<![CDATA[Permission To Desire: Relationships, Sex, Love, and Liberation]]>
Permission to Want is a podcast for the curious, the courageous, the quirky, and consciously nontraditional. Hosted by author and certified relationship coach Brian G. Murphy, this show explores what it means to build fuller, more alive relationships and erotic lives and paints a picture of what’s possible when you find the courage to tell the truth about what you really want and say goodbye to shame or “shoulds.”

Grounded in the wisdom of polyamory and other forms of ethical nonmonogamy, you’ll hear real-life stories and actionable insights that can enrich every relationship type: monogamous, open, polyamorous, single, or solo.

Whether you're hoping to rekindle passion in a long-term relationship, healing from sexual shame, considering opening up, or just craving more intention in how you live and love, this is your permission slip.]]>https://thisisbgm.comhttps://d32kcwy5dai345.cloudfront.net/4fdc542a-70bc-4d34-a4ea-fbff661199fd.jpgPermission To Desire: Relationships, Sex, Love, and Liberationhttps://thisisbgm.comPodcast for NodeTue, 18 Aug 2026 04:04:08 GMTBrian G. MurphyWhat if wanting more wasn’t selfish, but sacred?<br><br>Permission to Want is a podcast for the curious, the courageous, the quirky, and consciously nontraditional. Hosted by author and certified relationship coach Brian G. Murphy, this show explores what it means to build fuller, more alive relationships and erotic lives and paints a picture of what’s possible when you find the courage to tell the truth about what you really want and say goodbye to shame or “shoulds.”<br><br>Grounded in the wisdom of polyamory and other forms of ethical nonmonogamy, you’ll hear real-life stories and actionable insights that can enrich every relationship type: monogamous, open, polyamorous, single, or solo. <br><br>Whether you're hoping to rekindle passion in a long-term relationship, healing from sexual shame, considering opening up, or just craving more intention in how you live and love, this is your permission slip.episodicBrian G Murphybrian@briangerald.comNo<![CDATA[Balancing fear with possibility in an open relationship (with Keller)]]>When John first brought up opening their relationship, Keller's response was fear. He didn't feel like enough. He didn't have a framework. And after 8 years together, the whole idea felt like it could unravel everything they'd built.


Four years later, he and John are married and navigating non-monogamy with more confidence and intention than Keller ever thought possible. In this conversation, you'll hear how he moved from insecurity to clarity, what tools he's still using today, and how he went from cautiously open to fully embracing polyamory.


There were still some bumps along the way, and whenever they hit a bumpy patch, they brought it to coaching to be able to talk it through in a controlled, facilitated environment, and to walk away with specific suggestions to try.


That was 2021.


Today, Keller and John are still together, they got married a few years ago — and are navigating non-monogamy with more confidence and intention than Keller ever thought possible. When I caught up with Keller recently, he told me that even his grandmother knows about non-monogamy and met one of his other partners! Talk about progress!


Keller also shared that he and John return to some of the foundational exercises they learned in Relationshift at least once a year, pulling out old worksheets and cheatsheets and taking a look at what, if anything, they want to adjust or revisit.


If you want some of that for yourself and your relationship, join us in Relationshift. Enrollment is open through Friday August 21, 2016 - https://thisisbgm.com/group/

REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/



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]]>6e81ffe6-1283-4a80-b328-8cc7cd96b222_p6DwCLuL5iTue, 18 Aug 2026 01:09:25 GMTWhen John first brought up opening their relationship, Keller's response was fear. He didn't feel like enough. He didn't have a framework. And after 8 years together, the whole idea felt like it could unravel everything they'd built.


Four years later, he and John are married and navigating non-monogamy with more confidence and intention than Keller ever thought possible. In this conversation, you'll hear how he moved from insecurity to clarity, what tools he's still using today, and how he went from cautiously open to fully embracing polyamory.


There were still some bumps along the way, and whenever they hit a bumpy patch, they brought it to coaching to be able to talk it through in a controlled, facilitated environment, and to walk away with specific suggestions to try.


That was 2021.


Today, Keller and John are still together, they got married a few years ago — and are navigating non-monogamy with more confidence and intention than Keller ever thought possible. When I caught up with Keller recently, he told me that even his grandmother knows about non-monogamy and met one of his other partners! Talk about progress!


Keller also shared that he and John return to some of the foundational exercises they learned in Relationshift at least once a year, pulling out old worksheets and cheatsheets and taking a look at what, if anything, they want to adjust or revisit.


If you want some of that for yourself and your relationship, join us in Relationshift. Enrollment is open through Friday August 21, 2016 - https://thisisbgm.com/group/

REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/



Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

]]><p>When John first brought up opening their relationship, Keller's response was fear. He didn't feel like enough. He didn't have a framework. And after 8 years together, the whole idea felt like it could unravel everything they'd built.</p><p><br></p><p>Four years later, he and John are married and navigating non-monogamy with more confidence and intention than Keller ever thought possible. In this conversation, you'll hear how he moved from insecurity to clarity, what tools he's still using today, and how he went from cautiously open to fully embracing polyamory.</p><p><br></p><p>There were still some bumps along the way, and whenever they hit a bumpy patch, they brought it to coaching to be able to talk it through in a controlled, facilitated environment, and to walk away with specific suggestions to try.</p><p><br></p><p>That was 2021.</p><p><br></p><p>Today, Keller and John are still together, they got married a few years ago — and are navigating non-monogamy with more confidence and intention than Keller ever thought possible. When I caught up with Keller recently, he told me that even his grandmother knows about non-monogamy and met one of his other partners! Talk about progress!</p><p><br></p><p>Keller also shared that he and John return to some of the foundational exercises they learned in Relationshift at least once a year, pulling out old worksheets and cheatsheets and taking a look at what, if anything, they want to adjust or revisit.</p><p><br></p><p>If you want some of that for yourself and your relationship, join us in Relationshift. Enrollment is open through Friday August 21, 2016 - https://thisisbgm.com/group/</p><p></p><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!</span></p><p>Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex &amp; none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.</p><p><br></p><p><span style="background-color: rgb(250, 251, 255);">Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.</span></p><p><br></p><p>Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/</p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p>Connect with Brian on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/thisisbgm/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@ThisIsBGM</a> (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)</p>No00:39:29full<![CDATA[The bump you hit 2 years into an open relationship (and how to get out of it)]]>You know how new relationships come with a honeymoon period? The first few months to first few years after opening up have their own honeymoon period too.


If you hit a bumpy patch a year or two after opening up, you are not alone. There are a few common reasons and once you know what they are, you can know what to do about them.


In this episode, I'm going to talk you through through the most common pressure points that can turn an open relationship from fun to frustrating. Things like jealousy, time pressure, ineffective open relationship rules, and hurtful communication. Then, I share what it takes to move into a more sustainable, intentional phase. An open relationship can bring you closer together than ever before so if you're navigating some rough waters, this is your lifeline!

REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/



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]]>cc5b07c4-2147-4366-9d08-e125b4a1c025_p6DwCLuL5iFri, 14 Aug 2026 21:31:01 GMTYou know how new relationships come with a honeymoon period? The first few months to first few years after opening up have their own honeymoon period too.


If you hit a bumpy patch a year or two after opening up, you are not alone. There are a few common reasons and once you know what they are, you can know what to do about them.


In this episode, I'm going to talk you through through the most common pressure points that can turn an open relationship from fun to frustrating. Things like jealousy, time pressure, ineffective open relationship rules, and hurtful communication. Then, I share what it takes to move into a more sustainable, intentional phase. An open relationship can bring you closer together than ever before so if you're navigating some rough waters, this is your lifeline!

REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/



Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

]]><p>You know how new relationships come with a honeymoon period? The first few months to first few years after opening up have their own honeymoon period too.</p><p><br></p><p>If you hit a bumpy patch a year or two after opening up, you are not alone. There are a few common reasons and once you know what they are, you can know what to do about them.</p><p><br></p><p>In this episode, I'm going to talk you through through the most common pressure points that can turn an open relationship from fun to frustrating. Things like jealousy, time pressure, ineffective open relationship rules, and hurtful communication. Then, I share what it takes to move into a more sustainable, intentional phase. An open relationship can bring you closer together than ever before so if you're navigating some rough waters, this is your lifeline! </p><p></p><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!</span></p><p>Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex &amp; none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.</p><p><br></p><p><span style="background-color: rgb(250, 251, 255);">Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.</span></p><p><br></p><p>Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/</p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p>Connect with Brian on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/thisisbgm/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@ThisIsBGM</a> (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)</p>No00:19:21full<![CDATA[Workshop Replay: Open & Closer Than Ever]]>If you'd like to watch along with the video and slides, you can see the video replay at https://thisisbgm.com/workshop/replay/


REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/



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]]>47be1b32-b9dd-49c6-9512-1d8d242db9ee_p6DwCLuL5iWed, 12 Aug 2026 11:48:14 GMTIf you'd like to watch along with the video and slides, you can see the video replay at https://thisisbgm.com/workshop/replay/


REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/



Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

]]><p>If you'd like to watch along with the video and slides, you can see the video replay at https://thisisbgm.com/workshop/replay/</p><p><br></p><p></p><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!</span></p><p>Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex &amp; none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.</p><p><br></p><p><span style="background-color: rgb(250, 251, 255);">Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.</span></p><p><br></p><p>Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/</p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p>Connect with Brian on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/thisisbgm/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@ThisIsBGM</a> (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)</p>No01:38:32full<![CDATA[4 reasons to NOT open your relationship]]>As someone who talks about non-monogamy every week on this show, Brian has something to say in this episode that might surprise you: sometimes opening your relationship is a terrible idea. Or at least it won't do what you're hoping it will do.


In this episode, Brian breaks down the four reasons people sometimes have for opening up that are actually red flags — and what to do instead if you recognize yourself in one of them.


Opening up isn't a magic fix for any of these situations but the skills that make non-monogamy work are the same skills that make any relationship work whether yours is open, closed, or somewhere in between. So whether you see yourself in one of these 4 reasons or not, you'll learn important lessons about what it takes to build and sustain thriving relationships.

REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/



Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

]]>f9069682-4258-4801-bb73-37abc4598418_p6DwCLuL5iThu, 06 Aug 2026 21:02:47 GMTAs someone who talks about non-monogamy every week on this show, Brian has something to say in this episode that might surprise you: sometimes opening your relationship is a terrible idea. Or at least it won't do what you're hoping it will do.


In this episode, Brian breaks down the four reasons people sometimes have for opening up that are actually red flags — and what to do instead if you recognize yourself in one of them.


Opening up isn't a magic fix for any of these situations but the skills that make non-monogamy work are the same skills that make any relationship work whether yours is open, closed, or somewhere in between. So whether you see yourself in one of these 4 reasons or not, you'll learn important lessons about what it takes to build and sustain thriving relationships.

REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/



Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

]]><p>As someone who talks about non-monogamy every week on this show, Brian has something to say in this episode that might surprise you: sometimes opening your relationship is a terrible idea. Or at least it won't do what you're hoping it will do.</p><p><br></p><p>In this episode, Brian breaks down the four reasons people sometimes have for opening up that are actually red flags — and what to do instead if you recognize yourself in one of them.</p><p><br></p><p>Opening up isn't a magic fix for any of these situations but the skills that make non-monogamy work are the same skills that make <em>any</em> relationship work whether yours is open, closed, or somewhere in between. So whether you see yourself in one of these 4 reasons or not, you'll learn important lessons about what it takes to build and sustain thriving relationships.</p><p></p><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!</span></p><p>Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex &amp; none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.</p><p><br></p><p><span style="background-color: rgb(250, 251, 255);">Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.</span></p><p><br></p><p>Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/</p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p>Connect with Brian on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/thisisbgm/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@ThisIsBGM</a> (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)</p>No00:15:44full<![CDATA[Fair vs. Even: Are accidentally undermining your relationship?]]>I hear the words "fair" and "even" tossed around constantly when it comes to relationships — open, poly, or monogamous. But here's my main thesis: fair and even are not the same thing.


In this episode, I break down all the sneaky ways I see clients and friends try to enforce "evenness" in their relationships, from matching hookup frequency, to keeping outside connections the same "type," splitting family time down the middle, and even trying to have the exact same hobbies. I'll share why chasing sameness reduces your relationship to a math equation you can't actually even solve, and the 3 areas to focus on instead.


If you're keeping score in your relationship and still feel uncomfortable no matter how "even" you make it, this one's for you.

REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/



Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

]]>77d56867-9a5e-4a5c-9387-a2ff555c1d2e_p6DwCLuL5iTue, 04 Aug 2026 18:14:06 GMTI hear the words "fair" and "even" tossed around constantly when it comes to relationships — open, poly, or monogamous. But here's my main thesis: fair and even are not the same thing.


In this episode, I break down all the sneaky ways I see clients and friends try to enforce "evenness" in their relationships, from matching hookup frequency, to keeping outside connections the same "type," splitting family time down the middle, and even trying to have the exact same hobbies. I'll share why chasing sameness reduces your relationship to a math equation you can't actually even solve, and the 3 areas to focus on instead.


If you're keeping score in your relationship and still feel uncomfortable no matter how "even" you make it, this one's for you.

REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/



Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

]]><p>I hear the words "fair" and "even" tossed around constantly when it comes to relationships — open, poly, or monogamous. But here's my main thesis: fair and even are not the same thing.</p><p><br></p><p>In this episode, I break down all the sneaky ways I see clients and friends try to enforce "evenness" in their relationships, from matching hookup frequency, to keeping outside connections the same "type," splitting family time down the middle, and even trying to have the exact same hobbies. I'll share why chasing sameness reduces your relationship to a math equation you can't actually even solve, and the 3 areas to focus on instead.</p><p><br></p><p>If you're keeping score in your relationship and still feel uncomfortable no matter how "even" you make it, this one's for you.</p><p></p><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!</span></p><p>Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex &amp; none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.</p><p><br></p><p><span style="background-color: rgb(250, 251, 255);">Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.</span></p><p><br></p><p>Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/</p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p>Connect with Brian on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/thisisbgm/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@ThisIsBGM</a> (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)</p>No00:18:37full<![CDATA[My 15-year open relationship story]]>In this episode, Brian shares his extensive 15-year experience in an open relationships, looking especially at how non-monogamy has enriched his life and partnership. Whether you're curious about opening up your relationship, looking for positive examples of non-monogamy, or seeking advice on how to "do" an open relationship well, you'll learn from Brian's personal story and professional insights.


Key Topics

  • Brian’s personal story of a long-term open relationship and polyamory
  • Motivations behind opening up a relationship
  • The philosophical and ethical principles that underpin non-monogamous relationships
  • Common challenges faced, such as navigating feelings of jealousy, setting boundaries, and dealing with societal judgments
  • How non-monogamy fosters growth, deeper connection, and expanded definitions of family
  • The impact of opening up on jealousy, anxiety, and insecurity
  • The importance of intentional relationship building and ongoing honest conversations

REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/



Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

]]>9c4d14fe-5551-41f6-9509-02802a43bd2f_p6DwCLuL5iFri, 31 Jul 2026 17:39:02 GMTIn this episode, Brian shares his extensive 15-year experience in an open relationships, looking especially at how non-monogamy has enriched his life and partnership. Whether you're curious about opening up your relationship, looking for positive examples of non-monogamy, or seeking advice on how to "do" an open relationship well, you'll learn from Brian's personal story and professional insights.


Key Topics

  • Brian’s personal story of a long-term open relationship and polyamory
  • Motivations behind opening up a relationship
  • The philosophical and ethical principles that underpin non-monogamous relationships
  • Common challenges faced, such as navigating feelings of jealousy, setting boundaries, and dealing with societal judgments
  • How non-monogamy fosters growth, deeper connection, and expanded definitions of family
  • The impact of opening up on jealousy, anxiety, and insecurity
  • The importance of intentional relationship building and ongoing honest conversations

REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/



Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

]]><p>In this episode, Brian shares his extensive 15-year experience in an open relationships, looking especially at how non-monogamy has enriched his life and partnership. Whether you're curious about opening up your relationship, looking for positive examples of non-monogamy, or seeking advice on how to "do" an open relationship well, you'll learn from Brian's personal story and professional insights.</p><p><br></p><p>Key Topics</p><ul><li>Brian’s personal story of a long-term open relationship and polyamory</li><li>Motivations behind opening up a relationship</li><li>The philosophical and ethical principles that underpin non-monogamous relationships</li><li>Common challenges faced, such as navigating feelings of jealousy, setting boundaries, and dealing with societal judgments</li><li>How non-monogamy fosters growth, deeper connection, and expanded definitions of family</li><li>The impact of opening up on jealousy, anxiety, and insecurity</li><li>The importance of intentional relationship building and ongoing honest conversations</li></ul><p></p><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!</span></p><p>Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex &amp; none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.</p><p><br></p><p><span style="background-color: rgb(250, 251, 255);">Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.</span></p><p><br></p><p>Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/</p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p>Connect with Brian on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/thisisbgm/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@ThisIsBGM</a> (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)</p>No00:31:22full<![CDATA[The “halfway open” trap]]>If one of you wanted an open relationship and the other was hesitant so you compromised by being partway open—some things are allowed, some aren’t and it’s not quite as open as one of you would like while being frustrating or scary for the other… I got you.


In this episode, we’ll look at the (very understandable) reasons couples open up partway as well as the SPECIFIC challenges that come along with that arrangement and what to do about them (it’s different challenges than a more fully open one).


Partway open, open-ish, monogam-ish, monogamous with some exceptions, an occasional hall pass… whatever you call it, we’re diving into it.

REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/



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]]>cf259432-7e7b-4217-8c93-f8bcfdc56962_p6DwCLuL5iThu, 23 Jul 2026 10:30:46 GMTIf one of you wanted an open relationship and the other was hesitant so you compromised by being partway open—some things are allowed, some aren’t and it’s not quite as open as one of you would like while being frustrating or scary for the other… I got you.


In this episode, we’ll look at the (very understandable) reasons couples open up partway as well as the SPECIFIC challenges that come along with that arrangement and what to do about them (it’s different challenges than a more fully open one).


Partway open, open-ish, monogam-ish, monogamous with some exceptions, an occasional hall pass… whatever you call it, we’re diving into it.

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Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/



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]]><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent;">If one of you wanted an open relationship and the other was hesitant so you compromised by being partway open—some things are allowed, some aren’t and it’s not quite as open as one of you would like while being frustrating or scary for the other… I got you.</span></p><p><br></p><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent;">In this episode, we’ll look at the (very understandable) reasons couples open up partway as well as the SPECIFIC challenges that come along with that arrangement and what to do about them (it’s different challenges than a more fully open one).</span></p><p><br></p><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent;">Partway open, open-ish, monogam-ish, monogamous with some exceptions, an occasional hall pass… whatever you call it, we’re diving into it.</span></p><p></p><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!</span></p><p>Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex &amp; none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.</p><p><br></p><p><span style="background-color: rgb(250, 251, 255);">Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.</span></p><p><br></p><p>Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/</p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p>Connect with Brian on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/thisisbgm/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@ThisIsBGM</a> (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)</p>No00:15:32full<![CDATA[Can non–monogamy last long term? “What if he finds someone better?”]]>We’re facing some common open relationship/polyamory fears head-on: what if he finds someone “better?” What if it’s all fun now, but our open relationship becomes a problem later?


We’ll confront worries about commitment, jealousy, and whether opening a relationship could get in the way of a deeper future together.


You’ll learn the unexpected REAL issue that most often comes up. As well as some key ways open relationships can actually deepen your relationship.

REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/



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]]>cf1208dc-ca94-40ea-b331-bdcaf4c9f9a3_p6DwCLuL5iMon, 20 Jul 2026 10:30:29 GMTWe’re facing some common open relationship/polyamory fears head-on: what if he finds someone “better?” What if it’s all fun now, but our open relationship becomes a problem later?


We’ll confront worries about commitment, jealousy, and whether opening a relationship could get in the way of a deeper future together.


You’ll learn the unexpected REAL issue that most often comes up. As well as some key ways open relationships can actually deepen your relationship.

REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/



Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

]]><p><span style="background-color: transparent; color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">We’re facing some common open relationship/polyamory fears head-on: what if he finds someone “better?” What if it’s all fun now, but our open relationship becomes a problem later?</span></p><p><br></p><p><span style="background-color: transparent; color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">We’ll confront worries about commitment, jealousy, and whether opening a relationship could get in the way of a deeper future together.</span></p><p><br></p><p><span style="background-color: transparent; color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">You’ll learn the unexpected REAL issue that most often comes up. As well as some key ways open relationships can actually deepen your relationship. </span></p><p></p><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!</span></p><p>Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex &amp; none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.</p><p><br></p><p><span style="background-color: rgb(250, 251, 255);">Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.</span></p><p><br></p><p>Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/</p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p>Connect with Brian on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/thisisbgm/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@ThisIsBGM</a> (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)</p>No00:20:42full<![CDATA[How open relationships create more intimacy]]>Here’s a dynamic I see all too often: wanting an open relationship but not being sure how to do it well, maybe worried it’ll mess up your relationship. Or in an open relationship but tolerating and not thrilled about it.


What if the open part of your open relationship could actually be a that brings you closer together and is a source of joy not tension or frustration?


Whether that sounds like a dream or entirely unbelievable, this episode is for you.


I’m sharing parts of my personal story along with what I’ve seen in the dozens of clients I’ve worked with to help cast a vision for how your relationship could be even more expansive and meaningful.

REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/



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]]>f069bf71-f275-4d43-8343-b29c5af9f2f8_p6DwCLuL5iThu, 16 Jul 2026 10:30:03 GMTHere’s a dynamic I see all too often: wanting an open relationship but not being sure how to do it well, maybe worried it’ll mess up your relationship. Or in an open relationship but tolerating and not thrilled about it.


What if the open part of your open relationship could actually be a that brings you closer together and is a source of joy not tension or frustration?


Whether that sounds like a dream or entirely unbelievable, this episode is for you.


I’m sharing parts of my personal story along with what I’ve seen in the dozens of clients I’ve worked with to help cast a vision for how your relationship could be even more expansive and meaningful.

REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/



Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

]]><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent;">Here’s a dynamic I see all too often: wanting an open relationship but not being sure how to do it well, maybe worried it’ll mess up your relationship. Or in an open relationship but tolerating and not thrilled about it.</span></p><p><br></p><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent;">What if the open part of your open relationship could actually be a that brings you closer together and is a source of joy not tension or frustration?</span></p><p><br></p><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent;">Whether that sounds like a dream or entirely unbelievable, this episode is for you.</span></p><p><br></p><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent;">I’m sharing parts of my personal story along with what I’ve seen in the dozens of clients I’ve worked with to help cast a vision for how your relationship could be even more expansive and meaningful.</span></p><p></p><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!</span></p><p>Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex &amp; none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.</p><p><br></p><p><span style="background-color: rgb(250, 251, 255);">Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.</span></p><p><br></p><p>Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/</p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p>Connect with Brian on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/thisisbgm/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@ThisIsBGM</a> (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)</p>No00:26:59full<![CDATA[Leaving for a hookup while your husband is home?]]>Can you leave for a hookup while your partner is at home? If you find yourself open in theory but not so much in practice, than this episode is for you. I’ve identified three reasons why that could be.


In this episode, I’ll share them all along with a fix for each.


If you see yourself in any of these 3 scenarios, DM or email me and let me know which ones! I always love hearing from friends and listeners. I read everything myself and will respond personally with some suggestions.

REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/



Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

]]>b2961d12-a481-4b5b-ae76-b8b032664d60_p6DwCLuL5iThu, 09 Jul 2026 10:30:14 GMTCan you leave for a hookup while your partner is at home? If you find yourself open in theory but not so much in practice, than this episode is for you. I’ve identified three reasons why that could be.


In this episode, I’ll share them all along with a fix for each.


If you see yourself in any of these 3 scenarios, DM or email me and let me know which ones! I always love hearing from friends and listeners. I read everything myself and will respond personally with some suggestions.

REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/



Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

]]><p>Can you leave for a hookup while your partner is at home? If you find yourself open in theory but not so much in practice, than this episode is for you. I’ve identified three reasons why that could be. </p><p><br></p><p>In this episode, I’ll share them all along with a fix for each.</p><p><br></p><p>If you see yourself in any of these 3 scenarios, DM or email me and let me know which ones! I always love hearing from friends and listeners. I read everything myself and will respond personally with some suggestions.</p><p></p><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!</span></p><p>Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex &amp; none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.</p><p><br></p><p><span style="background-color: rgb(250, 251, 255);">Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.</span></p><p><br></p><p>Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/</p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p>Connect with Brian on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/thisisbgm/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@ThisIsBGM</a> (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)</p>No00:21:19full<![CDATA[What to do with new crushes in an open relationship]]>What do you do when you start to develop feelings for new connections in an open relationship? A listener wrote in:


“I've found sex with other people most enjoyable when there's an emotional connection or intense sexual chemistry. And I've had that with maybe with 3 people so far. It's not love. It's just a connection. And sometimes a yearning to see these people again. To know them better. How do you deal with these feelings? At times it feels like a crush.”


In this episode, you’ll learn a non-monogamous framework to help you contextualize these feelings as well as practical advice on what to talk with your current partner about as well how to decide on a path forward with these new connections.


Free tool referenced in this episode: Commitment Clarity Checklist: thisisbgm.com/clarity

REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/



Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

]]>04ad3c06-8592-46bd-996d-76f5f5a6a50d_p6DwCLuL5iThu, 02 Jul 2026 19:06:24 GMTWhat do you do when you start to develop feelings for new connections in an open relationship? A listener wrote in:


“I've found sex with other people most enjoyable when there's an emotional connection or intense sexual chemistry. And I've had that with maybe with 3 people so far. It's not love. It's just a connection. And sometimes a yearning to see these people again. To know them better. How do you deal with these feelings? At times it feels like a crush.”


In this episode, you’ll learn a non-monogamous framework to help you contextualize these feelings as well as practical advice on what to talk with your current partner about as well how to decide on a path forward with these new connections.


Free tool referenced in this episode: Commitment Clarity Checklist: thisisbgm.com/clarity

REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/



Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

]]><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent;">What do you do when you start to develop feelings for new connections in an open relationship? A listener wrote in:</span></p><p><br></p><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent;">“I've found sex with other people most enjoyable when there's an emotional connection or intense sexual chemistry. And I've had that with maybe with 3 people so far. It's not love. It's just a connection. And sometimes a yearning to see these people again. To know them better. How do you deal with these feelings? At times it feels like a crush.”</span></p><p><br></p><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent;">In this episode, you’ll learn a non-monogamous framework to help you contextualize these feelings as well as practical advice on what to talk with your current partner about as well how to decide on a path forward with these new connections.</span></p><p><br></p><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent;">Free tool referenced in this episode: Commitment Clarity Checklist: </span><a href="https://thisisbgm.com/clarity/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank" style="color: rgb(17, 85, 204); background-color: transparent;">thisisbgm.com/clarity</a></p><p></p><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!</span></p><p>Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex &amp; none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.</p><p><br></p><p><span style="background-color: rgb(250, 251, 255);">Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.</span></p><p><br></p><p>Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/</p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p>Connect with Brian on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/thisisbgm/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@ThisIsBGM</a> (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)</p>No00:24:37full<![CDATA[Relationship Communication Mistakes I Made (so you can avoid them!)]]>No matter how much you read, watch, and practice communicating well with your boyfriend, sometimes you're going to mess up. In this episode, I share my relationship communication mistakes so that you can learn from me and hopefully not make the same mistakes yourself.


Fighting with your boyfriend, feeling misunderstood by your partner, getting angry or frustrated at your husband are all common in a relationship. Figuring out how to talk to your partner and reduce conflict is key.


Learn more and apply for coaching at thisisbgm.com/private-coaching

Add your name to the Relationshift waitlist at thisisbgm.com/group

Get the free relationship communication toolkit at thisisbgm.com/toolkit  

REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/



Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

]]>e13b81d3-a3f0-4dc4-a2c6-63a5d69fd783_p6DwCLuL5iThu, 25 Jun 2026 11:00:28 GMTNo matter how much you read, watch, and practice communicating well with your boyfriend, sometimes you're going to mess up. In this episode, I share my relationship communication mistakes so that you can learn from me and hopefully not make the same mistakes yourself.


Fighting with your boyfriend, feeling misunderstood by your partner, getting angry or frustrated at your husband are all common in a relationship. Figuring out how to talk to your partner and reduce conflict is key.


Learn more and apply for coaching at thisisbgm.com/private-coaching

Add your name to the Relationshift waitlist at thisisbgm.com/group

Get the free relationship communication toolkit at thisisbgm.com/toolkit  

REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/



Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

]]><p><span style="background-color: transparent; color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">No matter how much you read, watch, and practice communicating well with your boyfriend, sometimes you're going to mess up. In this episode, I share my relationship communication mistakes so that you can learn from me and hopefully not make the same mistakes yourself.</span></p><p><br></p><p><span style="background-color: transparent; color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">Fighting with your boyfriend, feeling misunderstood by your partner, getting angry or frustrated at your husband are all common in a relationship. Figuring out how to talk to your partner and reduce conflict is key.</span></p><p><br></p><p><span style="background-color: transparent; color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">Learn more and apply for coaching at</span><a href="http://thisisbgm.com/private-coaching" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank" style="background-color: transparent; color: rgb(0, 0, 0);"> </a><a href="http://thisisbgm.com/private-coaching" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank" style="background-color: transparent; color: rgb(17, 85, 204);">thisisbgm.com/private-coaching</a></p><p><span style="background-color: transparent; color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">Add your name to the Relationshift waitlist at</span><a href="http://thisisbgm.com/group" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank" style="background-color: transparent; color: rgb(0, 0, 0);"> </a><a href="http://thisisbgm.com/group" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank" style="background-color: transparent; color: rgb(17, 85, 204);">thisisbgm.com/group</a></p><p><span style="background-color: transparent; color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">Get the free relationship communication toolkit at</span><a href="http://thisisbgm.com/toolkit" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank" style="background-color: transparent; color: rgb(0, 0, 0);"> </a><a href="http://thisisbgm.com/toolkit" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank" style="background-color: transparent; color: rgb(17, 85, 204);">thisisbgm.com/toolkit</a><span style="background-color: transparent; color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">&nbsp;&nbsp;</span></p><p></p><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!</span></p><p>Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex &amp; none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.</p><p><br></p><p><span style="background-color: rgb(250, 251, 255);">Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.</span></p><p><br></p><p>Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/</p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p>Connect with Brian on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/thisisbgm/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@ThisIsBGM</a> (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)</p>No00:17:23full<![CDATA[8 parts of a thriving relationship ]]>Is there a magic spell that you can say to have a thriving relationship? No, unfortunately not, but there are formulas that you can follow to ensure that you are set up for success.

This episode will help you answer the questions "Is my relationship healthy?" or "Is my partner a good fit for me?" or "Is our relationship on the right track?"

If you want to work on and improve your relationship to make sure you are setup for a lifetime of long-term success, I'm breaking down the 8 parts of a thriving relationship. You probably have a few in your relationship already, but do you have all 8? It's not uncommon to be missing one or two but that's ok, with just a little bit of attention and intention, your relationship can be full of both ease and excitement!

REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/



Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

]]>cd613dc5-577f-4f3d-a667-49ef5162c4d2_p6DwCLuL5iThu, 18 Jun 2026 11:00:05 GMTIs there a magic spell that you can say to have a thriving relationship? No, unfortunately not, but there are formulas that you can follow to ensure that you are set up for success.

This episode will help you answer the questions "Is my relationship healthy?" or "Is my partner a good fit for me?" or "Is our relationship on the right track?"

If you want to work on and improve your relationship to make sure you are setup for a lifetime of long-term success, I'm breaking down the 8 parts of a thriving relationship. You probably have a few in your relationship already, but do you have all 8? It's not uncommon to be missing one or two but that's ok, with just a little bit of attention and intention, your relationship can be full of both ease and excitement!

REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/



Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

]]><p>Is there a magic spell that you can say to have a thriving relationship? No, unfortunately not, but there are formulas that you can follow to ensure that you are set up for success.</p><p>This episode will help you answer the questions "Is my relationship healthy?" or "Is my partner a good fit for me?" or "Is our relationship on the right track?"</p><p>If you want to work on and improve your relationship to make sure you are setup for a lifetime of long-term success, I'm breaking down the 8 parts of a thriving relationship. You probably have a few in your relationship already, but do you have all 8? It's not uncommon to be missing one or two but that's ok, with just a little bit of attention and intention, your relationship can be full of both ease and excitement!</p><p></p><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!</span></p><p>Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex &amp; none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.</p><p><br></p><p><span style="background-color: rgb(250, 251, 255);">Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.</span></p><p><br></p><p>Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/</p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p>Connect with Brian on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/thisisbgm/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@ThisIsBGM</a> (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)</p>No00:19:22full<![CDATA[How Brian & Kevin stopped being scared to say what they want and think]]>REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/



Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

]]>4e5f8842-da94-4ab3-af82-151f949f01b1_p6DwCLuL5iTue, 09 Jun 2026 10:45:30 GMTREGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/



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]]><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!</span></p><p>Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex &amp; none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.</p><p><br></p><p><span style="background-color: rgb(250, 251, 255);">Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.</span></p><p><br></p><p>Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/</p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p>Connect with Brian on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/thisisbgm/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@ThisIsBGM</a> (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)</p>No00:27:23full<![CDATA[How “hints” are hurting your relationship (and what to do instead)]]>In this episode we're covering:

  • How to spot when you're using "hints" to try to get what you want or make a change in your relationship
  • The (understanable) reasons we use hints
  • The hidden cost of hints
  • and then, of course, what to do instead!

REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/



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]]>ce690d80-1119-4819-9833-d009be6b6a4b_p6DwCLuL5iMon, 08 Jun 2026 20:46:10 GMTIn this episode we're covering:

  • How to spot when you're using "hints" to try to get what you want or make a change in your relationship
  • The (understanable) reasons we use hints
  • The hidden cost of hints
  • and then, of course, what to do instead!

REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/



Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

]]><p>In this episode we're covering:</p><ul><li>How to spot when you're using "hints" to try to get what you want or make a change in your relationship</li><li>The (understanable) reasons we use hints</li><li>The hidden cost of hints</li><li>and then, of course, what to do instead!</li></ul><p></p><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!</span></p><p>Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex &amp; none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.</p><p><br></p><p><span style="background-color: rgb(250, 251, 255);">Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.</span></p><p><br></p><p>Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/</p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p>Connect with Brian on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/thisisbgm/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@ThisIsBGM</a> (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)</p>No00:24:27full<![CDATA["I want to fix our relationship, my other half doesn't think anything needs to change"]]>You cannot make your partner change. You can’t make him want to have sex more often. Or make him be more comfortable with non-monogamy. Or talk about his feelings more openly.


That’s a good thing, actually. It means you don’t have to wait for things to change because you do have control over yourself and how you show up in the relationship. 


In this casual conversation of an episode, I share with you what you CAN control and what you can do to make intimacy, honesty, vulnerability, and growth inevitable in your relationship. 


If you feel trapped because you want to fix your relationship but your partner doesn’t even think anything needs fixing… this is the episode for you.

REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/



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]]>5fc9c317-1589-43df-b323-304a70910a1f_p6DwCLuL5iFri, 05 Jun 2026 20:49:54 GMTYou cannot make your partner change. You can’t make him want to have sex more often. Or make him be more comfortable with non-monogamy. Or talk about his feelings more openly.


That’s a good thing, actually. It means you don’t have to wait for things to change because you do have control over yourself and how you show up in the relationship. 


In this casual conversation of an episode, I share with you what you CAN control and what you can do to make intimacy, honesty, vulnerability, and growth inevitable in your relationship. 


If you feel trapped because you want to fix your relationship but your partner doesn’t even think anything needs fixing… this is the episode for you.

REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/



Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

]]><p>You cannot make your partner change. You can’t make him want to have sex more often. Or make him be more comfortable with non-monogamy. Or talk about his feelings more openly.</p><p><br></p><p>That’s a <em>good</em> thing, actually. It means you don’t have to wait for things to change because you <em>do</em> have control over yourself and how you show up in the relationship.&nbsp;</p><p><br></p><p>In this casual conversation of an episode, I share with you what you CAN control and what you can do to make intimacy, honesty, vulnerability, and growth inevitable in your relationship.&nbsp;</p><p><br></p><p>If you feel trapped because you want to fix your relationship but your partner doesn’t even think anything needs fixing… this is the episode for you.</p><p></p><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!</span></p><p>Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex &amp; none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.</p><p><br></p><p><span style="background-color: rgb(250, 251, 255);">Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.</span></p><p><br></p><p>Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/</p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p>Connect with Brian on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/thisisbgm/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@ThisIsBGM</a> (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)</p>No00:23:31full<![CDATA[Not having as much sex as you want?]]>Are you in a long-term relationship and finding yourself longing for more intimacy? You're not alone! In this episode, I dive into the common struggles many couples face when it comes to their sex lives.


I share experiences from working with couples in my relationship coaching practice, shedding light on the challenges they've encountered and how to navigate through them. Whether you're the partner craving more connection or feeling uncertain about your desires, I've got practical advice for both of you.


This episode is for you if you've ever said or thought:

"I want sex more often than my partner does"

"My partner wants to have sex more than I do and I feel bad / weird / anxious / annoyed about it"

"We aren't having sex like we used to"

"I thought 'lesbian bed death' didn't happen to gay men?!"

"All the other gay couples I know are having way more sex than we are" (spoiler alert: they aren't!)

"Our sex life is great... but I'd still like more or something different"

REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/



Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

]]>1f7fa763-a0c8-41cb-98e4-732baf826be7_p6DwCLuL5iTue, 02 Jun 2026 19:37:24 GMTAre you in a long-term relationship and finding yourself longing for more intimacy? You're not alone! In this episode, I dive into the common struggles many couples face when it comes to their sex lives.


I share experiences from working with couples in my relationship coaching practice, shedding light on the challenges they've encountered and how to navigate through them. Whether you're the partner craving more connection or feeling uncertain about your desires, I've got practical advice for both of you.


This episode is for you if you've ever said or thought:

"I want sex more often than my partner does"

"My partner wants to have sex more than I do and I feel bad / weird / anxious / annoyed about it"

"We aren't having sex like we used to"

"I thought 'lesbian bed death' didn't happen to gay men?!"

"All the other gay couples I know are having way more sex than we are" (spoiler alert: they aren't!)

"Our sex life is great... but I'd still like more or something different"

REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/



Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

]]><p>Are you in a long-term relationship and finding yourself longing for more intimacy? You're not alone! In this episode, I dive into the common struggles many couples face when it comes to their sex lives.</p><p><br></p><p>I share experiences from working with couples in my relationship coaching practice, shedding light on the challenges they've encountered and how to navigate through them. Whether you're the partner craving more connection or feeling uncertain about your desires, I've got practical advice for both of you.</p><p><br></p><p>This episode is for you if you've ever said or thought:</p><p>"I want sex more often than my partner does"</p><p>"My partner wants to have sex more than I do and I feel bad / weird / anxious / annoyed about it"</p><p>"We aren't having sex like we used to"</p><p>"I thought 'lesbian bed death' didn't happen to gay men?!"</p><p>"All the other gay couples I know are having way more sex than we are" (spoiler alert: they aren't!)</p><p>"Our sex life is great... but I'd still like more or something different"</p><p></p><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!</span></p><p>Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex &amp; none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.</p><p><br></p><p><span style="background-color: rgb(250, 251, 255);">Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.</span></p><p><br></p><p>Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/</p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p>Connect with Brian on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/thisisbgm/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@ThisIsBGM</a> (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)</p>No00:37:09full<![CDATA[Fix your open relationship in 9 weeks]]>Tired of feeling frustrated with your partner? Craving more sex? An easier time being open? The ability to freely kiss friends and strangers on the dance floor?


If you've been "working on it" for awhile now, that doesn't mean you're stuck, it might mean you haven't tried the RIGHT things... which is a good thing, actually. It means the changes you want to see are yours for the taking, if you know what to talk about, what to try out, what to avoid, and where to put your energy to build a fuller, more exciting, more honest, more alive relationship and exotic.


The challenges you're facing in your open / open-ish / monogam-ish / kinda-sorta-open relationship... they are figure-out-able.


In this episode, I'm going to walk you through how. And then invite you to join me in Relationshift so you can get the support, simple actionable practices, and accountability to get you there faster and with less friction. Let's go!

REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/



Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

]]>80ef9b29-6c1a-462d-8a64-3fce2f02e2b6_p6DwCLuL5iFri, 29 May 2026 15:03:13 GMTTired of feeling frustrated with your partner? Craving more sex? An easier time being open? The ability to freely kiss friends and strangers on the dance floor?


If you've been "working on it" for awhile now, that doesn't mean you're stuck, it might mean you haven't tried the RIGHT things... which is a good thing, actually. It means the changes you want to see are yours for the taking, if you know what to talk about, what to try out, what to avoid, and where to put your energy to build a fuller, more exciting, more honest, more alive relationship and exotic.


The challenges you're facing in your open / open-ish / monogam-ish / kinda-sorta-open relationship... they are figure-out-able.


In this episode, I'm going to walk you through how. And then invite you to join me in Relationshift so you can get the support, simple actionable practices, and accountability to get you there faster and with less friction. Let's go!

REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/



Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

]]><p>Tired of feeling frustrated with your partner? Craving more sex? An easier time being open? The ability to freely kiss friends and strangers on the dance floor?</p><p><br></p><p>If you've been "working on it" for awhile now, that doesn't mean you're stuck, it might mean you haven't tried the RIGHT things... which is a good thing, actually. It means the changes you want to see are yours for the taking, if you know what to talk about, what to try out, what to avoid, and where to put your energy to build a fuller, more exciting, more honest, more alive relationship and exotic.</p><p><br></p><p>The challenges you're facing in your open / open-ish / monogam-ish / kinda-sorta-open relationship... they are figure-out-able.</p><p><br></p><p>In this episode, I'm going to walk you through how. And then invite you to join me in Relationshift so you can get the support, simple actionable practices, and accountability to get you there faster and with less friction. Let's go!</p><p></p><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!</span></p><p>Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex &amp; none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.</p><p><br></p><p><span style="background-color: rgb(250, 251, 255);">Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.</span></p><p><br></p><p>Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/</p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p>Connect with Brian on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/thisisbgm/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@ThisIsBGM</a> (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)</p>No00:37:09full<![CDATA[Is your open relationship ready for summer fun?]]>Maybe you're looking forward to a hook-up-filled gay getaway or hoping a vacation will finally reignite a stalled sex life.


If you're feeling feral and ready to mingle this summer, let's make sure the thing you're most looking forward to this summer doesn't turn into the thing that frustrates and disappoints you.


To get your open relationship summer ready, in this episode I’m going to share a new framework with you today and it’s called… SUMMER. It's six steps to make sure you make the most of your open relationship this summer AND that you're able to do it with comfort, confidence, and ease. No more waiting and hoping... let's make the fantasy a reality.


If you listened to this episode and you recognized yourself somewhere in it, you are not alone. This is exactly the work I do all day every day and exactly what we’ll tackle together inside Relationshift.


To make sure you're able to start your summer with a bang, if you sign-up by end of May—by May 31—I will make sure that you have your first private coaching call before your first summer trip or Pride weekend, even if that means having it before the group officially starts. Go to thisisbgm.com/group to grab your spot.

REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/



Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

]]>682f1b54-5b0c-4b14-a825-65ac0fbde516_p6DwCLuL5iWed, 27 May 2026 23:09:38 GMTMaybe you're looking forward to a hook-up-filled gay getaway or hoping a vacation will finally reignite a stalled sex life.


If you're feeling feral and ready to mingle this summer, let's make sure the thing you're most looking forward to this summer doesn't turn into the thing that frustrates and disappoints you.


To get your open relationship summer ready, in this episode I’m going to share a new framework with you today and it’s called… SUMMER. It's six steps to make sure you make the most of your open relationship this summer AND that you're able to do it with comfort, confidence, and ease. No more waiting and hoping... let's make the fantasy a reality.


If you listened to this episode and you recognized yourself somewhere in it, you are not alone. This is exactly the work I do all day every day and exactly what we’ll tackle together inside Relationshift.


To make sure you're able to start your summer with a bang, if you sign-up by end of May—by May 31—I will make sure that you have your first private coaching call before your first summer trip or Pride weekend, even if that means having it before the group officially starts. Go to thisisbgm.com/group to grab your spot.

REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/



Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

]]><p>Maybe you're looking forward to a hook-up-filled gay getaway or hoping a vacation will finally reignite a stalled sex life.</p><p><br></p><p>If you're feeling feral and ready to mingle this summer, let's make sure the thing you're most looking forward to this summer doesn't turn into the thing that frustrates and disappoints you.</p><p><br></p><p>To get your open relationship summer ready, in this episode I’m going to share a new framework with you today and it’s called… SUMMER. It's six steps to make sure you make the most of your open relationship this summer AND that you're able to do it with comfort, confidence, and ease. No more waiting and hoping... let's make the fantasy a reality.</p><p><br></p><p>If you listened to this episode and you recognized yourself somewhere in it, you are not alone. This is exactly the work I do all day every day and exactly what we’ll tackle together inside Relationshift.</p><p><br></p><p>To make sure you're able to start your summer with a bang, if you sign-up by end of May—by May 31—I will make sure that you have your first private coaching call before your first summer trip or Pride weekend, even if that means having it before the group officially starts. Go to <a href="http://thisisbgm.com/group" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">thisisbgm.com/group</a> to grab your spot.</p><p></p><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!</span></p><p>Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex &amp; none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.</p><p><br></p><p><span style="background-color: rgb(250, 251, 255);">Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.</span></p><p><br></p><p>Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/</p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p>Connect with Brian on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/thisisbgm/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@ThisIsBGM</a> (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)</p>No00:36:46full<![CDATA[How to ask for an open relationship]]>If you think you might want an open relationship—or to change how you structure your open relationship—you’re probably trying to figure out exactly when and how to talk to your partner about that. 


I get it. That was me 16 years ago. And I was terrified. But if I hadn’t gathered the courage to have that first conversation, none of the past 16 years would be possible. 


In this episode, I’m going to teach you how.


You’ll learn the 4 Ws and an H of asking to opening up: Why, When, Where, How, and What.

Yes, it’s a different order than the usual “5 Ws and an H” — you’ll see why in the episode ;)


If you’re considering opening up or navigating an open (or open-ish) relationship and you want to talk about sex and outside connections more comfortably, expand your sex life, reduce tension and confusion, and create shared agreements that actually work in real life, then I want to invite you to enroll in Relationshift—we start June 15. 


This 9-week program is designed to fast track your desires—getting you talking easier, fighting less, fucking more, and overall having a fuller, more alive, more honest relationship and erotic life. You’ll have support every step of the way so that “someday” can become “today.” 


Registration is now open and spots are limited. Grab yours at thisisbgm.com/group

REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/



Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

]]>79e47bd3-7ace-4481-8bae-be76ba179a54_p6DwCLuL5iThu, 21 May 2026 20:00:04 GMTIf you think you might want an open relationship—or to change how you structure your open relationship—you’re probably trying to figure out exactly when and how to talk to your partner about that. 


I get it. That was me 16 years ago. And I was terrified. But if I hadn’t gathered the courage to have that first conversation, none of the past 16 years would be possible. 


In this episode, I’m going to teach you how.


You’ll learn the 4 Ws and an H of asking to opening up: Why, When, Where, How, and What.

Yes, it’s a different order than the usual “5 Ws and an H” — you’ll see why in the episode ;)


If you’re considering opening up or navigating an open (or open-ish) relationship and you want to talk about sex and outside connections more comfortably, expand your sex life, reduce tension and confusion, and create shared agreements that actually work in real life, then I want to invite you to enroll in Relationshift—we start June 15. 


This 9-week program is designed to fast track your desires—getting you talking easier, fighting less, fucking more, and overall having a fuller, more alive, more honest relationship and erotic life. You’ll have support every step of the way so that “someday” can become “today.” 


Registration is now open and spots are limited. Grab yours at thisisbgm.com/group

REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/



Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

]]><p>If you think you might want an open relationship—or to change how you structure your open relationship—you’re probably trying to figure out exactly when and how to talk to your partner about that.&nbsp;</p><p><br></p><p>I get it. That was me 16 years ago. And I was terrified.&nbsp;But if I hadn’t gathered the courage to have that first conversation, none of the past 16 years would be possible.&nbsp;</p><p><br></p><p>In this episode, I’m going to teach you how.</p><p><br></p><p>You’ll learn the 4 Ws and an H of asking to opening up: Why, When, Where, How, and What.</p><p>Yes, it’s a different order than the usual “5 Ws and an H” — you’ll see why in the episode ;)</p><p><br></p><p>If you’re considering opening up or navigating an open (or open-ish) relationship and you want to talk about sex and outside connections more comfortably, expand your sex life, reduce tension and confusion, and create shared agreements that actually work in real life, then I want to invite you to enroll in Relationshift—we start June 15.&nbsp;</p><p><br></p><p>This 9-week program is designed to fast track your desires—getting you talking easier, fighting less, fucking more, and overall having a fuller, more alive, more honest relationship and erotic life. You’ll have support every step of the way so that “someday” can become “today.”&nbsp;</p><p><br></p><p>Registration is now open and spots are limited. Grab yours at <a href="https://thisisbgm.com/group/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">thisisbgm.com/group</a></p><p></p><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!</span></p><p>Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex &amp; none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.</p><p><br></p><p><span style="background-color: rgb(250, 251, 255);">Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.</span></p><p><br></p><p>Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/</p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p>Connect with Brian on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/thisisbgm/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@ThisIsBGM</a> (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)</p>No00:22:08full<![CDATA[Opening up a relationship after 8 years with Keller]]>When John first brought up opening their relationship, Keller's response was fear. He didn't feel like enough. He didn't have a framework. And after 8 years together, the whole idea felt like it could unravel everything they'd built.


Four years later, he and John are married and navigating non-monogamy with more confidence and intention than Keller ever thought possible. In this conversation, you'll hear how he moved from insecurity to clarity, what tools he's still using today, and how he went from cautiously open to fully embracing polyamory.

REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


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]]>059a6d7a-d99f-4f7e-9948-c1989344e2b3_p6DwCLuL5iThu, 14 May 2026 18:03:51 GMTWhen John first brought up opening their relationship, Keller's response was fear. He didn't feel like enough. He didn't have a framework. And after 8 years together, the whole idea felt like it could unravel everything they'd built.


Four years later, he and John are married and navigating non-monogamy with more confidence and intention than Keller ever thought possible. In this conversation, you'll hear how he moved from insecurity to clarity, what tools he's still using today, and how he went from cautiously open to fully embracing polyamory.

REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


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]]><p>When John first brought up opening their relationship, Keller's response was fear. He didn't feel like enough. He didn't have a framework. And after 8 years together, the whole idea felt like it could unravel everything they'd built.</p><p><br></p><p>Four years later, he and John are married and navigating non-monogamy with more confidence and intention than Keller ever thought possible. In this conversation, you'll hear how he moved from insecurity to clarity, what tools he's still using today, and how he went from cautiously open to fully embracing polyamory.</p><p></p><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!</span></p><p>Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex &amp; none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.</p><p><br></p><p><span style="background-color: rgb(250, 251, 255);">Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.</span></p><p><br></p><p>Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/</p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p>Connect with Brian on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/thisisbgm/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@ThisIsBGM</a> (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)</p>No00:41:42full<![CDATA[Sexting, Snapchat, and Sending Nudes]]>Y'all are thirsty—and I say that with full love and zero judgment.


I've gotten a lot of questions lately about whether it's OK to send sexy pics when you're getting to know someone, and honestly, my default answer is always "you do you, boo." But there's more to it than that, so in this episode I'm diving into the when, why, and how of Snapchat, sexting, and sending nudes—whether you're single, dating, or already coupled up.


In this episode:

  • Why "who would buy the cow when the milk is free" is absolute BS—and what your sexuality actually is (and isn't)
  • Questions to ask yourself before hitting send
  • How to lead with the energy you're actually looking for (whether that's hot sex, a real connection, or both)
  • A word of caution if you're in a relationship
  • How to bring that off-the-charts erotic charge back with a long-term partner


Resources mentioned:


REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


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]]>b80dca08-ae90-4117-a55a-90ad76be1bdf_p6DwCLuL5iTue, 12 May 2026 11:00:07 GMTY'all are thirsty—and I say that with full love and zero judgment.


I've gotten a lot of questions lately about whether it's OK to send sexy pics when you're getting to know someone, and honestly, my default answer is always "you do you, boo." But there's more to it than that, so in this episode I'm diving into the when, why, and how of Snapchat, sexting, and sending nudes—whether you're single, dating, or already coupled up.


In this episode:

  • Why "who would buy the cow when the milk is free" is absolute BS—and what your sexuality actually is (and isn't)
  • Questions to ask yourself before hitting send
  • How to lead with the energy you're actually looking for (whether that's hot sex, a real connection, or both)
  • A word of caution if you're in a relationship
  • How to bring that off-the-charts erotic charge back with a long-term partner


Resources mentioned:


REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


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]]><p>Y'all are thirsty—and I say that with full love and zero judgment.</p><p><br></p><p>I've gotten a <em>lot</em> of questions lately about whether it's OK to send sexy pics when you're getting to know someone, and honestly, my default answer is always "you do you, boo." But there's more to it than that, so in this episode I'm diving into the when, why, and how of Snapchat, sexting, and sending nudes—whether you're single, dating, or already coupled up.</p><p><br></p><p><strong>In this episode:</strong></p><ul><li>Why "who would buy the cow when the milk is free" is absolute BS—and what your sexuality actually is (and isn't)</li><li>Questions to ask yourself before hitting send</li><li>How to lead with the energy you're actually looking for (whether that's hot sex, a real connection, or both)</li><li>A word of caution if you're in a relationship</li><li>How to bring that off-the-charts erotic charge back with a long-term partner</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Resources mentioned:</strong></p><ul><li>Commitment Clarity Checklist (free download): <a href="https://thisisbgm.com/clarity/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">thisisbgm.com/clarity</a></li><li>Relationshift group coaching program, starting June 15: <a href="https://thisisbgm.com/group/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">thisisbgm.com/group</a></li></ul><p><br></p><p></p><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!</span></p><p>Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex &amp; none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.</p><p><br></p><p><span style="background-color: rgb(250, 251, 255);">Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.</span></p><p><br></p><p>Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/</p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p>Connect with Brian on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/thisisbgm/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@ThisIsBGM</a> (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)</p>No00:15:49full<![CDATA[How to fight better in a relationship]]>Is fighting a sign of a failing relationship? Not necessarily!

Conflict is a natural and normal part of every relationship, what matters is how you approach conflict and how you feel during it.

If you find yourself battling with your partner--you know the feeling: butting heads, making arguments, poking holes, getting defensive, or if you find yourself making "compromises" that feel more like surrendering, then this episode is for you.

In this episode, you'll how to spot if conflict is turning into an unproductive and unhealthy fight and then Brian will walk you through a powerful way to reframe your fighting.

You are going to want different things than your partner, or have different opinions, or otherwise bump into each other, but after listening to this episode, you'll be able to do that in a way that brings you closer together rather than pushes your further apart.

REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


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]]>b1f70402-744d-4e01-8108-2793334c613f_p6DwCLuL5iThu, 07 May 2026 11:00:08 GMTIs fighting a sign of a failing relationship? Not necessarily!

Conflict is a natural and normal part of every relationship, what matters is how you approach conflict and how you feel during it.

If you find yourself battling with your partner--you know the feeling: butting heads, making arguments, poking holes, getting defensive, or if you find yourself making "compromises" that feel more like surrendering, then this episode is for you.

In this episode, you'll how to spot if conflict is turning into an unproductive and unhealthy fight and then Brian will walk you through a powerful way to reframe your fighting.

You are going to want different things than your partner, or have different opinions, or otherwise bump into each other, but after listening to this episode, you'll be able to do that in a way that brings you closer together rather than pushes your further apart.

REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


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]]><p>Is fighting a sign of a failing relationship? Not necessarily!</p><p>Conflict is a natural and normal part of every relationship, what matters is <em>how</em> you approach conflict and how you <em>feel</em> during it.</p><p>If you find yourself battling with your partner--you know the feeling: butting heads, making arguments, poking holes, getting defensive, or if you find yourself making "compromises" that feel more like surrendering, then this episode is for you.</p><p>In this episode, you'll how to spot if conflict is turning into an unproductive and unhealthy fight and then Brian will walk you through a powerful way to reframe your fighting.</p><p>You <em>are</em> going to want different things than your partner, or have different opinions, or otherwise bump into each other, but after listening to this episode, you'll be able to do that in a way that brings you closer together rather than pushes your further apart.</p><p></p><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!</span></p><p>Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex &amp; none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.</p><p><br></p><p><span style="background-color: rgb(250, 251, 255);">Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.</span></p><p><br></p><p>Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/</p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p>Connect with Brian on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/thisisbgm/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@ThisIsBGM</a> (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)</p>No00:17:25full<![CDATA[Better open relationship rules (and 3 tools to use instead)]]>Do you have rules for your open relationship or are you looking to set some? If so, you probably want open relationship rules to protect your relationship, keep yourselves safe, and to avoid any uncomfortable feelings like jealousy or insecurity. Makes sense!


A lot of couples in open relationships reach for a rulebook — no sleepovers, no feelings, always get permission first. And there's a reason: rules feel like a promise that jealousy and insecurity won't happen.


But here's what I see time and again: rules work... until they stop working.


Whether you're thinking about how to setup rules in your open relationship or have some rules that stopped working, this episode is for you.


I'm pulling back the curtain on what I've learned from working with nearly 100 couples, triads, and quads on what does work so that you can structure your relationship in a way that is safe, secure, and still sexy.


In this episode, you'll learn.

  • why couples set rules for their open relationship in the first place. 
  • Some examples of common, but ultimately unhelpful rules for you to avoid. 
  • Some examples of starter rules that you can use as you begin to open your relationship
  • How to craft your own relationship rules—what works and what doesn't
  • 3 tools to take your rules to the next level. (I've got something else that you can try instead or in addition.)


Mentioned in the episode:

How to set personal boundaries

REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


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]]>ebb8f0e5-c284-4c81-bf9d-f190c96ad029_p6DwCLuL5iThu, 30 Apr 2026 11:00:18 GMTDo you have rules for your open relationship or are you looking to set some? If so, you probably want open relationship rules to protect your relationship, keep yourselves safe, and to avoid any uncomfortable feelings like jealousy or insecurity. Makes sense!


A lot of couples in open relationships reach for a rulebook — no sleepovers, no feelings, always get permission first. And there's a reason: rules feel like a promise that jealousy and insecurity won't happen.


But here's what I see time and again: rules work... until they stop working.


Whether you're thinking about how to setup rules in your open relationship or have some rules that stopped working, this episode is for you.


I'm pulling back the curtain on what I've learned from working with nearly 100 couples, triads, and quads on what does work so that you can structure your relationship in a way that is safe, secure, and still sexy.


In this episode, you'll learn.

  • why couples set rules for their open relationship in the first place. 
  • Some examples of common, but ultimately unhelpful rules for you to avoid. 
  • Some examples of starter rules that you can use as you begin to open your relationship
  • How to craft your own relationship rules—what works and what doesn't
  • 3 tools to take your rules to the next level. (I've got something else that you can try instead or in addition.)


Mentioned in the episode:

How to set personal boundaries

REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


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]]><p>Do you have rules for your open relationship or are you looking to set some? If so, you probably want open relationship rules to protect your relationship, keep yourselves safe, and to avoid any uncomfortable feelings like jealousy or insecurity. Makes sense!</p><p><br></p><p>A lot of couples in open relationships reach for a rulebook — no sleepovers, no feelings, always get permission first. And there's a reason: rules feel like a promise that jealousy and insecurity won't happen.</p><p><br></p><p>But here's what I see time and again: rules work... until they stop working. </p><p><br></p><p>Whether you're thinking about how to setup rules in your open relationship or have some rules that stopped working, this episode is for you.</p><p><br></p><p><span style="background-color: rgb(250, 251, 255);">I'm pulling back the curtain on what I've learned from working with nearly 100 couples, triads, and quads on what&nbsp;</span><em>does&nbsp;</em><span style="background-color: rgb(250, 251, 255);">work so that you can structure&nbsp;</span><em>your</em><span style="background-color: rgb(250, 251, 255);">&nbsp;relationship in a way that is safe, secure, and still sexy.</span></p><p><br></p><p>In this episode, you'll learn.</p><ul><li>why couples set rules for their open relationship in the first place.&nbsp;</li><li>Some examples of common, but ultimately unhelpful rules for you to avoid.&nbsp;</li><li>Some examples of starter rules that you can use as you begin to open your relationship</li><li>How to craft your own relationship rules—what works and what doesn't</li><li>3 tools to take your rules to the next level. (I've got something else that you can try instead or in addition.)</li></ul><p><br></p><p>Mentioned in the episode:</p><p><a href="https://pod.link/1876076895/episode/NjkyMmZkOWItMDk4My00MjY3LTkwNzktZjVmOTMxMDQ4YjBlX3A2RHdDTHVMNWk" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">How to set personal boundaries</a></p><p></p><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!</span></p><p>Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex &amp; none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.</p><p><br></p><p><span style="background-color: rgb(250, 251, 255);">Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.</span></p><p><br></p><p>Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/</p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p>Connect with Brian on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/thisisbgm/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@ThisIsBGM</a> (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)</p>No00:16:39full<![CDATA[The real reason your boundaries aren't working (and what needs to change)]]>"Boundaries" pack a lot of promise: from personal protection to being the key to a successful relationship.


Personal boundaries are important in a relationship. But sometimes saying that is either than setting them. Or maybe you've had the language of boundaries weaponized against you when trying to advocate for yourself or your own needs.


In this episode, Brian breaks down what a boundary actually is (and what it isn't), why some people are accidentally using boundaries as a tool for control, and how getting clear on your own real, personal limits puts you back in control no matter what your partner does.


You'll learn how to tell the difference between a boundary, a preference, and a request — and why knowing the difference is key actually getting what you want and need in a relationship.


At the end of the day, whether you call them boundaries, rules, guidelines, requests, or needs... we want you to have all the tools you need for a healthy and thriving relationship.


This episode will be another tool in your relationship toolbox.


And if you want support getting clear on your limits, improving communication, and getting more of what you actually want in your relationship, apply for coaching with Brian at thisisbgm.com/apply.

REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/



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]]>6922fd9b-0983-4267-9079-f5f931048b0e_p6DwCLuL5iThu, 23 Apr 2026 11:07:51 GMT"Boundaries" pack a lot of promise: from personal protection to being the key to a successful relationship.


Personal boundaries are important in a relationship. But sometimes saying that is either than setting them. Or maybe you've had the language of boundaries weaponized against you when trying to advocate for yourself or your own needs.


In this episode, Brian breaks down what a boundary actually is (and what it isn't), why some people are accidentally using boundaries as a tool for control, and how getting clear on your own real, personal limits puts you back in control no matter what your partner does.


You'll learn how to tell the difference between a boundary, a preference, and a request — and why knowing the difference is key actually getting what you want and need in a relationship.


At the end of the day, whether you call them boundaries, rules, guidelines, requests, or needs... we want you to have all the tools you need for a healthy and thriving relationship.


This episode will be another tool in your relationship toolbox.


And if you want support getting clear on your limits, improving communication, and getting more of what you actually want in your relationship, apply for coaching with Brian at thisisbgm.com/apply.

REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/



Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

]]><p>"Boundaries" pack a lot of promise: from personal protection to being the key to a successful relationship.</p><p><br></p><p>Personal boundaries are important in a relationship. But sometimes saying that is either than setting them. Or maybe you've had the language of boundaries weaponized against you when trying to advocate for yourself or your own needs.</p><p><br></p><p>In this episode, Brian breaks down what a boundary actually is (and what it isn't), why some people are accidentally using boundaries as a tool for control, and how getting clear on your own real, personal limits puts you back in control no matter what your partner does.</p><p><br></p><p>You'll learn how to tell the difference between a boundary, a preference, and a request — and why knowing the difference is key actually getting what you want and need in a relationship.</p><p><br></p><p>At the end of the day, whether you call them boundaries, rules, guidelines, requests, or needs... we want you to have all the tools you need for a healthy and thriving relationship.</p><p><br></p><p>This episode will be another tool in your relationship toolbox.</p><p><br></p><p>And if you want support getting clear on your limits, improving communication, and getting more of what you actually want in your relationship, apply for coaching with Brian at&nbsp;<a href="http://thisisbgm.com/apply" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">thisisbgm.com/apply</a>.</p><p></p><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!</span></p><p>Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex &amp; none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.</p><p><br></p><p><span style="background-color: rgb(250, 251, 255);">Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.</span></p><p><br></p><p>Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/</p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p>Connect with Brian on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/thisisbgm/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@ThisIsBGM</a> (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)</p>No00:18:02full<![CDATA[If you feel overwhelmed in your open relationship...]]>In this episode, Brian G. Murphy explores the importance of embracing uncomfortable feelings in open and polyamorous relationships.

If you're in an open or polyamorous relationship and you feel overwhelmed, jealous, frustrated, or insecure, there's nothing wrong with you. And you aren't "bad" for feeling that way.

So where do you go from there?

Push down those feelings and try to make them go away?

Abandon non-monogamy and try to go back to monogamy? (or end the relationship?!)

There's another path. One that doesn't ask you to ignore your feelings nor to drastically change a relationship structure that has the potential to be meaningful (and fun) for everyone involved.

In this episode, you'll get some practical advice on how to acknowledge and work uncomfortable feelings to build stronger, more authentic connections.

These feelings you're most afraid of?

They are doorways to even more strength, commitment, and confidence in your relationship if you learn how to listen to them and take care of each other.

REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


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]]>50f778d1-faa1-49b2-b211-b535da3501df_p6DwCLuL5iThu, 16 Apr 2026 11:00:51 GMTIn this episode, Brian G. Murphy explores the importance of embracing uncomfortable feelings in open and polyamorous relationships.

If you're in an open or polyamorous relationship and you feel overwhelmed, jealous, frustrated, or insecure, there's nothing wrong with you. And you aren't "bad" for feeling that way.

So where do you go from there?

Push down those feelings and try to make them go away?

Abandon non-monogamy and try to go back to monogamy? (or end the relationship?!)

There's another path. One that doesn't ask you to ignore your feelings nor to drastically change a relationship structure that has the potential to be meaningful (and fun) for everyone involved.

In this episode, you'll get some practical advice on how to acknowledge and work uncomfortable feelings to build stronger, more authentic connections.

These feelings you're most afraid of?

They are doorways to even more strength, commitment, and confidence in your relationship if you learn how to listen to them and take care of each other.

REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


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]]><p>In this episode, Brian G. Murphy explores the importance of embracing uncomfortable feelings in open and polyamorous relationships.</p><p>If you're in an open or polyamorous relationship and you feel overwhelmed, jealous, frustrated, or insecure, there's nothing wrong with you. And you aren't "bad" for feeling that way.</p><p>So where do you go from there?</p><p>Push down those feelings and try to make them go away?</p><p>Abandon non-monogamy and try to go back to monogamy? (or end the relationship?!)</p><p>There's another path. One that doesn't ask you to ignore your feelings nor to drastically change a relationship structure that has the potential to be meaningful (and fun) for everyone involved.</p><p>In this episode, you'll get some practical advice on how to acknowledge and work uncomfortable feelings to build stronger, more authentic connections.</p><p>These feelings you're most afraid of?</p><p>They are doorways to even more strength, commitment, and confidence in your relationship <em>if</em> you learn how to listen to them and take care of each other.</p><p></p><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!</span></p><p>Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex &amp; none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.</p><p><br></p><p><span style="background-color: rgb(250, 251, 255);">Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.</span></p><p><br></p><p>Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/</p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p>Connect with Brian on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/thisisbgm/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@ThisIsBGM</a> (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)</p>No00:21:28full<![CDATA[Watch out for this common conflict mistake]]>If you try hard to communicate well in your relationship,

and you care deeply about your partner,

and so you try really hard to fix any problems in your relationship right when they come up...

... that's understandable. It's even a loving and helpful impulse.


BUT you might be skipping one important step and making a mistake that actually makes your conflict harder than it needs to be.


In this episode, you'll learn:

  • a big conflict mistake Brian sees in his coaching clients (and has dealt with himself, too)
  • how Brian approached conflict in the past—and why that didn't serve him well
  • how to spot this conflict mistake in your own relationship
  • tools to approach conflict differently so you can handle conflict more productively (and with less frustration!)

REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/



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]]>30e5880b-8e58-48a4-a1c2-6086c8bb7a1d_p6DwCLuL5iThu, 09 Apr 2026 12:46:37 GMTIf you try hard to communicate well in your relationship,

and you care deeply about your partner,

and so you try really hard to fix any problems in your relationship right when they come up...

... that's understandable. It's even a loving and helpful impulse.


BUT you might be skipping one important step and making a mistake that actually makes your conflict harder than it needs to be.


In this episode, you'll learn:

  • a big conflict mistake Brian sees in his coaching clients (and has dealt with himself, too)
  • how Brian approached conflict in the past—and why that didn't serve him well
  • how to spot this conflict mistake in your own relationship
  • tools to approach conflict differently so you can handle conflict more productively (and with less frustration!)

REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/



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]]><p>If you try hard to communicate well in your relationship,</p><p>and you care deeply about your partner,</p><p>and so you try really hard to fix any problems in your relationship right when they come up...</p><p>... that's understandable. It's even a loving and helpful impulse.</p><p><br></p><p>BUT you might be skipping one important step and making a mistake that actually makes your conflict harder than it needs to be.</p><p><br></p><p>In this episode, you'll learn:</p><ul><li>a big conflict mistake Brian sees in his coaching clients (and has dealt with himself, too)</li><li>how Brian approached conflict in the past—and why that didn't serve him well</li><li>how to spot this conflict mistake in your own relationship</li><li>tools to approach conflict differently so you can handle conflict more productively (and with less frustration!)</li></ul><p></p><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!</span></p><p>Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex &amp; none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.</p><p><br></p><p><span style="background-color: rgb(250, 251, 255);">Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.</span></p><p><br></p><p>Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/</p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p>Connect with Brian on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/thisisbgm/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@ThisIsBGM</a> (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)</p>No00:15:30full<![CDATA[Monogam-ish vs. Open-ish Relationship: Are You Stuck in the Grey Zone?]]>In between "monogamy" and an "open relationship," there’s a grey area… you’re technically monogamous anymore but “open” isn’t really accurate either.


This ish space can be fun and fulfilling or it can be stressful and unsatisfying. It depends on which ish you’re in.


In this episode you'll learn

  • the difference between monogamish (a term coined by Dan Savage) and open-ish — a term Brian uses to describe couples who are in transition, in a blurry in between, or not-quite-monogamous circumstances you've sorta sumbled into
  • who a monogamish relationship is right for
  • how to spot if you're in an open-ish relationship
  • What makes an open-ish relationship work well (vs wha will make it feel miserable)
  • 4 steps you need to get unstuck from an open-ish relationship that isn't serving you


Whether monogamish is your happy place or you're ready to move toward something more open (or back toward monogamy entirely), our goal is the same: helping you stop gritting your teeth in your relationship and get back to enjoying it even more.

REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/



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]]>b3754c6d-6f05-40cb-ac78-b010ef369d70_p6DwCLuL5iThu, 02 Apr 2026 10:51:41 GMTIn between "monogamy" and an "open relationship," there’s a grey area… you’re technically monogamous anymore but “open” isn’t really accurate either.


This ish space can be fun and fulfilling or it can be stressful and unsatisfying. It depends on which ish you’re in.


In this episode you'll learn

  • the difference between monogamish (a term coined by Dan Savage) and open-ish — a term Brian uses to describe couples who are in transition, in a blurry in between, or not-quite-monogamous circumstances you've sorta sumbled into
  • who a monogamish relationship is right for
  • how to spot if you're in an open-ish relationship
  • What makes an open-ish relationship work well (vs wha will make it feel miserable)
  • 4 steps you need to get unstuck from an open-ish relationship that isn't serving you


Whether monogamish is your happy place or you're ready to move toward something more open (or back toward monogamy entirely), our goal is the same: helping you stop gritting your teeth in your relationship and get back to enjoying it even more.

REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/



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]]><p>In between "monogamy" and an "open relationship," there’s a grey area… you’re technically monogamous anymore but “open” isn’t really accurate either.</p><p><br></p><p>This <em>ish</em> space can be fun and fulfilling or it can be stressful and unsatisfying. It depends on which <em>ish</em> you’re in.</p><p><br></p><p><strong>In this episode you'll learn </strong></p><ul><li>the difference between <em>monogamish</em> (a term coined by Dan Savage) and <em>open-ish</em> — a term Brian uses to describe couples who are in transition, in a blurry in between, or not-quite-monogamous circumstances you've sorta sumbled into</li><li>who a monogamish relationship is right for</li><li>how to spot if you're in an open-ish relationship</li><li>What makes an open-ish relationship work well (vs wha will make it feel miserable)</li><li>4 steps you need to get unstuck from an open-ish relationship that isn't serving you</li></ul><p><br></p><p>Whether monogamish is your happy place or you're ready to move toward something more open (or back toward monogamy entirely), our goal is the same: helping you stop gritting your teeth in your relationship and get back to enjoying it even more.</p><p></p><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!</span></p><p>Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex &amp; none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.</p><p><br></p><p><span style="background-color: rgb(250, 251, 255);">Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.</span></p><p><br></p><p>Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/</p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p>Connect with Brian on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/thisisbgm/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@ThisIsBGM</a> (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)</p>No00:17:57full<![CDATA[Open Relationship Myths]]>Whether you're considering opening up your relationship, already in an open relationship and wondering "maybe this is just how its supposed to be?," or new dating match say he's polyamorous... you may or may not have some ideas about what it means to be open or polyamorous and they may or may not be accurate.

In this episode, Brian G Murphy busts many of the common nonmonogamy myths and shares with you what it's really like to be in an open relationship.

If your open relationship isn't working the way you'd like—or you're considering opening up and want to make sure do it well—Relationshift private coaching is your guide to a right-fit relationship and satisfying sex life. Apply at thisisbgm.com/apply

 

Links to resources referenced in this episode:

  • "Good" vs "Bad" Feelings In A Relationship - YouTube
  • 7 Tips for Dealing With Uncomfortable Feelings In A Relationship - YouTube
  • The Ethical Slut - Bookshop
  • Do you know what "cheating" means in your relationship? - podcast
  • The State of Affairs - Amazon | Bookshop

 

Have a question about non-monogamy for Brian? Ask him by sending a message on Instagram (@ThisIsBGM) or by email to brian@thisisbgm.com.

REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


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]]>d7fa7a99-1df9-48fa-bf4c-54d51129a93c_p6DwCLuL5iThu, 26 Mar 2026 11:15:50 GMTWhether you're considering opening up your relationship, already in an open relationship and wondering "maybe this is just how its supposed to be?," or new dating match say he's polyamorous... you may or may not have some ideas about what it means to be open or polyamorous and they may or may not be accurate.

In this episode, Brian G Murphy busts many of the common nonmonogamy myths and shares with you what it's really like to be in an open relationship.

If your open relationship isn't working the way you'd like—or you're considering opening up and want to make sure do it well—Relationshift private coaching is your guide to a right-fit relationship and satisfying sex life. Apply at thisisbgm.com/apply

 

Links to resources referenced in this episode:

  • "Good" vs "Bad" Feelings In A Relationship - YouTube
  • 7 Tips for Dealing With Uncomfortable Feelings In A Relationship - YouTube
  • The Ethical Slut - Bookshop
  • Do you know what "cheating" means in your relationship? - podcast
  • The State of Affairs - Amazon | Bookshop

 

Have a question about non-monogamy for Brian? Ask him by sending a message on Instagram (@ThisIsBGM) or by email to brian@thisisbgm.com.

REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/



Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

]]><p>Whether you're considering opening up your relationship, already <em>in</em> an open relationship and wondering "maybe this is just how its supposed to be?," or new dating match say he's polyamorous... you may or may not have some ideas about what it means to be open or polyamorous and they may or may not be accurate.</p><p>In this episode, Brian G Murphy busts many of the common nonmonogamy myths and shares with you what it's really like to be in an open relationship.</p><p>If your open relationship isn't working the way you'd like—or you're considering opening up and want to make sure do it well—Relationshift private coaching is your guide to a right-fit relationship and satisfying sex life. Apply at thisisbgm.com/apply</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>Links to resources referenced in this episode:</p><ul><li>"Good" vs "Bad" Feelings In A Relationship - <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q8T81AgP-cA&amp;t=4s" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">YouTube</a></li><li>7 Tips for Dealing With Uncomfortable Feelings In A Relationship - <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S3dJX8GyjrI" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">YouTube</a></li><li><em>The Ethical Slut</em> - <a href="https://bookshop.org/a/82444/9780399579660" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Bookshop</a></li><li>Do you know what "cheating" means in your relationship? - podcast</li><li><em>The State of Affairs</em> - <a href="https://amzn.to/4uAqIlo" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Amazon</a> | <a href="https://bookshop.org/a/82444/9780062322593" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Bookshop</a></li></ul><p>&nbsp;</p><p>Have a question about non-monogamy for Brian? Ask him by sending a message on Instagram (<a href="https://www.instagram.com/thisisbgm/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@ThisIsBGM</a>) or by email to <a href="mailto:brian@thisisbgm.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">brian@thisisbgm.com</a>.</p><p></p><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!</span></p><p>Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex &amp; none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.</p><p><br></p><p><span style="background-color: rgb(250, 251, 255);">Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.</span></p><p><br></p><p>Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/</p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p>Connect with Brian on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/thisisbgm/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@ThisIsBGM</a> (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)</p>No00:11:52full<![CDATA[Do you know what "cheating" means in your relationship?]]>Is watching porn cheating? What about dancing with a stranger? or sexting with a friend? Whatever your answer is, I know that there is someone out there equally confident that the opposite is true.


In my work as a relationship coach, nearly every person I talk to has a different idea about what would "count" as cheating—and sometimes partners even have different definitions!


In this episode, I want to help you avoid the accidental cheating trap, get clear on what commitment means to you, and build a thriving relationship on your own terms.


Whether you're monogamous, open, polyamorous, or in the process of figuring that out right now, it's important that you and your partner are on the same page about what the structure of your relationship and what everyone involved is comfortable with.


This is especially important if you're considering opening up or in the process of opening up! I know you may be excited to jump into the fun, but breaches of trust based on misunderstands will only complicate the process. So let's get you some clarity!


If you want a short, simple guide to walk you through the process of clarifying what the agreements of your relationship are right now, download the free Commitment Clarity Checklist at thisisbgm.com/clarity

REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


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]]>3e8eb353-39b7-4168-af4a-adc5bc617e6e_p6DwCLuL5iThu, 19 Mar 2026 11:10:19 GMTIs watching porn cheating? What about dancing with a stranger? or sexting with a friend? Whatever your answer is, I know that there is someone out there equally confident that the opposite is true.


In my work as a relationship coach, nearly every person I talk to has a different idea about what would "count" as cheating—and sometimes partners even have different definitions!


In this episode, I want to help you avoid the accidental cheating trap, get clear on what commitment means to you, and build a thriving relationship on your own terms.


Whether you're monogamous, open, polyamorous, or in the process of figuring that out right now, it's important that you and your partner are on the same page about what the structure of your relationship and what everyone involved is comfortable with.


This is especially important if you're considering opening up or in the process of opening up! I know you may be excited to jump into the fun, but breaches of trust based on misunderstands will only complicate the process. So let's get you some clarity!


If you want a short, simple guide to walk you through the process of clarifying what the agreements of your relationship are right now, download the free Commitment Clarity Checklist at thisisbgm.com/clarity

REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/



Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

]]><p>Is watching porn cheating? What about dancing with a stranger? or sexting with a friend? Whatever your answer is, I know that there is someone out there equally confident that the opposite is true.</p><p><br></p><p>In my work as a relationship coach, nearly every person I talk to has a different idea about what would "count" as cheating—and sometimes partners even have different definitions!</p><p><br></p><p>In this episode, I want to help you avoid the accidental cheating trap, get clear on what commitment means to you, and build a thriving relationship on your own terms.</p><p><br></p><p>Whether you're monogamous, open, polyamorous, or in the process of figuring that out right now, it's important that you and your partner are on the same page about what the structure of your relationship and what everyone involved is comfortable with.</p><p><br></p><p>This is especially important if you're considering opening up or in the process of opening up! I know you may be excited to jump into the fun, but breaches of trust based on misunderstands will only complicate the process. So let's get you some clarity!</p><p><br></p><p>If you want a short, simple guide to walk you through the process of clarifying what the agreements of your relationship are <em>right now, </em>download the free Commitment Clarity Checklist at <a href="https://www.thisisbgm.com/clarity" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">thisisbgm.com/clarity</a></p><p></p><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!</span></p><p>Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex &amp; none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.</p><p><br></p><p><span style="background-color: rgb(250, 251, 255);">Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.</span></p><p><br></p><p>Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/</p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p>Connect with Brian on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/thisisbgm/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@ThisIsBGM</a> (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)</p>No00:10:41full<![CDATA[Harder & Easier Ways to Open a Relationship]]>If you're thinking about opening up your relationship—or have opened it partway already—you may think that if you just go slow enough, everything will work out. While it's important to go at a slow and steady pace, there are 3 major pitfalls I see when partners are starting to open their relationship. In this episode, Brian shares what those are so you can avoid unnecessary stress, conflict, fear, or resentment as well as changes you can make to the process to make opening up (or deciding not to open up) smoother.


Opening up can bring you closer together if you do it well. This episode will help you do just that.


Resources mentioned in this episode:

REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


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]]>6729642a-ebfb-41eb-ada2-b0fc0821ba2e_p6DwCLuL5iThu, 12 Mar 2026 11:15:14 GMTIf you're thinking about opening up your relationship—or have opened it partway already—you may think that if you just go slow enough, everything will work out. While it's important to go at a slow and steady pace, there are 3 major pitfalls I see when partners are starting to open their relationship. In this episode, Brian shares what those are so you can avoid unnecessary stress, conflict, fear, or resentment as well as changes you can make to the process to make opening up (or deciding not to open up) smoother.


Opening up can bring you closer together if you do it well. This episode will help you do just that.


Resources mentioned in this episode:

REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


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]]><p>If you're thinking about opening up your relationship—or have opened it partway already—you may think that if you just go slow enough, everything will work out. While it's important to go at a slow and steady pace, there are 3 major pitfalls I see when partners are starting to open their relationship. In this episode, Brian shares what those are so you can avoid unnecessary stress, conflict, fear, or resentment as well as changes you can make to the process to make opening up (or deciding not to open up) smoother.</p><p><br></p><p>Opening up can bring you <em>closer</em> together if you do it well. This episode will help you do just that.</p><p><br></p><p><strong>Resources mentioned in this episode:</strong></p><ul><li><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent;">Commitment Clarity Checklist - </span><a href="https://www.thisisbgm.com/clarity" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank" style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: rgb(250, 251, 255);">thisisbbm.com/clarity</a></li><li>Weekly Sync Session workbook and training - <a href="https://www.thisisbgm.com/sync" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">thisisbgm.com/sync</a></li><li>Private support to make opening up feel smooth, safe, and secure: <a href="https://www.thisisbgm.com/apply" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">thisisbgm.com/apply</a></li></ul><p></p><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!</span></p><p>Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex &amp; none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.</p><p><br></p><p><span style="background-color: rgb(250, 251, 255);">Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.</span></p><p><br></p><p>Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/</p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p>Connect with Brian on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/thisisbgm/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@ThisIsBGM</a> (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)</p>No00:12:41full<![CDATA[Pleasure Is Political]]>What if your sex life wasn't a distraction from everything going on in the world right now but actually one of your most powerful responses to it?


In this episode, Brian shares how your sex life is political. He breaks down how sex shame has been used as a tool of control, why it's important to feed your own sexual pleasure as a way to tend to your relationship (even when doing so feels scary), and what it actually means to claim sex and pleasure as an act of defiance in a political moment designed to make you feel small.


This one is equal parts liberation theory and practical invitation. We need you fully alive and sex is part of that.


If you're ready to stop putting your desire on hold and build a fuller, more alive erotic life, Relationshift private coaching with Brian will get you there. Your next step is to schedule a free Next Steps Call. Apply at thisisbgm.com/apply.

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Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


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]]>6618cfdb-aed0-4925-a0aa-2626c4698f58_p6DwCLuL5iThu, 05 Mar 2026 12:15:11 GMTWhat if your sex life wasn't a distraction from everything going on in the world right now but actually one of your most powerful responses to it?


In this episode, Brian shares how your sex life is political. He breaks down how sex shame has been used as a tool of control, why it's important to feed your own sexual pleasure as a way to tend to your relationship (even when doing so feels scary), and what it actually means to claim sex and pleasure as an act of defiance in a political moment designed to make you feel small.


This one is equal parts liberation theory and practical invitation. We need you fully alive and sex is part of that.


If you're ready to stop putting your desire on hold and build a fuller, more alive erotic life, Relationshift private coaching with Brian will get you there. Your next step is to schedule a free Next Steps Call. Apply at thisisbgm.com/apply.

REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


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]]><p>What if your sex life wasn't a distraction from everything going on in the world right now but actually one of your most powerful responses to it?</p><p><br></p><p>In this episode, Brian shares how your sex life is political. He breaks down how sex shame has been used as a tool of control, why it's important <span style="background-color: rgb(250, 251, 255);">to feed your own sexual pleasure as a way to tend to your relationship (even when doing so feels scary), and</span> what it actually means to claim sex and pleasure as an act of defiance in a political moment designed to make you feel small.</p><p><br></p><p>This one is equal parts liberation theory and practical invitation. We need you fully alive and sex is part of that.</p><p><br></p><p>If you're ready to stop putting your desire on hold and build a fuller, more alive erotic life, Relationshift private coaching with Brian will get you there. Your next step is to schedule a free Next Steps Call. Apply at <a href="https://www.thisisbgm.com/apply" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">thisisbgm.com/apply</a>.</p><p></p><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!</span></p><p>Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex &amp; none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.</p><p><br></p><p><span style="background-color: rgb(250, 251, 255);">Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.</span></p><p><br></p><p>Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/</p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p>Connect with Brian on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/thisisbgm/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@ThisIsBGM</a> (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)</p>No00:17:15full<![CDATA[How Sex Parties Can Lead to Connection and Creativity feat Jonah Wheeler]]>In this episode, Brian G. Murphy talks with Jonah Wheeler (@ShowOffJonah) about finding community and meaning in group sex. Tune in if you're curious to give group sex try or wanting to feel more comfortable, less nervous, more confident, and less ashamed about the sex you're already having.


This is one part how-to and best practices and another part about how to see group experiences not as something scandalous, secretive, or shameful but rather as fun, sexy, and even meaningful experiences.


You'll learn some practical tips on cruising and consent, hear personal stories about two of Jonah's group experiences, and explore how to find confidence, connection, and community in group spaces.


If you want more when it comes to sex—more confidence, more connection, more meaning, or just more of it... Relationshift private coaching with Brian will get you there. Interested? Your next step is to schedule a decision making call so Brian can do a deep dive into your desires and challenges, share all the details about coaching, and answer any questions you have. Apply here.


This interview conversation was recorded as part of preparation for Brian's book Love Beyond Monogamy which is available everywhere books are sold. If you want to find even more connections sex, relationships, and spirituality (and hear even gems from Jonah), pick up a copy today!


There's a part-two of this interview coming in a few weeks so make sure you're subscribed to get it when it drops!

REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


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]]>3b5a9b1c-9a9c-44c5-9885-405207c99f5a_p6DwCLuL5iThu, 26 Feb 2026 12:15:39 GMTIn this episode, Brian G. Murphy talks with Jonah Wheeler (@ShowOffJonah) about finding community and meaning in group sex. Tune in if you're curious to give group sex try or wanting to feel more comfortable, less nervous, more confident, and less ashamed about the sex you're already having.


This is one part how-to and best practices and another part about how to see group experiences not as something scandalous, secretive, or shameful but rather as fun, sexy, and even meaningful experiences.


You'll learn some practical tips on cruising and consent, hear personal stories about two of Jonah's group experiences, and explore how to find confidence, connection, and community in group spaces.


If you want more when it comes to sex—more confidence, more connection, more meaning, or just more of it... Relationshift private coaching with Brian will get you there. Interested? Your next step is to schedule a decision making call so Brian can do a deep dive into your desires and challenges, share all the details about coaching, and answer any questions you have. Apply here.


This interview conversation was recorded as part of preparation for Brian's book Love Beyond Monogamy which is available everywhere books are sold. If you want to find even more connections sex, relationships, and spirituality (and hear even gems from Jonah), pick up a copy today!


There's a part-two of this interview coming in a few weeks so make sure you're subscribed to get it when it drops!

REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


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]]><p>In this episode, Brian G. Murphy talks with Jonah Wheeler (@ShowOffJonah) about finding community and meaning in group sex. Tune in if you're curious to give group sex try or wanting to feel more comfortable, less nervous, more confident, and less ashamed about the sex you're already having.</p><p><br></p><p>This is one part how-to and best practices and another part about how to see group experiences not as something scandalous, secretive, or shameful but rather as fun, sexy, and even meaningful experiences.</p><p><br></p><p>You'll learn some practical tips on cruising and consent, hear personal stories about two of Jonah's group experiences, and explore how to find confidence, connection, and community in group spaces.</p><p><br></p><p><span style="background-color: rgb(250, 251, 255);">If you want </span><em style="background-color: rgb(250, 251, 255);">more</em><span style="background-color: rgb(250, 251, 255);"> when it comes to sex—more confidence, more connection, more meaning, or just more of it... Relationshift private coaching with Brian will get you there. Interested? Your next step is to schedule a decision making call so Brian can do a deep dive into your desires and challenges, share all the details about coaching, and answer any questions you have. </span><a href="https://www.briangerald.com/apply" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank" style="background-color: rgb(250, 251, 255);">Apply here.</a></p><p><br></p><p>This interview conversation was recorded as part of preparation for Brian's book <em>Love Beyond Monogamy</em> which is available everywhere books are sold. If you want to find even more connections sex, relationships, and spirituality (and hear <span style="background-color: rgb(250, 251, 255);">even gems from Jonah), pick up a copy today!</span></p><p><br></p><p><span style="background-color: rgb(250, 251, 255);">There's a part-two of this interview coming in a few weeks so make sure you're subscribed to get it when it drops!</span></p><p></p><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!</span></p><p>Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex &amp; none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.</p><p><br></p><p><span style="background-color: rgb(250, 251, 255);">Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.</span></p><p><br></p><p>Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/</p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p>Connect with Brian on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/thisisbgm/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@ThisIsBGM</a> (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)</p>No00:26:03full<![CDATA[Is an open relationship right for me?]]>There are lots of reasons you may consider an open relationship—or consider opening up more than you already are. I’ve been there myself and I’ve helped a ton of people answer that question for themselves. Whatever your reasons for asking yourself that question, I’m gonna help you figure it out. 

REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


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]]>e7d4339a-bc88-46f0-bf6b-e9d842104414_p6DwCLuL5iThu, 19 Feb 2026 12:15:14 GMTThere are lots of reasons you may consider an open relationship—or consider opening up more than you already are. I’ve been there myself and I’ve helped a ton of people answer that question for themselves. Whatever your reasons for asking yourself that question, I’m gonna help you figure it out. 

REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


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]]><p>There are lots of reasons you may consider an open relationship—or consider opening up more than you already are. I’ve been there myself and I’ve helped a ton of people answer that question for themselves. Whatever your reasons for asking yourself that question, I’m gonna help you figure it out.&nbsp;</p><p></p><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!</span></p><p>Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex &amp; none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.</p><p><br></p><p><span style="background-color: rgb(250, 251, 255);">Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.</span></p><p><br></p><p>Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/</p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p>Connect with Brian on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/thisisbgm/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@ThisIsBGM</a> (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)</p>No00:13:06full<![CDATA[From "rock bottom" to "our strongest point" with Matt & Dylan]]>The very things that Matt and Dylan were doing that they thought were being helpful and kind ended up being the very things that hurt each other the most. When Matt and Dylan started working with me, they described their relationship as nearing rock bottom. Now, they've bought their first home together and are at "our strongest point."


In this episode, you'll learn about some traps that couple can fall into (so you can avoid them), what really goes into strengthening a relationship, and how to make commitment work for the long-term.


I hope you'll be inspired by Matt & Dylan's relationship!

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Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


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]]>99594657-ef8e-4da6-8d39-f0341d04cafe_p6DwCLuL5iThu, 12 Feb 2026 12:17:04 GMTThe very things that Matt and Dylan were doing that they thought were being helpful and kind ended up being the very things that hurt each other the most. When Matt and Dylan started working with me, they described their relationship as nearing rock bottom. Now, they've bought their first home together and are at "our strongest point."


In this episode, you'll learn about some traps that couple can fall into (so you can avoid them), what really goes into strengthening a relationship, and how to make commitment work for the long-term.


I hope you'll be inspired by Matt & Dylan's relationship!

REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


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]]><p>The very things that Matt and Dylan were doing that they <em>thought </em>were being helpful and kind ended up being the very things that hurt each other the most. When Matt and Dylan started working with me, they described their relationship as nearing rock bottom. Now, they've bought their first home together and are at "our strongest point."</p><p><br></p><p>In this episode, you'll learn about some traps that couple can fall into (so you can avoid them), what really goes into strengthening a relationship, and how to make commitment work for the long-term.</p><p><br></p><p>I hope you'll be inspired by Matt &amp; Dylan's relationship!</p><p></p><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!</span></p><p>Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex &amp; none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.</p><p><br></p><p><span style="background-color: rgb(250, 251, 255);">Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.</span></p><p><br></p><p>Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/</p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p>Connect with Brian on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/thisisbgm/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@ThisIsBGM</a> (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)</p>No00:31:13full<![CDATA[6 signs of a healthy relationship]]>Everyone wants a healthy relationship but the sad truth is, a staggering amount of them aren’t. Between lying, cheating, neglect, crappy communication, bad sex, and more unhealthy relationships take many forms. And because conflict makes for good television and music, we unfortunately don’t get as many examples of happy, healthy relationships.

 

To help you figure out if you’re in a healthy relationship, I put together 6 signs to look for.

 

Links from the episode:

Relationship Conflict & Communication Skills video playlist

Brian's YouTube channel

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Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


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]]>bbbaef5b-fd39-40a5-8af4-e9d41c1023cd_p6DwCLuL5iThu, 12 Feb 2026 12:16:34 GMTEveryone wants a healthy relationship but the sad truth is, a staggering amount of them aren’t. Between lying, cheating, neglect, crappy communication, bad sex, and more unhealthy relationships take many forms. And because conflict makes for good television and music, we unfortunately don’t get as many examples of happy, healthy relationships.

 

To help you figure out if you’re in a healthy relationship, I put together 6 signs to look for.

 

Links from the episode:

Relationship Conflict & Communication Skills video playlist

Brian's YouTube channel

REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


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]]><p>Everyone wants a healthy relationship but the sad truth is, a staggering amount of them aren’t. Between lying, cheating, neglect, crappy communication, bad sex, and more unhealthy relationships take many forms. And because conflict makes for good television and music, we unfortunately don’t get as many examples of happy, healthy relationships.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>To help you figure out if you’re in a healthy relationship, I put together 6 signs to look for.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>Links from the episode:</p><p><a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2PYCZB5bAHk&amp;list=PL-t8NaHxTCEIyuJS68IOPUyqS9QqZ7kQf" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Relationship Conflict &amp; Communication Skills video playlist</a></p><p><a href="https://youtube.com/@thisisbgm" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Brian's YouTube channel</a></p><p></p><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!</span></p><p>Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex &amp; none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.</p><p><br></p><p><span style="background-color: rgb(250, 251, 255);">Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.</span></p><p><br></p><p>Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/</p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p>Connect with Brian on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/thisisbgm/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@ThisIsBGM</a> (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)</p>No00:07:16full<![CDATA[From Shame to Sexually Liberated]]>How do you know if shame is holding you back from the best version of your relationship or sex life? The tricky thing about shame is that it sneaks in and disguises itself as truth. Regardless of how long you've been dating and hooking up, no matter how long you've identified as kinky or queer, whether you've had 1 partner or 100 ... it's possible that there is another level of shame hiding out and sabotaging you.


In this episode, Brian highlights some common signs that sex shame might still have a hold on you and equips you with tools to move from shame to sexual liberation.

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Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


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]]>0b452d29-6b4d-453c-a729-32bf406b42c0_p6DwCLuL5iThu, 12 Feb 2026 12:15:14 GMTHow do you know if shame is holding you back from the best version of your relationship or sex life? The tricky thing about shame is that it sneaks in and disguises itself as truth. Regardless of how long you've been dating and hooking up, no matter how long you've identified as kinky or queer, whether you've had 1 partner or 100 ... it's possible that there is another level of shame hiding out and sabotaging you.


In this episode, Brian highlights some common signs that sex shame might still have a hold on you and equips you with tools to move from shame to sexual liberation.

REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


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]]><p>How do you know if shame is holding you back from the best version of your relationship or sex life? The tricky thing about shame is that it sneaks in and disguises itself as truth. Regardless of how long you've been dating and hooking up, no matter how long you've identified as kinky or queer, whether you've had 1 partner or 100 ... it's possible that there is another level of shame hiding out and sabotaging you.</p><p><br></p><p>In this episode, Brian highlights some common signs that sex shame might still have a hold on you and equips you with tools to move from shame to sexual liberation.</p><p></p><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!</span></p><p>Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex &amp; none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.</p><p><br></p><p><span style="background-color: rgb(250, 251, 255);">Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.</span></p><p><br></p><p>Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/</p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p>Connect with Brian on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/thisisbgm/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@ThisIsBGM</a> (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)</p>No00:14:33full<![CDATA[Coming Soon: Permission To Desire]]>What if wanting more wasn’t selfish, but sacred?


Permission to Want is a podcast for the curious, the courageous, the quirky, and consciously nontraditional. Hosted by author and certified relationship coach Brian G. Murphy, this show explores what it means to build fuller, more alive relationships and erotic lives and paints a picture of what’s possible when you find the courage to tell the truth about what you really want and say goodbye to shame or “shoulds.”


Grounded in the wisdom of polyamory and other forms of ethical nonmonogamy, you’ll hear real-life stories and actionable insights that can enrich every relationship type: monogamous, open, polyamorous, single, or solo. 


Whether you're hoping to rekindle passion in a long-term relationship, healing from sexual shame, considering opening up, or just craving more intention in how you live and love, this is your permission slip.

REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


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]]>f4cd6241-4e41-453c-beab-d4435357e2d9_p6DwCLuL5iTue, 10 Feb 2026 00:36:13 GMTWhat if wanting more wasn’t selfish, but sacred?


Permission to Want is a podcast for the curious, the courageous, the quirky, and consciously nontraditional. Hosted by author and certified relationship coach Brian G. Murphy, this show explores what it means to build fuller, more alive relationships and erotic lives and paints a picture of what’s possible when you find the courage to tell the truth about what you really want and say goodbye to shame or “shoulds.”


Grounded in the wisdom of polyamory and other forms of ethical nonmonogamy, you’ll hear real-life stories and actionable insights that can enrich every relationship type: monogamous, open, polyamorous, single, or solo. 


Whether you're hoping to rekindle passion in a long-term relationship, healing from sexual shame, considering opening up, or just craving more intention in how you live and love, this is your permission slip.

REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!

Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex & none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.


Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.


Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/



Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

]]><p><span style="background-color: transparent; color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">What if wanting more wasn’t selfish, but sacred?</span></p><p><br></p><p><span style="background-color: transparent; color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">Permission to Want is a podcast for the curious, the courageous, the quirky, and consciously nontraditional. Hosted by author and certified relationship coach Brian G. Murphy, this show explores what it means to build fuller, more alive relationships and erotic lives and paints a picture of what’s possible when you find the courage to tell the truth about what you really want and say goodbye to shame or “shoulds.”</span></p><p><br></p><p><span style="background-color: transparent; color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">Grounded in the wisdom of polyamory and other forms of ethical nonmonogamy, you’ll hear real-life stories and actionable insights that can enrich every relationship type: monogamous, open, polyamorous, single, or solo.&nbsp;</span></p><p><br></p><p><span style="background-color: transparent; color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">Whether you're hoping to rekindle passion in a long-term relationship, healing from sexual shame, considering opening up, or just craving more intention in how you live and love, this is your permission slip.</span></p><p></p><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">REGISTRATION FOR RELATIONSHIFT IS NOW OPEN!</span></p><p>Three months to an open relationship with more intimacy, hotter sex &amp; none of the dread around the "hard" conversations.</p><p><br></p><p><span style="background-color: rgb(250, 251, 255);">Regisgtration is open until Friday, August 21 and there is a special bonus if you join this week (by August 14). We kickoff September 14 BUT you get access to all of the curriculum right away once you join — so you get bonus time with the materials when you join early.</span></p><p><br></p><p>Learn more and signup at https://thisisbgm.com/group/</p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p>Connect with Brian on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/thisisbgm/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@ThisIsBGM</a> (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)</p>No00:04:00full