFMRdoula dot com

Music clip:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
Link: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaea
License: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

The HEAVINESS of self-blame, doubt & guilt

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Mon, 26 May 2025 05:59:00 GMT

If you feel like you are drowning in guilt, self-blame, and an endless loop of “what ifs" after making the heartbreaking decision to end a wanted pregnancy, this episode is for you.

Sabrina Fletcher, the TFMR -Termination For Medical Reasons- pregnancy loss doula, explores why these feelings show up and how they’re rooted in deep love, your desire to be a good parent, and your hunger for true community support.

If you're looking for support in the guilt, doubt and self-blame after TFMR (abortion of a wanted pregnancy after a poor prenatal diagnosis), this episode brings deep validation and real tools for healing.

You are also INVITED to join our TFMR GRIEF CIRCLE PROGRAM:
If you're longing for intimate, ongoing group support, apply now for the Ascend TFMR Grief Circle
💜 Small, intimate groups of 5–6 people
💬 Honest conversation, healing practices, and community support
🌿 Next round begins June 2025

👉 Learn more & apply: www.theTFMRdoula.com/ascend-apply

This episode was recorded inside the closed, screened free Facebook group, the TFMR Support Circle. To get access to early releases of podcast episodes and the support community, apply here:
www.theTFMRdoula.com/facebookgroup

🎙 Want to share your story?
Email Sabrina to be featured on the podcast: sabrina [at] theTFMRdoula [dot] com

Music credit:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
Creative Commons License
Listen here

Forgiving yourself after baby loss with Amy Watson

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Mon, 19 May 2025 05:59:00 GMT

On forgiveness and forgiving yourself after TFMR baby loss with Amy Watson. Amy is a certified Life Coach and also a mom who has walked through stillbirth, miscarriage and pregnancy after loss. You may know her from her podcast, Smooth Stones, Find Yourself After Miscarriage, Stillbirth and Baby Loss.

Connect with Amy at:

Learn more at https://smoothstonescoaching.com

https://smoothstonescoaching.com/getsupport

instagram.com/smoothstonescoaching

LOOKING FOR TFMR SPECIFIC SUPPORT?:

Our TFMR Grief Circle program is now enrolling. Save your spot in our group grief support program (small intimate groups of 5 or 6 max)

If you are a bereaved TFMR parent looking for group grief support, here’s the link to check out our upcoming grief circles: https://www.theTFMRdoula.com/ascend-apply

And if you would like to share your TFMR Story on "Our TFMR Stories," email me here to find out more: sabrina at theTFMRdoula dot com

Music clip:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
Link: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaea
License: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

Touch your trauma gently–on sand tray therapy for TFMR with Lacey Castilleja Fisher

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Sat, 12 Apr 2025 06:00:00 GMT

Lacey Castilleja Fisher, Licensed Professional Counselor, Play Therapist Perinatal Mental Health-Certification, talks about how sand tray therapy can help you through the trauma of TFMR baby loss. Lacey runs Open Heart Counseling of Austin, TX and we also talk about the state of perinatal mental health support in Texas.

Connect with Lacey at:
www.openheartcounselingatx.com
FB and IG: @‌openheartcounselingofaustin

Quote about creativity and letting it live outside your body from writer Iya Ehime Ora https://ehimeora.com/

ATTENTION PERINATAL MENTAL HEATLH PROVIDERS! Lacey has a new offering so you can start to learn how to use sand tray therapy with your clients too, check it out here: http://www.openheartcounselingatx.com/store/p2/sandtray-trauma-loss-PHMC.html

GROUP GRIEF SUPPORT: You are invited to Ascend, a TFMR Grief Circle program. This online group support is for you if you’re looking to learn to cope with grief, honor your baby and your deep love for them and come away with skills to heal the trauma that comes with the heartbreaking loss of ending a beloved pregnancy

All while finally feeling seen in a compassionate community of grieving parents just like you. http://www.thetfmrdoula.com/acend-apply to apply to join.

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And if you would like to share your TFMR Story on "Our TFMR Stories," email me here to find out more: sabrina at theTFMRdoula dot com

Music clip:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
Link: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaea
License: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

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Marriage after TFMR: Rebuilding connection after loss with Laura Amador, relationship coach

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Sat, 08 Feb 2025 19:09:06 GMT

Communication ideas for romantic, heterosexual couples after/through baby loss. Laura Amador, a Laura Doyle certified relationship coach shares 3 insightful ways to take care of your grief and bring you closer to your partner.

You can find the guide "5 Steps to Reignite Connection in Your Marriage" that Laura Amador mentions in the episode here:
https://www.coachlauraamador.com/5steps/?ref=SABRINAFLETCHER (My affiliate link)

Another highly recommended resources:
The Empowered Wife, book by Laura Doylehttps://www.amazon.com/Empowered-Wife-Updated-Expanded-Surprising/dp/1637742266

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TAMING TFMR TRIGGERS
www.thetfmrdoula.com/triggers

Having the first drink of beer or coffee after you lose your baby...

Trying to connect again with your partner through sggsy time...

Going on the pre-planned "baby moon", but without your bump...

Your clothes fitting differently, finding the baby clothes you bought with so much hope, even YOUR PARTNER not needing to change their clothes!!...

All of these things and more can be a trigger after TFMR (termination for medical reasons) pregnancy loss.

I went through it too after I lost my baby - there was even this one water glass that I always used to super hydrate in pregnancy. After my baby was gone that glass made me feel ill just looking at it. I wanted to smash it on the floor, run away from it and simultaneously enshrine it as a tiny memory with her - but it was wrapped in in SO MUCH PAIN.

The triggers come from the pain, this ache, this desire and longing for our baby, but pop up at the LEAST convenient time.

When you just want to drink a coffee and put on some pants in PEACE!!!

I found that talking about the triggers in therapy, writing about them, thinking about how I could fix them logically, did not help.

There's a direct line to the triggers, and it's in a place you can tap into -in the moment - to come back to your center too: the body.

After I learned how to do this, I was able to drink coffee again, see pregnant bellies, even go to the gynecologist, without panic attacks and falling down on the ground in a bundle of tears.

I'm going to show you how I do this in Taming TFMR Triggers, a workshop I am putting together for you and holding LIVE on Monday, February 10th.

Here's the link again to sign up
www.thetfmrdoula.com/triggers ($11 USD) live or catch the replay after Feb. 10th
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And if you would like to shareyour TFMR Story on "Our TFMR Stories," email me here to find out more: sabrina at theTFMRdoula dot com

And for more support follow atwww.instagram.com/thetfmrdoula

Music clip:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
Link:https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaea
License:http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

Amanda healed the SILENCE around TFMR in the Ascend Grief Circle - her story

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Mon, 02 Dec 2024 05:00:00 GMT

"I was searching for a community where I could talk to people without feeling judged. A safe space where I didn't have to explain myself." -Amanda, TFMR for rare genetic condition mom shares her story of her time in our Ascend TFMR Grief Circle program. Listen in to hear her TFMR story and how she moved from feeling blame and silenced to fully held and supported through talking part in our online small group support space.

SPONSORED BY THE TFMR GRIEF CIRCLE PROGRAM, ASCEND:

If you are a bereaved TFMR parent like Amanda looking for group grief support to heal the silence and stigma and loneliness of this often misunderstood baby loss, our upcoming grief circles start in December 2024 https://www.theTFMRdoula.com/ascend-apply <--- to apply

And if you would like to share your TFMR Story on "Our TFMR Stories," email me here to find out more: sabrina at theTFMRdoula dot com

Music clip:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
Link: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaea
License: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

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Hurtful myths about TFMR & how to heal from these misconceptions

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Mon, 11 Nov 2024 05:59:00 GMT

In this episode you’ll hear about 3 big hurtful myths/misconceptions about TFMR & how we can take healing into our own hands in the face of so much misunderstanding about our heartbreaking choices.

00:00-Intro

01:56-Myth 1, looking for a perfect pregnancy

04:59-Myth 2, taking the easy way out

14:24-Myth 3, it's just an abortion or it's not really an abortion

23:53-Invitation to the conference

You are also INVITED:

FREE INVITATION THE 1st EVER -- SURVIVE TO THRIVE AFTER TFMR PREGNANCY LOSS ONLINE CONFERENCE

You’re invited to the Survive and Thrive after TFMR virtual conference, a 3-day live event. Bringing together 15+ speakers: grief experts, therapists, bereavement doulas, authors and holistic healers, all sharing their wisdom and love on healing and coping with the grief of losing a wanted baby to TFMR.

November 13th through the 15th.
http://www.thetfmrdoula.com/conference to sign up for free

Each day we will release videos and talks, and replays will be available through Sunday November 17th.

This online conference is for you if you’re looking to learn to cope with grief, honor your baby and your deep love for them and come away with skills to heal the trauma that comes with the heartbreaking loss of ending a beloved pregnancy

All while finally feeling seen in a compassionate community of grieving parents just like you.

And another offering for you:

JOIN OUR UPCOMING TFMR GRIEF CIRCLE PROGRAM

Next rounds of our TFMR Grief Circle program starting in December. Apply now to save your spot in our group grief support program (small intimate groups of 5 or 6 max)

If you are a bereaved TFMR parent looking for group grief support, here’s the link to check out our upcoming grief circles starting in December 2024 https://www.theTFMRdoula.com/ascend-apply

And if you would like to share your TFMR Story on "Our TFMR Stories," email me here to find out more: sabrina at theTFMRdoula dot com

Music clip:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
Link: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaea
License: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

Emotional and physical recovery after TFMR through the pelvic floor with Tenae Bascherini

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Mon, 04 Nov 2024 05:59:00 GMT

Tenae Bascherini, pelvic floor and core specialist, shares about the layers of emotional and physical recovery after TFMR. She went through termination for medical reasons herself with her son Kaleo, in the second trimester of pregnancy. We talk about some surprising and seemingly “unrelated to the pelvis” areas of the body where a pelvic floor imbalance may be showing up for you.

You can find Tenae at
instagram.com/tenaebascherini

And her Embrace Journey pelvic floor recovery program at: www.trainingwithtenae.com

FREE INVITATION THE 1st EVER -- SURVIVE TO THRIVE AFTER TFMR PREGNANCY LOSS ONLINE CONFERENCE:

You’re invited to the Survive and Thrive after TFMR virtual conference, a 3-day live event. Bringing together 15 speakers: grief experts, therapists, bereavement doulas, authors and holistic healers, all sharing their wisdom and love and care with us.

November 13th through the 15th.
http://www.thetfmrdoula.com/conference to sign up for free

Each day we will release videos and talks, and replays will be available through Sunday November 17th.

This online conference is for you of you’re looking to learn to cope with grief, honor your baby and your deep love for them and come away with skills to heal the trauma that comes with the heartbreaking loss of ending a beloved pregnancy

All while finally feeling seen in a compassionate community of grieving parents just like you.

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And if you would like to share your TFMR Story on "Our TFMR Stories," email me here to find out more: sabrina at theTFMRdoula dot com

And for more support follow at www.instagram.com/thetfmrdoula

Music clip:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
Link: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaea
License: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

TFMR IS a disability issue with Ali Emerald, TFMR for maternal health reasons

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Fri, 25 Oct 2024 05:58:34 GMT

After Ali Emerald lost her baby Paris to TFMR for maternal reasons, she went on to become a somatic embodiment coach to help herself and others work through trauma and grief. Ali’s pregnancy set in motion conditions that led her to need an organ transplant.

In this episode we talk about the intersection between disability rights and reproductive justice.

You can find her at www.instagram.com/thealiemerald

You can also find her as the resident trauma informed yoga instructor in the pregnancy loss app Loss to Love

FREE INVITATION THE 1st EVER -- SURVIVE TO THRIVE AFTER TFMR PREGNANCY LOSS ONLINE CONFERENCE:

November 13th through the 15th.
http://www.thetfmrdoula.com/conference to sign up for free

Each day we will release videos and talks, and replays will be available through Sunday November 17th.

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And if you would like to share your TFMR Story on "Our TFMR Stories," email me here to find out more: sabrina at theTFMRdoula dot com

Music clip:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
Link: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaea
License: https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

Caring for your mental health in crisis times with Erica Rozmid, TFMR Psychologist

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Mon, 07 Oct 2024 05:00:00 GMT

Erica Rozmid, board certified behavioral psychologist and perinatal mental health certified, also known as TFMR Psychologist on her platforms, shares doable tips for when you are in mental health crisis after TFMR. The skills she generously relays in this episode are just a piece of what she's putting together in a mental health course for those who have had to terminate a wanted pregnancy, follow her and find out more here:

www.tfmrpsychologist.com
&
www.instagram.com/tfmrpsychologist
&
Co-host of ‌Grief Street podcast on all platforms

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Today's episode is sponsored by:
"A way through After TFMR: your 3-part Survive to Thrive Plan", a live workshop on (RESCHEDULED) October 17th, 2024 at Noon Eastern time.

www.thetfmrdoula.com/yourplan to sign up for free. Replay will be available, so sign up even if you can't make it live.

This workshop is for you if you're feeling afraid you'll never feel "okay" again and don't know where to start/ don't know what it means for you to "grieve". This is the class for you if your grief is feeling super scary and overwhelming and you're looking for tools to help you grow around grief.
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And if you would like to share your TFMR Story on "Our TFMR Stories," email me here to find out more: sabrina at theTFMRdoula dot com

Music clip:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
Link: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaea
License: https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

Research on TFMR & queer family making. Dr. E Goldblatt Hyatt shares their findings on best psychological outcomes in TFMR & advocating for LGBTQ+ families in our communities 🌈

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Tue, 24 Sep 2024 20:54:52 GMT

Today we have Dr. E Goldblatt Hyatt on the podcast with us. They are an associate professor at Rutgers University in New Jersey. Dr. Goldblatt Hyatt is also a private practice clinician focusing on baby loss and TFMR. We'll be talking about their research on TFMR and queer family making.

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Today's episode is sponsored by:
"A way through After TFMR: your 3-part Survive to Thrive Plan", a live workshop on October 10th, 2024 at Noon Eastern time.

www.thetfmrdoula.com/yourplan to sign up for free. Replay will be available, so sign up even if you can't make it live.

Make sure to follow Dr. E at
instagram.com/dr_tfmr
and get updates on research at tfmr.org

Resources mentioned:
‌Return to Zero - Hope rtzhope.org
Postpartum Support International (PSI) postpartum.net
Pregnancy After Loss Support pregnancyafterlosssupport.org
PUSH to end preventable stillbirth pushpregnancy.org

And if you would like to share your TFMR Story on "Our TFMR Stories," email me here to find out more: sabrina at theTFMRdoula dot com

Music clip:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
Link: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaea
License: https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

To tell or not to tell - when to share your TFMR story

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Mon, 09 Sep 2024 05:00:00 GMT

“How will I know when I’m ready to share my TFMR story and where and how should I share it?” We go into when and how and where you could decide to tell or NOT tell your story of ending your precious pregnancy for health reasons in this episode.

SPONSORED BY THE TFMR GRIEF CIRCLE PROGRAM, ASCEND:

If you are a bereaved TFMR parent looking for group grief support, I invite you to check out our upcoming grief circles starting in September 2024 https://www.theTFMRdoula.com/ascend-apply

And if you would like to share your TFMR Story on "Our TFMR Stories," email me here to find out more: sabrina at theTFMRdoula dot com

Music clip:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
Link: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaea
License: https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

Terminating a wanted pregnancy led to advocacy. Riata shares her story of her baby Riana's diagnosis of Tetralogy of Fallot and AVSD heart defect.

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Mon, 19 Aug 2024 05:59:00 GMT

Riata shares her story of her baby Riana and the diagnosis of Tetralogy of Fallot and Atrioventricular septal defect (AVSD, a heart defect) and T21. Riata was 29 at the time of this first pregnancy. She had to travel for care, due to living in a very rural part of Wyoming.

Riata wishes to share her story to remind those opposed to abortion that abortion bans affect more than their propaganda "poster child" of abortion. It doesn't discriminate by demographics, religious affiliation, political party, or social status - because it is healthcare!

Riata has also shared her story in an advocacy manner in other publications:

https://www.nytimes.com/.../27/us/abortion-women-tfmr.html

https://www.cbsnews.com/amp/news/roe-v-wade-reversal-brings-uncertainty-in-states-with-trigger-laws/

Resources mentioned:
1.“Releasing a Wanted Pregnancy” TFMR support & resources pamphlet. Free download here: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/pamphlet

2.The TFMR Support Circle, our free Facebook group for termination for medical reasons (TFMR) parents. Apply to join here: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/facebookgroup

And if you would like to share your TFMR Story on "Our TFMR Stories," email me here to find out more: sabrina at theTFMRdoula dot com

Music clip:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
Link: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaea
License: https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

Journaling & writing to honor all our losses and babies. Carmen Grover, author of A Diary to My Babies, shares her story of 5 separate miscarriages and 2 TFMRs.

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Mon, 05 Aug 2024 05:59:00 GMT

Carmen Grover is mom to 11 babies, 4 earthside and 7 in her heart. These are their names in order: Amity, Will, Kaia, Baby G, Case, Maelie, Butterfly Baby, Jude, Aida, Zach, and Charlotte. She is the author of A Diary to My Babies and the journal companion to that grief memoir, A Diary to Our Babies. Two of her losses have been to TFMR and she's come on today to talk about her babies and these resources that she's created for the loss community.

Ebook versions available on all the typical platforms and Amazon https://www.amazon.com/Diary-My-Babies-Journeying-Pregnancy/dp/1772584231

Carmen has also graciously gifted our listeners with a free copy of A Diary to My Babies if you’d like just the PDF. You can claim your copy by emailing her here: carmen_dirven@hotmail.com

EPISODE SPONSORED BY OUR UPCOMING TFMR GRIEF CIRCLE PROGRAM:

Starting in just a few days!! Apply now to save your spot in our group grief support program (small intimate groups of 5 or 6 max)

If you are a bereaved TFMR parent looking for group grief support, here’s the link to check out our upcoming grief circles starting in August 2024 https://www.theTFMRdoula.com/ascend-apply

And if you would like to share your TFMR Story on "Our TFMR Stories," email me here to find out more: sabrina at theTFMRdoula dot com

Music clip:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
Link: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaea
License: https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

When TFMR is for YOUR health. Marie-Laure shares how she lost her baby Juliette to early onset preeclampsia.

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Mon, 22 Jul 2024 05:59:00 GMT

When TFMR is for YOUR health, also called Termination for Maternal Health or Termination for the Pregnant Person’s Health, it can bring an extra layer of survivor’s guilt. Marie-Laure shares how she lost her baby Juliette to early onset preeclampsia with severe features and IUGR (intrauterine growth restriction). Her symptoms became more pronounced around 22 to 24 weeks pregnant. She shares the roller coaster of her illness and diagnosis and end of the pregnancy with Juliette.

TFMR for maternal health can feel less represented in the ending a wanted pregnancy space - let’s talk about it!

You can also find out more about Marie-Laure and follow along with her story and get support at She Isn’t a Taboo instagram page https://www.instagram.com/she_isnt_a_taboo/

Resources mentioned:
1. The TFMR Support Circle, our free Facebook group for termination for medical reasons (TFMR) parents. Apply to join here: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/facebookgroup

2.The TFMR Doula instagram page www.instagram.com/thetfmrdoula

Grief circle info:

If you are a bereaved TFMR parent looking for group grief support, I invite you to check out our upcoming grief circles starting in August 2024 https://www.theTFMRdoula.com/ascend-apply

And if you would like to share your TFMR Story on "Our TFMR Stories," email me here to find out more: sabrina at theTFMRdoula dot com

Music clip:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
Link: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaea
License: https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

Termination for anencephaly. Samantha explains how this loss has impacted her relationships and spirituality.

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Mon, 08 Jul 2024 05:59:00 GMT

Samantha is a TFMR mom who lost her second daughter to anencephaly at 17 weeks pregnant. She came on today to share how this great loss has shifted her relationships and beliefs.

Resources mentioned:
1. ASCEND TFMR Grief Circle - If you are a bereaved TFMR parent looking for group grief support, I invite you to check out our upcoming grief circles starting in August 2024 https://www.theTFMRdoula.com/ascend-apply

2. The TFMR Support Circle, our free Facebook group for termination for medical reasons (TFMR) parents. Apply to join here: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/facebookgroup

And if you would like to share your TFMR Story on "Our TFMR Stories," email me here to find out more: sabrina at theTFMRdoula dot com

Music clip:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
Link: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaea
License: https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

A book of TFMR stories & why these stories NEED to be told w/ Ale Muñoz, co-author & editor of Flowers in Our Womb

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Mon, 24 Jun 2024 05:59:00 GMT

Ale Muñoz, co-author and editor of TFMR story anthology “Flowers in Our Womb” shares the inspiration behind this book and why sharing your own story of TFMR pregnancy loss can be so transformative.

Find Flowers in Our Womb on Amazon in Kindle (e-book), paperback, and hardcover https://a.co/d/5jAa5eF

Resources mentioned:
1.“Releasing a Wanted Pregnancy” TFMR support & resources pamphlet. Free download here: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/pamphlet

2.The TFMR Support Circle, our free Facebook group for termination for medical reasons (TFMR) parents. Apply to join here: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/facebookgroup

Grief circle info:

If you are a bereaved TFMR parent looking for group grief support, I invite you to check out our upcoming grief circles starting in August 2024 https://www.theTFMRdoula.com/ascend-apply

And if you would like to share your TFMR Story on "Our TFMR Stories," email me here to find out more: sabrina at theTFMRdoula dot com

Music clip:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
Link: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaea
License: https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

Back to work in high-risk maternal and perinatal postpartum healthcare after TFMR with Alissa, mother to Seamus

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Mon, 10 Jun 2024 05:59:00 GMT

Alissa shares how she got a “grey” diagnosis (a term for a condition that could be survivable through fatal, on a spectrum of outcomes) for her baby in her second trimester which led to a decision to end her wanted pregnancy. As a postpartum and high-risk NICU and PICU healthcare worker herself, she felt that her prior knowledge and vicarious lived experience helped her make an informed choice with her baby.

She talks about going back to work after pregnancy loss, and how she continues to advocate for her clients in all their medical decisions and in their grief in their own pregnancy, baby and infant losses.

Resources mentioned:
1.“Releasing a Wanted Pregnancy” TFMR support & resources pamphlet. Free download here: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/pamphlet

2.The TFMR Support Circle, our free Facebook group for termination for medical reasons (TFMR) parents. Apply to join here: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/facebookgroup

Grief circle info:

If you are a bereaved TFMR parent looking for group grief support, I invite you to check out our upcoming grief circles starting in August 2024 https://www.theTFMRdoula.com/ascend-apply

And if you would like to share your TFMR Story on "Our TFMR Stories," email me here to find out more: sabrina at theTFMRdoula dot com

Music clip:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
Link: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaea
License: https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

Ending a wanted pregnancy for T21. Plus IVF and pregnancy after loss. Becky shares her story

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Fri, 03 May 2024 10:17:58 GMT

Becky shares her story of IVF and embryo loss followed by TFMR for Down’s Syndrome. After all the fertility challenges, she was able to get pregnant again with what is currently a healthy pregnancy. Listen in to her journey through pregnancy after TFMR and how she lives with grief and hope at the same time.

Resources mentioned:
The TFMR Support Circle, our free Facebook group for termination for medical reasons (TFMR) parents which you can apply to join here: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/facebookgroup

Grief circle info:

If you are a bereaved TFMR parent looking for group grief support, I invite you to check out our upcoming grief circles starting in May 2024 https://www.theTFMRdoula.com/ascend-apply

And if you would like to share your TFMR Story on "Our TFMR Stories," email me here to find out more: sabrina at theTFMRdoula dot com

Music clip:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
Link: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaea
License: https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

Healing through story & body practices after TFMR, fertility loss, recurrent miscarriage and stillbirth. Jenn Hepton shares her wisdom with us.

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Fri, 26 Apr 2024 16:39:23 GMT

Jenn Hepton, parenting coach and founder of Motherhood Redefined + Loss in Transition shares her story of losing twins to TFMR, her other fertility and miscarriage losses and stillbirth of baby Loey.

Even through all these tragic losses, Jenn shares light and healing through EFT, the "T.I.M.E. technique" and hypnobreathwork - practices she has used herself and with her clients.

SPONSORED BY:
If you are a bereaved TFMR parent looking for group grief support, I invite you to check out our upcoming grief circles starting in May 2024 https://www.theTFMRdoula.com/ascend-apply

Other resources mentioned:
The TFMR Support Circle, our free Facebook group for termination for medical reasons (TFMR) parents which you can apply to join here: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/facebookgroup

Find Jenn Hepton at
www.instagram.com/motherhood_redefined
www.instagram.com/jenn_hepton
And her website www.jennhepton.com, https://www.lossintransition.ca/

And if you would like to share your TFMR Story on "Our TFMR Stories," email me here to find out more: sabrina at theTFMRdoula dot com

Music clip:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
Link: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaea
License: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

T18 diagnosis & abortion for medical reasons and grieving in a time of collective grief and genocide. Liz shares her story.

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Thu, 04 Apr 2024 19:28:31 GMT

Liz tells her story of receiving an Edward's Syndrome (also known as T18) diagnosis and coming up against restrictive abortion laws and little understanding in the abortion space for her pregnancy loss. She also shares her experience with grieving during a time of massive loss with the Palestinian genocide.

Resources mentioned:
The TFMR Support Circle, our free Facebook group for termination for medical reasons (TFMR) parents which you can apply to join here: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/facebookgroup

The Brazilian movie "Incompatible with Life"

**If you are a bereaved TFMR parent looking for group grief support, I invite you to check out our upcoming grief circles starting in May 2024 https://www.theTFMRdoula.com/ascend-apply

And if you would like to share your TFMR Story on "Our TFMR Stories," email me here to find out more: sabrina at theTFMRdoula dot com

Music clip:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
Link: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaea
License: https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

Robin shares her TFMR for a giant omphalocele story & TTC (trying to conceive) again after loss

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Fri, 01 Mar 2024 09:53:37 GMT

Robin Imholte, a TFMR mom and mom to a rainbow baby born after loss, tells her story of her baby's giant omphalocele diagnosis, a condition where organs are developing (or very poorly developing) outside of the body cavity. She shares her struggle with TTC (trying to conceive) after the death of her baby Ellie.

Resources mentioned:
The TFMR Support Circle, our free Facebook group for termination for medical reasons (TFMR) parents which you can apply to join here: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/facebookgroup

Mira Fertility Tracker (Robin's recommendation)
https://www.miracare.com

**Also, if you are a bereaved TFMR parent, I invite you to check out our upcoming RETREAT on April 4 through 7th, 2024 https://www.theTFMRdoula.com/tfmr-retreat

And if you would like to share your TFMR Story on "Our TFMR Stories," email me here to find out more: sabrina at theTFMRdoula dot com

Music clip:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
Link: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaea
License: https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

Sex and Intimacy after TFMR w/ Kate Carson

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Mon, 12 Feb 2024 05:59:00 GMT

Sex and intimacy after a traumatic baby loss/pregnancy loss can be HARD, and can create opportunities for healing. Kate Carson, baby loss coach, shares FIVE impediments to intimacy after TFMR pregnancy loss and some beautiful tools and practices to gently come back into your body and sensuality.

Resources mentioned:
1st Program opportunity!
Join Kate and Sabrina at our IN-PERSON TFMR RETREAT, April 4th to 7th in Tepoztlan, Morelos, Mexico, a beautiful healing mountain town outside Mexico City. More info here: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/tfmr-retreat

2nd Program opportunity!
Learn more and apply to join our next TFMR grief circle program Ascend here: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/ascend-apply

FREE support
Apply to join our free Facebook group for termination for medical reasons (TFMR) parents: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/facebookgroup

OTHER LINKS MENTIONED:
To find out more about Kate Carson and her Baby Loss Coaching, go to nightbloomcoaching.com

Kate also helps to admin another TFMR support group, Ending a Wanted Pregnancy. To find out more and apply to join this closed Facebook group: endingawantedpregnancy.com

And if you would like to share your TFMR Story on "Our TFMR Stories," email me here to find out more: sabrina at theTFMRdoula dot com

Music clip:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
Link: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaea
License: https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

Are you isolating in the grief of TFMR pregnancy loss?

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Sat, 03 Feb 2024 11:44:10 GMT

Are you isolating in the grief of TFMR pregnancy loss? Listen to hear about 3 reasons WHY you may be isolating and how to care for yourself in this isolating experience.

Resources mentioned:
Learn more and apply to join the upcoming TFMR grief circle program Ascend here: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/ascend-apply

My free Facebook group for termination for medical reasons (TFMR) parents which you can apply to join here: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/facebookgroup

And if you would like to share your TFMR Story on "Our TFMR Stories," email me here to find out more: sabrina at theTFMRdoula dot com

Music clip:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
Link: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaea
License: https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

Getting Through the Holidays with Love and Grief

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Fri, 01 Dec 2023 18:00:00 GMT

This episode was originally recorded as a live video in the TFMR Support Circle Facebook group. Apply to join us here: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/facebookgroup to listen to episodes early.

Other links mentioned:
Get your free copy of the guide "Self-care in the Grief of TFMR" here: http://www.thetfmrdoula.com/tfmr-self-care

Special holiday support package with a 1:1 session AND "Peace of Mind: Audio mindfulness program for TFMR parents" here: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/holiday-support

Music clip:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
Link: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaea
License: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

Twin loss and making memories for TFMR for T21 - Lia's story

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Sat, 04 Nov 2023 18:00:00 GMT

After losing one baby early into a twin pregnancy, Lia then received a poor prenatal diagnosis of T21 (Down Syndrome) with her surviving twin. She recounts how she made memories and connections even in the hardest time between diagnosis and decision and ending her wanted pregnancy.

And to join our upcoming TFMR support group program, Ascend apply here: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/ascend-apply

Sunday group starting Nov. 5th 2023 and Wednesday group starting Nov. 8th 2023

The Biggest Thing I've Learned in the Grief of TFMR

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Wed, 01 Nov 2023 18:00:00 GMT

On letting others be wrong about you. Important in the grief of a termination pregnancy loss. Listen in to hear how this one practice has helped my grief as a TFMR mom. And you are invited to join us in our upcoming TFMR Grief Circle program, Ascend. Learn more and apply here: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/ascend-apply

And come and join us in the free Facebook group, the TFMR Support Circle, to get access to the community and these live videos before they are released on the podcast: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/facebookgroup

Big Grief Layers Of Terminating A Wanted Pregnancy

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Sat, 09 Apr 2022 23:00:00 GMT

Resources mentioned:

My free Facebook group for termination for medical reasons (TFMR) parents which you can apply to join here: Resources for TFMR

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TFMR Support Sanctuary

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And if you would like to share *your* TFMR Story on "Our TFMR Stories," email me here to find out more: sabrina at theTFMRdoula dot com

Music clip:

Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod

Link: Pamgaea

License: Creative Commons — Attribution 4.0 International — CC BY 4.0

D&E vs. L&D: Pros and Cons of Different Termination Birth Procedures with Sherokee Ilse

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Sun, 30 Jan 2022 07:00:00 GMT

This episode is for people in the awful limboland between a poor prenatal diagnosis and their termination. You may be wondering, "Which termination procedure should I choose?"

Guest expert, author and baby loss family advisor trained, Sherokee Ilse, gives insight into how to decide between D&E (surgical) and L&D (labor/medical) termination AND how to make the most out of any termination procedure you are offered or choose.

Resources mentioned:

My free Facebook group for termination for medical reasons (TFMR) parents which you can apply to join here: Resources for TFMR

Heaven's Gain Miscarriage Kit (sizes up to 20 weeks gestation):

Miscarriage Kit

****Also, if you are a bereaved TFMR parent, I invite you to check out my upcoming grief support group (Ascend: A TFMR Grief Circle) to see if this could be the group for you: https://www.theTFMRdoula.com/ascend-apply

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And if you would like to share *your* TFMR Story on "Our TFMR Stories," email me here to find out more: sabrina at theTFMRdoula dot com

Music clip:

Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod

Link:

Pamgaea

License:

Creative Commons — Attribution 4.0 International — CC BY 4.0

Holoprosencephaly diagnosis and termination of wanted pregnancy

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Sun, 23 Jan 2022 07:00:00 GMT

Kate, a TFMR mom and mom to two living kids, tells her story of her baby's holoprosencephaly diagnosis, a brain abnormality. She shares her mental health story around the death of her baby and then a subsequent pregnancy (sub-pregnancy) after loss, and the trauma of a prolonged hospitalization/NICU stay in said sub-pregnancy.

Resources mentioned:
My free Facebook group for termination for medical reasons (TFMR) parents which you can apply to join here:

Resources for TFMR

Ending a Wanted Pregnancy:
www.endingawantedpregnancy.com

And if you would like to share your TFMR Story on "Our TFMR Stories," email me here to find out more: sabrina at theTFMRdoula dot com

Music clip:
Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod
Link:

Pamgaea

License:

Creative Commons — Attribution 4.0 International — CC BY 4.0

My TFMR story and why I became a TFMR pregnancy loss doula

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Sun, 16 Jan 2022 07:00:00 GMT

Before I became a Pregnancy Loss Doula, I went through TFMR myself. My baby had ies. This is my story of my 2nd pregnancy that ended in my baby dying from a termination for medical reasons due to hydrops, cystic hygroma and other anomalies. I also share some ways I began to heal the trauma afterwards.

Resources mentioned:

My free Facebook group for termination for medical reasons (TFMR) parents which you can apply to join here: Resources for TFMR

Ending a Wanted Pregnancy: www.endingawantedpregnancy.com

The book Heal Your Birth Story, by Maureen Campion

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And if you would like to share *your* TFMR Story on "Our TFMR Stories," email me here to find out more: sabrina at theTFMRdoula dot com

Music clip:

Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod

Link:

Pamgaea

License:

Creative Commons — Attribution 4.0 International — CC BY 4.0

Our TFMR Stories | Our decisions, our grief, real true parent stories (Trailer)

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents — Tue, 04 Jan 2022 06:42:52 GMT

Our TFMR Stories | Our decisions, our grief, real true parent stories

Goodbye Google & Meta: How I'm protecting your TFMR / ending a wanted pregnancy story

For when you feel like no one understands your loving choice

"I feel like a monster after my TFMR" - about this tough abortion baby loss thought

"Reproductive Anxiety Disorder" - a call to a new classification with Alexia Leachman, expert on clearing tokophobia

How to handle the 'what-ifs' after TFMR

How can I live with this? 5 skills every TFMR parents needs │ What grief after TFMR *actually* needs - Part 3 of 3

What TFMR grief does NOT need │ What grief after TFMR *actually* needs - Part 2 of 3

When therapy just ISN'T enough │ What grief after TFMR *actually* needs - Part 1 of 3

Life after termination for Down Syndrome - Becky's TFMR for T21 story (Part 2 of 2)

Deciding to end pregnancy after Down Syndrome diagnosis - Becky's TFMR story (Part 1 of 2)

"Will this ever end?" What's really happening in your TFMR baby loss grief (Part 2 of 2)

"Will this ever end?" On feeling 'stuck' in grief of TFMR baby loss (Part 1 of 2)

Why "just think positive" doesn't work for TFMR baby loss grief

Megan's grief and healing after molar pregnancy and fertility loss Part 2 of 2

Megan's molar pregnancy loss, two D&C procedures and cancer treatment Part 1 of 2

The dark thoughts that nobody talks about after ending a wanted pregnancy (TFMR) for health reasons

Getting through the holidays with love & grief

Life after TFMR for rare genetic diagnosis: Rachel's physical & emotional recovery, and pregnancy after loss PART 2 OF 2

Rare genetic mutation KAT6B, led Rachel, a genetic counselor, to decide to terminate her wanted pregnancy PART 1 OF 2

How common actually is TFMR? The hidden numbers might surprise (and comfort) you

If your pregnancy loss space never mentions TFMR, it's not for 'all'

"Do I belong in the TFMR community?" (Yes, you do)

Worried about your baby suffering? Listen to this | TFMR grief support

From HG TFMR shame to baby loss community: Emily's story (PART 2 of 2)

When pregnancy could kill you: Emily's termination for hyperemesis gravidarum story (PART 1 of 2)

Why self-care isn't enough for TFMR baby loss grief (what you ACTUALLY need)

The questions that keep you up at night as a TFMR parent

Who joins Ascend TFMR Grief circles - parents like you

Finally a space where TFMR parents can say everything out loud | Circles open now

YES back to school IS as hard as it feels after TFMR baby loss

Supporting Surviving Siblings after TFMR with Jessica Correnti

Examination of repro care in the U.S.: Rebecca Little and Colleen Long talk about their book "I'm Sorry For My Loss"

Christina had a TFMR after a fatal fetal diagnosis. This is her baby boy's Trisomy 13 story.

Are you "grief stage shaming" yourself?

Lack of care & politicization of TFMR pregnancy loss with Linda Rönn, author of Behind Bulletproof Glass

The HEAVINESS of self-blame, doubt & guilt

Forgiving yourself after baby loss with Amy Watson

Touch your trauma gently–on sand tray therapy for TFMR with Lacey Castilleja Fisher

Marriage after TFMR: Rebuilding connection after loss with Laura Amador, relationship coach

Amanda healed the SILENCE around TFMR in the Ascend Grief Circle - her story

Hurtful myths about TFMR & how to heal from these misconceptions

Emotional and physical recovery after TFMR through the pelvic floor with Tenae Bascherini

TFMR IS a disability issue with Ali Emerald, TFMR for maternal health reasons

Caring for your mental health in crisis times with Erica Rozmid, TFMR Psychologist

Research on TFMR & queer family making. Dr. E Goldblatt Hyatt shares their findings on best psychological outcomes in TFMR & advocating for LGBTQ+ families in our communities 🌈

To tell or not to tell - when to share your TFMR story

Terminating a wanted pregnancy led to advocacy. Riata shares her story of her baby Riana's diagnosis of Tetralogy of Fallot and AVSD heart defect.

Journaling & writing to honor all our losses and babies. Carmen Grover, author of A Diary to My Babies, shares her story of 5 separate miscarriages and 2 TFMRs.

When TFMR is for YOUR health. Marie-Laure shares how she lost her baby Juliette to early onset preeclampsia.

Termination for anencephaly. Samantha explains how this loss has impacted her relationships and spirituality.

A book of TFMR stories & why these stories NEED to be told w/ Ale Muñoz, co-author & editor of Flowers in Our Womb

Back to work in high-risk maternal and perinatal postpartum healthcare after TFMR with Alissa, mother to Seamus

Ending a wanted pregnancy for T21. Plus IVF and pregnancy after loss. Becky shares her story

Healing through story & body practices after TFMR, fertility loss, recurrent miscarriage and stillbirth. Jenn Hepton shares her wisdom with us.

T18 diagnosis & abortion for medical reasons and grieving in a time of collective grief and genocide. Liz shares her story.

Robin shares her TFMR for a giant omphalocele story & TTC (trying to conceive) again after loss

Sex and Intimacy after TFMR w/ Kate Carson

Are you isolating in the grief of TFMR pregnancy loss?

Getting Through the Holidays with Love and Grief

Twin loss and making memories for TFMR for T21 - Lia's story

The Biggest Thing I've Learned in the Grief of TFMR

Big Grief Layers Of Terminating A Wanted Pregnancy

D&E vs. L&D: Pros and Cons of Different Termination Birth Procedures with Sherokee Ilse

Holoprosencephaly diagnosis and termination of wanted pregnancy

My TFMR story and why I became a TFMR pregnancy loss doula

Our TFMR Stories | Our decisions, our grief, real true parent stories (Trailer)

How can I live with this? 5 skills every TFMR parents needs │ What grief after TFMR actually needs - Part 3 of 3

What TFMR grief does NOT need │ What grief after TFMR actually needs - Part 2 of 3

When therapy just ISN'T enough │ What grief after TFMR actually needs - Part 1 of 3