And how looking at **your own life** tells a much truer story.

Join me to noodle on:

• Self-defined, context-dependent definitions of success (of course)
• Presence, inhabitation (fave word of late), and feeling alive as core measures of success
• Using memory and imagination as tools for grounding in the present
• Time as feedback, not pressure
• How past experience and future desire can inform this moment (without getting stuck in either)

A philosophical yet practical take on paying attention to the clues your life's leaving AND letting that guide how you show up today.

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When I say "spirit" - I mean that non-physical life force that animates us.

The undeniable breath and energy that leaves the physical building on our last day in this form.

Spirituality, then, is defined as what brings us to life. What gives us the truest most powerful energy.

In other words: our highest values. Our telos. THE thing that matters most to you.

(That we uncover and refine every quarter in our What Matters Workshops.)

We define spirituality in this way because it's grounded, personal, and usable.

More in the episode, and those to come. ✨

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PRACTICE.

My word for 2026.

The aim / curriculum: see what happens as / when I record ~52 episodes in 2026, organized around the 12 monthly themes I already work with behind the scenes.

Lofi field notes with a topical twist.

My filter: if I could only share 4–5 notes on a topic, what would they be?

(In theory I'll lather, rinse, repeat, and continue to expand the living library year after year till I run out of breath or things to say, whichever comes first ;))

Letting this feed continue to serve as evidence of my humanity and evolution of thought. An audio archive / semi-public notebook where I keep track of useful reframes and insights for you and for future me.

In the ep I share more about my "ideal" recording conditions and how today was exactly not that, which turned out to be pretty perfect anyway.

First theme: SPIRIT.

Meet you there.

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All those extra zeroes before episodes 0–99 were officially worth it.

In this episode, I revisit the year-in-review practice I created last New Year’s Eve, and how this year taught me the value of returning to it far more often than once every 365 days.

Taking time to reflect on what has mattered most to us -- what we lived, learned, and still feel sparky revisiting-- is never wasted time.

Especially when we use that insight to inform what happens next.

Why wait until the end of our days—or our 100th birthday parties—to look back and take stock of what a life well spent actually looks like?

I’m learning to shorten the feedback loop while I still have the chance to make shifts, course-correct, and choose more deliberately.

Minimizing regret and maximizing enjoyment in this lifetime - the #onherterms way.

Join me.

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We care about a lot - our work, our people, ourselves.

And we know life doesn’t happen in neat lines.

More like spirals, squiggles, and polka dots.

The carousel of progress* visual shared in this episode gives us a way to see and welcome that.

It helps us look forward to what’s coming, be more present with what’s here, and appreciate what’s already passed and quietly making its way back to us in perfect timing.

In other words: it’s a visual model for chilling TF out about not being able to do and care about everything all at once.

What if we could relax, knowing the things that matter are present and accounted for? Bobbing and weaving, but not lost.

Just waiting for the moment when we actually have the desire and capacity to meet them.

Life in layers.

A rhythm of return.

Part of our growing #onherterms visual values language -- from recycle emoji, to the lazy Susan, to baggage claim, now this.

Tune in for more, and let me know what resonates.

*Title used metaphorically, of course. No affiliation or endorsement implied. But if you know someone...

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We're exploring how thoughtful prep can make a moment richer and more meaningful, not less.

This lesson was inspired by a tagline brainstorm for Holidays On Her Terms—a field guide designed to help my clients (and me) create holiday experiences we actually look forward to, enjoy in real time, and love to look back on.

To me for a long time, prep felt sterile, boring, and overly controlling.

I believed that as an info artist (my mental label for what I do), I needed to protect spontaneity.

There does need to be room for spontaneity, of course. But I’ve come to see that it's often a *byproduct* of preparation, not its opposite.

Muscle memory creates space for real presence.

We don't have open loops or mental energy wondering what's about to pop out from behind the corner.

Less anxiety, more presence. Less distraction, more playfulness.

When I’m prepared, I can actually be where my feet are.

Acting, dance, firefighting, medicine, performance of all kinds (even improv has its own guidance!) - prep is useful and important. We know it!

But it's easy to resist it so strongly in personal lives - creative work, finances, even social connections.

Instead of thinking of it as rigidity, I'm thinking of it as care in advance.

It’s how we create the conditions to show up more embodied, calm, and available vs. troubleshooting chaos in real time.

(Which is probably why I love behind-the-scenes documentaries so much. Hello, Eras Tour. The magic isn’t accidental.)

More prep, more presence.

Try it on and let me know how it fits.

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if you relish the thought of rolling around in white space (till you find yourself lost in a scroll or clown-kerchief of chats you'll forget by tomorrow)...

Hear me out on this one.

Scheduling is devoting.

When we take time to actually pre-commit to what truly matters most, we're designing the lives we wouldn't trade for anything.

We get to fill our plates with what we want.

We get to add margin and buffer where we know we'll need it.

We get to make clearer decisions and say an easy thanks but no thanks when something would feel too crunchy, because we've already filled that space with something that matters more.

It's not restriction. It's reverence.

You're a powerful creator, and the calendar is your canvas.

What do you want yours to look and feel like in the new year?

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"I have all the time that I need."

Best case: It's TRUE! And your brain will start searching for evidence to make it so.

Worst case: It will at least help you feel a little better while you're speeding from this to that.

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When life is fuller, (some) things take longer.

Instead of feeling sad about that (which is, of course, human and allowed), what if we choose to see this as the scenic route™?

We're not forcing patience or settling for a slower pace.

We're focusing presence and savoring it.

When we remember to, anyway ;)

This has been one of my biggest lessons of 2025. I didn't realize how often I was comparing my pace to my 10-year-ago self, who had 1-2 kids and a husband who was gone most of the time.

I now have three kids, at three different schools and stages of development, a husband who works from home most of the time, and a budding knowledge of perimenopause and what I can do to keep my knees strong for my Nana years.

This is a very different daily setup.

And it's I used to DREAM of. Thankful for the moments I can remember that.

The pace is the point on the scenic route.

May we appreciate it for what it is, as deeply and as often as possible.

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If abundance = having what we need when we need it… where could we gift that to ourselves proactively?

Adding a buffer to the baseline – in the gas tank, the savings account, the retirement account, the toilet paper or fave family cereal stash – helps quiet a lot of unnecessary survival noise.

It's a very practical (and underrated) form of self-care.

Example that sparked this field note: This year, I started refilling my gas tank closer to the halfway mark vs. waiting for the final 1/8th of a tank (or last 11 miles, with a car full of kids en route to or from school 🫠). Why do that to myself when filling up earlier is an option I'm grateful to have?

Aside from the first half-tank reset ($30ish max in Texas at the time), filling closer to half doesn’t actually cost more. It’s just more frequent, quicker stops.

But the margin I feel when I see my tank as more-than-half full gives me a little boost every time I notice it. ⚡️

That compounds.

Running on fumes happens. We know this.

And it’s not a moral failure.

I'm suggesting we reframe it as a math problem or a design challenge instead of a total surprise.

Some moments in life are genuinely out of our control. Sick kiddos (selves, parents, etc.). Unexpected job changes. Extreme weather.

Let’s save our “running on fumes” budget for those moments, and design more margin everywhere else while we can.

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We want to help. We want to respond. But sometimes we feel overwhelmed, guilty, unsure, frozen, or just tapped the F out.

Here’s the thing: every one of us has a natural response style.

The key is naming it, owning it, and practicing it in ways that feel steady, sustainable, and meaningful. #onherterms style.

That’s what this mini audio field guide can help you do.

What’s covered in this episode:

• How events can be not just devastating, but catalytic
• Why your response doesn’t have to be “all or nothing” to matter
• How to ditch disaster-response perfectionism and find your natural response style
• Two key lenses for response: when you show up + how you show up
• What to do if you’d like help creating your personal response plan

In short: this is about finding your natural response style — the one that lets you show up without burning out or checking out. An inner scaffolding that helps you feel steady and generous even when life throws curveballs.

I hope it helps you find a way to respond that feels doable, meaningful, and yours.

This is certainly an interesting time to be alive with internet access, and I appreciate you doing your part from your corner of the world.

Sending lots of love and aloha from here. Talk soon. 💞

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What are we doing here, fam? 🙃

This fresh episode is part palette cleanse, part context-setting.

Before we round out our first 100 On Her Terms® episodes, I want to acknowledge the bigness of what we're witnessing and co-creating on the world stage right now (and for the foreseeable future).

The weather is extreme -- literally, socially, financially -- and it’s up to us as humanity’s current class of grownups (!) to learn to navigate business as UNUSUAL (which is clearly now just... the usual) with resilience and curiosity.

Whether you’re currently showing up out of duty, desire, or a blend of both, it makes sense if you’re feeling some dissonance or hesitation.

This episode isn’t about opting out.

It’s about staying in the game without losing your rhythm, your values, or yourself.

How do we hold awareness of the “big stuff” without minimizing the “little stuff” that strengthens our ability to carry it? ❤️

What are the capacity-building practices and tools that actually WORK - for us, for our kids, for our communities - and how can we make them second-nature? 👀

Join me to consider:

• 👓 The bifocal lens that helps me hold the both/and
• 🗓️ Why your calendar is actually your base camp, not a distraction
• 🎯 The myth of waiting for the “right" time to share your work
• ♻️ What I’m seeing (and sensing) from the women I’m here to support
• ⚡️ A reminder that your work still matters *especially* now

(If you like eavesdropping on real-time meaning-making, you’ll like this one.)

Hopeful these messy musings can spark real conversation on staying grounded, creative, and response-able in uncertain times.

🎧 Press play and let’s talk about it. 🎧

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I've managed to host about 30 convos so far, ranging from 15 minutes to an hour or two, total free for alls, mini coaching sessions, epic catchup sessions.

I'm extending my timeline to mid-August to wrap the final 10 as school gets out and scheduling gets a bit trickier, but I'm absolutely going to continue - to 40 and beyond.

Reactivating my real-life network has been a gift in more ways than I can count or name in just one episode, so let's consider this the meta / overview and plan to circle back for more insights.

A round-up of musings from this episode:

• Real-time human connection is a premium. As valuable as ever, if not moreso.
• Your social connections are also your kids' social connections. Relationships are a valuable form of generational wealth.
• and HEALTH! strong social connections are key to our longevity - physically, mentally, emotionally...
• Think of all the folks who used to be part of your daily life, but those connections have gone dormant. NORMAL. No shame. And yet... wouldn't it be fun to hear how they're doing? from them, not the newsfeed?
• In a world of texting and DMs, it's worth the initial discomfort of saying YES to a real-time convo!
• REACH OUT to the person you're thinking of when you listen to this ep. Share the ep and pretend I dared you to do it if needed ;)
• Whether it's a big bday, Mother's Day, a TUESDAY....take ownership of your own life celebrations vs. waiting for anyone else to read your mind and make your day. Make your OWN day and let anyone else's contributions be bonus sprinkles / confetti.
• Happy birthday :) to you. to me.

Every day is a gift if we choose to see it that way. I'm grateful to be on the planet the same time as you.

• Would love to hear from you - what's been one of your favorite bday celebrations? who will you reach out to as a result of this convo? TELL ME. I'm nosy.

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If you're thinking of joining us (but haven't yet), this context will help you decide.

WELL worth it if you're picking up what I'm putting down lately and would love to feel more physically (and mentally!) energized and connected -- without doing anything extreme or out of character.

Click on through to tune in while living life today.

NOTE: If you're listening to this in the future (after May 7) and want to learn more about my current offers, just reply to your latest email or tap a link below to reach out.

We're just getting warmed up!

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The longer you wait, the heavier it feels.

Then, when you DO finally start, it turns into an endless game of If You Give a Mouse a Cookie (one task triggering five more until you're buried in steps you never meant to take on, questioning major life decisions and fighting the urge to check your IG reels)?

Just me? 🐭🍪

Nah. We're in good company.

I'm startaing to appreciate that resistance is one thing that still differentiates us from AI.

It's endearing. And, if we choose: temporary.

That's why I hit record last night to break through my own resistance in real time and share my latest creativity-for-humans trick with you.

Inside this episode:

🎯 Why we resist the things we actually want to do (and how to outsmart the mental loop)

🏋️‍♀️ The weightlifting metaphor that will change how you approach creative habits (hint: take some dang weight off)

⚡ How to separate the core action from the unnecessary energy drain so you can actually ENJOY the thing instead of dreading what comes after

If you’ve been feeling creatively blocked, procrastinating something that should be easy, or just waiting for the perfect moment to start… this one’s for you.

• Hit play and let’s clear the mental clutter so you can get back in (loco?)motion with me. 🚂

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NOTE: The habits playlist lives at onherterms.com/spotify.

Would love to know what YOUR truth and dare challenge is!

Would also love to hear any of your answers and you scroll camera roll for your year's highlight REAL:

2024 SPEED ROUND ⚡

biggest win

favorite memory

most useful daily habit

most valuable lesson

most courageous move you made

one word or phrase to summarize your 2024

Extra credit for later consideration: What went WELL this year? What… didn’t? 🙃 What would you love to REPEAT in 2025? What would you love to do differently?

And BONUS I forgot to share (side B of the worksheet) - a forecast for the year ahead!

Write out what you would LOVE to experience in each of the months of 2025. Then answer the same Qs.

2025 SPEED ROUND ⚡

biggest win

favorite memory

most useful daily habit

most valuable lesson

most courageous move you made

one word or phrase to summarize your 2024

Extra credit for later consideration: What are you so glad you STARTED doing this year? What are you glad you STOPPED doing this year? What made you feel SPARKY and alive in 2025?

As mentioned, would happily share this doc with you for easy printing and sharing with your fam.

Just send me an email (reply to any I've sent you!) and I'll get it to you soon.

Sending lots of love from here. Looking forward to getting to know you better in 2025!

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Perfection is not a prerequisite for progress.

But how often do we keep ourselves from moving forward because on some level, we believe it is?

Ex. If I can't write a chapter a week, I won't even write a paragraph. (I don't recommend trying this thought at home.)

That is not how that works! Logically we know this.

Like batting averages - nobody's hitting 1000 out of 1000. Not even close.

If you want to play the game, you've got to be willing to miss sometimes.

If you want to have a chance at a hit, you've got to be willing to miss sometimes.

I describe the "what we think consistency looks like" doodles - like this one.

Progress isn't linear. It's not cookie cutter. It's messy.

Consistency is about commitment and continually opting back in.

^^ That commitment and continual opt-in makes our progress as predictable as can be. Because the only way we won't get "there" is if we quit trying.

I speak to Jon Acuff's concept of "the day after perfect" - the day we show up after the day we didn't. THAT is where the magic happens. It's where we build resilience and confidence.

We get to decide what "perfection" actually looks like for us.

Messy manicures and all.

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Before you give up and declare energetic bankruptcy on an unusually meh or squirrely day, give this one a listen.

Gimme 10 minutes and we'll make a practical plan so you can save your own day when you want to, whether you have five minutes, 30 minutes, or a full hour.

This strategy is like an energetic emergency kit.

Like packing snacks. Water. Bandaids. Hand sanitizer. Or your kid's fave show downloaded for use offline.

Having these ideas and options handy is a simple way to boost your own battery power and feel sparky again.

Gift yourself. 🎁

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is this action getting me CLOSER to what I want, or further from what I want?

Closer = warmer. More fun, more fulfilling, more energizing. Faster.

Further - cooler. Seems fun in the moment but actually LESS so. Slowing us down. Making it harder.

Once you’ve identified which is true, you get to decide how to proceed from there.

Do you want to stop the “cooler” activity? Pair it with a “warmer” activity for a net gain?

(In my nighttime scroll example, stopping would mean putting the phone away and closing my eyeballs. Pairing it would mean getting up and pairing it with some steps. Or sharing whatever’s interesting or funny to me with someone I love.)

“Cooler” is a flag on the play and an opportunity to course correct.

“Warmer” is a confetti popper to celebrate and gift ourselves some dopamine.

Give yourself some time for your *Mom Brain* to step in and suggest next steps.

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On some level, you believe there’s more benefits to NOT doing it. Or you’d be doing it.

Have you ever considered the drawbacks to not doing it?

It’s like standing on a hot sidewalk barefoot. Standing still and talking about it… doesn’t help! The longer you stand there, the more damage you’re doing.

Helpful Q to actually answer:

What are you missing out on by thinking about it, and not doing it? By letting your fear dictate your actions and not stretching yourself to be brave? 

Ex. Thinking about it and beating yourself up over not doing it is likely more painful than doing the thing.

TEST IT and prove me wrong, will you? (Better yet, prove Mom Brain / your wisest self RIGHT – show yourself that taking this action is indeed worth the discomfort and effort, and once you’re going, actually feels pretty dang good.)

Give yourself a chance to try something new and TRUST yourself to take care of yourself on the other side. Twinkle toes over to the grass or some shade, at least.

This is where it is actually helpful to bake in actions we can take daily - because the automation is useful. We can relax into routines vs. switching things up every day.

***Inspired by this journal entry from 2023:

So – what are you waiting for? 

What are you afraid of? 

Have you considered the pain of resisting the thing is often more intense than DOING the thing? When has that been true?

Journaling is cool and all, but have you tried actually doing the thing? Taking the step? Moving your feet? It’s like resistance is standing on a hot sidewalk barefoot. Thinking and talking about it isn’t going to help. Moving your feet will. 

Further [yes I said that; who talks to themselves like this?! 💀] – the longer you stand there, the more pain you’ll experience, both now AND later. Bc that burn is changing your chemistry. It’s gonna require extra attention for healing vs just moving right along, knowing and acknowledging the floor is lava and keeping it moving to the next shady spot.

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**all eps surrounding this one (the whole series on creating habits)

rebuilding trust and momentum after burnout

burnout from too little action

stuck in indecision

hesitation + the myth of the comfort zone

get out of your head

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Instead of snoozing your satisfaction and delaying (even denying) gratification till you reach your imaginary endgame, let’s try something different.

Use that happily ever after to your advantage.

Take a good look into that future to see what you expect to feel when you reach XYZ outcome.

How can you feel that now?

Like a fruit infused water break… how can you add pleasure to the process today?

Reel it into the present.

Ex. I absolutely do want to finish and share my first book (and many after it!), but don’t feel inspired to work on it in a solo silo. That feels flat and too far removed from the “happily ever after,” because my favorite part is sharing my ideas with you in an organized, cohesive format.

I can add pleasure to the process by shortening the feedback loop and sharing behind-the-scenes of my creative process with you here via the podcast. I get to enjoy the magic of conversations all along the way, and BONUS - one day the book will be done!

Get what I’m saying?

Play with adding pleasure to your process.

Find creative ways to genuinely feel more content with the present, and you’re an instant winner.

Micro-happily ever afters.

Wee wee wee all the way home.

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(Sharing more mixed metaphors with you in this one.)

Pour out all the puzzle pieces of habits you'd like to try and experiment with. Notice the ones you feel the most emotional attachment to. (There's likely a lot of resistance to those too.)

Start with the small-stakes moves.

As you build your trust, energy, and consistency muscles with these, you'll likely notice the higher stakes habits start to move into your peripheral vision.

Like if you're at a bar or restaurant visiting with someone and you notice [your bestie, sister, partner, or somebody cute who catches your eye] and starts walking your way.

The best way to stay in the zone is to focus on the person right in front of you, AND it's fun to know another somebody you want to connect with is on their way to you too. (The more the merrier, when the conversations are this good!)

For me, starting with physical habits led me to wanting to update a few pieces of my daily wardrobe, which got me feeling sparky too. Then I noticed a desire to record podcasts again, which I have been doing. At this point I notice a FUME of a desire to possibly even wake up early (?!) to journal or walk before my kids wake up, which I haven't wanted to do for years.

Further out on the horizon is me working on my book again. It's not ready for direct eye contact, but it's there. I can feel it. Not gonna rush or spook it, but I'll enjoy the habits right in front of me while it makes its way over here.

With the habit vortex, we're imagining a tiny tornado in 2 liter bottles. Glitter, food coloring, you know the deal.

The stronger it gets, the more glitter it picks up. The stuff that once seemed too heavy to lift is now spinning with ease, because we started where we were WILLING to start.

Okay. You get it. I hope. 😛

Give it a go and keep me posted!

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DISCLAIMER: I'm clearly not a medical doctor, nor am I suggesting what you do with your body. I am sharing what's worked for me and encouraging you to do your own research and explore what works for YOU and your bod / life. That's the #onherterms way.

Tune in for full context, and consider:

What's the habit you want to stop or reduce?

What are the benefits you were getting when you first started doing it?

Ex. For me it was a blend of physiological energy and mental clarity, the ritual to help me refocus in the afternoon, and the pleasure of the taste of the drink itself.

What are the drawbacks you're now noticing (which is why you want to reduce it)?

Ex. For me I didn't like feeling depending on it, psychologically or physiologically. I'd have headaches on days I wouldn't have caffeine, so I was doing it to avoid pain, and that felt disempowering. I also don't want to mess around with my hormones; I want to help them get back into balance. So if that plays any role, I'd like to see if stopping / reducing helps shift things.

What are new things you can do / try to get those same benefits (without the same drawbacks)?

Ex. For me it's a whole combo of new habits - the afternoon drink ritual was replaced with adrenal mocktails around carpool time during my afternoon dip in energy. Morning I added in a yummy protein drink with my breakfast and started to delay the caffeine by waiting till I'd had breakfast and at least one full (22 oz) cup of water. Then I added in workouts to my "first hour" routine. Prioritizing more sleep led to more energy too.

All of the above = energy from more sustainable and beneficial sources than caffeine. Which led to (gasp!) forgetting to even drink the caffeine, on more than one occasion.

It now feels optional.

And when faced with a sleepy day, I'd rather find a way to sneak in a 15-25m power nap than to dump more caffeine into my system.

In with the new helped me "out" the old.

Who says old habits have to die hard?

MENTIONED

Dr. Jolene Brighten on caffeine and hormones: https://drbrighten.com/how-coffee-affects-your-health-and-hormones/

"caffeine narrows the blood vessels surrounding the brain": https://www.uclahealth.org/news/article/caffeine-connection-between-coffee-and-headaches

Dr. Andrew Huberman's notes on timing morning caffeine intake: https://www.instagram.com/hubermanlab/p/Cl2DawHv9Fk/

Full Huberman Lab pod on using caffeine to improve focus: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n3b9QKo_VpM

Study on caffeine and brain volume: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8969755/

Sample "adrenal mocktail" recipe: https://pcosnutritionistalyssa.com/cortisol-mocktail/

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Internally tracking what we think and how we feel BEFORE, DURING, and AFTER we take action can be incredibly useful as we build new habits.

More in the ep, of course, but here's an at-a-glance summary:

BEFORE: Like taking a pic of the garage before you declutter it. If you don't document this current state of the union - how you feel about this area of life, what's driving you to want to change it, the resistance you have to the action, etc. you're likely to forget this feeling. One day, a different version of you who has integrated these habits and made these changes will forget what it REALLY felt like and sounded like in your brain. Take note (in detail, with no filter) so you can appreciate how far you've come!

DURING: Note the thoughts that come up as you start doing the thing. How many minutes in before you start to think, "oh this isn't that bad; I can do this," or even "I actually like this!"? Watch for patterns so you can let that Mom Brain leadership step in and remind yourself "HUNNY. This is normal. You tend to (internally) kick and scream for the first 30 seconds, and then you're fine and having fun with it. You've got this."

AFTER: What thoughts and feelings come up once you've followed through on the action and taken great care of yourself (your home, your kids, your finances), etc? Highlight and amplify those keepers. Eventually they'll grow stronger and stronger like a tractor beam of dopamine that starts to pull you in to action without you having to think so hard about it.

Over time, the more we develop this internal vocab for how X action makes us feel Y (desired feeling), the easier it will be to continue.

Mom in momentum.

Let me know what you notice!

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In this message we're talking about the power of external tracking and validating ourSELVES as we establish these new habits.

Stickers, Sharpies, streaks and stacks - time to find a system that works for you. (It's the #onherterms way.)

I use a 12x 12 wall calendar with symbols and shorthand for each habit I'm building.

(Currently commemorating pod recording days with a heart doodled by a metallic pink Sharpie. 💖)

STREAKS

Streaks are about continuity, building consecutive links in the chain. powerful in building momentum through consistency. weight. oomph. power behind the daily automation. BONUS: reduces decision fatigue because it's decided for you in advance. Not up for debate.

Eventually we hit a tipping point where it feels weird NOT to do the thing vs. to do the thing. That's fun!

A streak helps you think twice before skipping a day because it becomes so ingrained, integrated, it's like part of your identity.

But that's also the danger with streaks - sparking perfectionism, all or nothing extremes, and the "off track" mentality.

Earth is a giant people mover and we can't fall off. We're stacking benefits here. Even if we miss some days.

IDEA: Give yourself a punchcard style permission slip and tune into that Mom Brain mentality - remember we're not doing this "because I said so." We're doing this because it's a way we take care of ourselves.

So on the days when you're in doubt, ask and be HONEST: Will taking this action help me feel better or worse? (Not just now, but 10 hours, 10 days from now, etc.) Let MOM BRAIN come up with the answer and follow her loving lead.

STACKS

Stacks are more about accumulation and compounding. The consistency doesn't matter as much. Ex. Making a yearly IRA contribution vs. auto-deposits monthly. Batch recording podcasts while inspired, then dripping them out over time. (Or two batches of Bridgerton Season 3, coming soon ;))

Stacks are fun because we feel a whoosh of progress.

BOTTOM LINE

This is about being really honest about which choices feel truly nourishing and supportive of the way we want to show up for ourselves (our families, our work, etc). Give yourself a chance to play around with what works for you.

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When do you tend to have more will power to challenge your default thoughts (and let mom brain talk you into beneficial action)?

When do you tend to have slippery-fish-style excuses to talk you into maintaining the status quo?

My resistance seems to snooze till around lunchtime these days.

I tend to be most energized and optimistic in my first few waking hours.

My best chance for taking new / more challenging actions is in the MORNING.

As I create new habits over here, I'm aiming to complete my "new" baseline routine before lunch. And it's working well.

The days when I don't, it's still useful, but I notice it's so much harder than it needs to be.

My afternoon energy is typically lower, my brain isn't quite as sharp.

On school days, that's when I shift into carpool and caregiver mode for my kiddos for the rest of the day.

I can, of course, still do the things, but I have less energy, less focus, and get less fulfillment and energetic bang for my buck.

Beating the clock to get a jumpstart and take *early bird action* has felt fun, and a good kind of sneaky. 🤗

It's working over here.

Let me know if you give it a try!

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Try leaving the door open, cracked, even just UNLOCKED so your *mom brain* voice can step in and do what she does best.

She holds the line, the standard, and the longer term vision for you. She's got great ideas on how to support you and what you say you want.

"Yes, I know it can feel so hard to XYZ when you don't want to, AND we're doing it anyway because ABC. Not because I said so, but because it's my job to take care of you as you learn to take care of yourself."

Tap into that voice of love and (self) leadership, just as you do when your kiddos don't want to brush their teeth / go to sleep / go to school.

Leave space for the possibility of letting mom brain talk you into action, just to get the ball rolling.

Once the ball is rolling, if it's still a big NO, trust that you can cross that bridge when you get there.

Let me know how this goes for you!

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It's fun to ride the wave of inspiration when we're high on energy, time, focus, etc, and some days we just have less gas in the tank. Less space in the calendar. Harder to find a rhythm, for any collection of reasons.

Let's talk about how we can plan for that and still show up for ourselves how we want to.

What's the bare mini / minimum viable progress version you can do on the days when you're low on energy, time, brainwidth?

How can you still stay engaged with this new habit and fill that heart bubble WHILE also honoring that today you don't have the same oomph you do on other days?

What's the "LITE" version of the thing you can do even on the days you don't feel like it?

And how could doing that actually help you feel MORE energy and power on the other side?

If you really can't imagine a scenario where you feel better after having done the thing (even the bare mini version), you can give yourself grace there too. Some pre-drafted permission slips can go a long way.

What are those pre-approved exceptions?

You'll know which choice is right for you based on how you feel when you make it.

Do you feel sneaky, like you're getting away with something you may "pay" for later? (Bueller...)

OR do you feel loved and cared for?

#onherterms, baby. You get to decide.

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It can be so helpful to broaden our definition of habit-creation success, deciding on a SPECTRUM instead of a binary.

Good-better-best style, which I discuss in THIS related episode on resetting goals and timelines when we feel "behind."

The trick is to choose a micro-step that is so doable you have NO resistance to it. You almost roll your eyes at it, but you also know that doing it will actually give you a spark of energy. It's both doable AND meaningful. (Because you know deep down it's a step in the direction you wanna move, and something is better than the nothing you've been choosing till now.)

EXAMPLES:

moving $5 to savings (leading to $10, $100, $1000, or auto-transfers)

putting on your shoes (leading to eventually working out, walking outside, etc.)

walking inside, in place, for a few minutes after each meal (leading to eventually walking 30 minutes a day, or 5k steps, etc.)

opening your doc and working on ONE sentence of your manuscript (this is for meee, because books are made of chapters are made of pages are made of paragraphs are made of... sentences!)

restarting the dryer (leading to eventually taking the clothes out and folding them)

As you take the one first step, you'll start to rebuild trust that you can and will (are!) doing this. You'll feel ready to add on the next level, and the next. If you feel too much resistance, scale it back. Don't use that as a reason to choose the "nothing" side of "all or nothing" again.

Let's live in the land of something and see where that gets us.

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Now let's talk about actively bringing them into time and space with the buddy system (and/or time tethers).

Think of it like a Big Sister / Big Brother program. Or training wheels. A leash or a lead.

Whatever works for your brain, as long as it helps you see the power in letting your new habit carpool (or at least caravan) with a more seasoned habit.

Examples I share: red lights + legs up the wall (as fun as it sounds), brushing and flossing, carpool and grocery pickup, taking supplements with lunch.

When and where do you already, intuitively do this? How can you use this idea to onboard your new habit and set yourself up for success?

Take a listen for more context, give it a go and keep me posted!

I'm nosy AF and would genuinely love to know which habits you're creating (and leveraging) over there.

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I'll also share resources and pros that have been helpful to me in all the areas - hormones and nutrition, skincare, even pelvic floor health! Stay TUNED. 🍿

And in the meantime, to close the gap between your new (rookie) habit and the seasoned vets you've already established, ask yourself:

What are the habits I've already baked into my life? What's automated and WHY? What are the benefits I get from doing these things regularly? What general categories do I have on lock? (ex. health, caregiving, home care, social connection, delivering for clients, a specific hobby or ritual)

How does [new habit] actually get me MORE of those benefits? How is it actually in the same category (even if on the surface it may not seem so)?

To see it differently, change the light. Use the HALO of the existing habits. Put the rookie habit in seasoned habit's clothing. A clever disguise. Rebrand it like it's all the same thing.

Ex. I've been prioritizing movement, working on my sleep, taking whole food supplements, my skincare and red light masks, blah blee blah... it's clear my physical well-being is my focus right now.

The NEW (old) habit I've wanted to re-establish is THIS. Recording my field notes to share with you here via this podcast.

What finally clicked and helped me dissolve the resistance around it was to reframe recording and publishing as physical self care.

How?

I feel sparky and alive when recording and connecting with you (whether you reply or not, when I publish, at least there's a chance!). I know communicating and sharing how I see the world (in Nikkified #onherterms mixed metaphor fashion) is part of why I'm here on this timeline. << Been watching Loki Season 2, also ;)

Following through and sharing ideas I've been hoarding over here helps me feel energized, closes a mental loop, which helps me be more present and energized when I pick up my kids from school, and helps me feel more fulfilled when my head hits the pillow at night. Knock on benefits for my sleep quality, which helps my energy the NEXT day, and so the cycle continues.

Get what I'm saying?

Use the halo from your existing habits. Shine it on this new one to see it in a new light and see what shifts.

Press play for more context and let me know what you think!

More to come. ❤️

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*The main course starts around 4:20. Four Qs to help you purchase with more presence and power, now and forever:

W is for WHY: why do I want this? what's the itch I'm trying to scratch? what's the void I'm trying to fill? what's the feeling or discomfort I'm trying to avoid (or the pleasure I'm trying to seek)?

A is for ALREADY HAVE: what do I ALREADY HAVE? paid and free courses and content, pros in my network... what resources do I currently have access to that could fill the same gap / do the same job?

I is for INSTEAD: what could I do with this money INSTEAD? if it's already energetically earmarked (I'm ready to part with it)... what else could I do with it that would feel even more true and empowering? (ex. savings, investments, fam holiday budget, yummy meals pre-made for the fam, a year of pro house cleaning, virtual assistant services)

T is for TIME: is now the best time for this purchase? am I actually ready to use it? could I sleep on it? wait a week, month, quarter, year till this special price will likely come back? *this brings up a bonus T for TRUST: trusting that if you decide not to make this investment right now, other resources will rise to support you anyway. You can't lose.

This isn't about scarcity or either/or limitation. I'm a big fan of both/and.

It's also not about shaming Black Friday deals, sales, or purchases. I love good deals!

This IS about making mindful decisions with the resources we have available. Giving ourselves time to explore our options. THAT feels like true power to me.

BLACK FRIDAY CHALLENGE: Take five to make a list of things you know with *100% certainty* you would buy anyway.

EXTRA CREDIT: Make a spreadsheet (product, website, full retail price vs. promo price). Plan how much you're willing to spend. Get on their email lists so you can get access to their special pricing and promos so you can stock up with calm and confidence - not a false, fear-driven frenzy.

BONUS ROUND: If you currently feel any guilt or shame around purchases you've made before, give this Naptime Empres ep called Dear Course Collector a listen.

*bc I spend the first four minutes of the episode in full nutty professor mode, wildly connecting the divine breadcrumb dots that led to this message, including: 1) my decision NOT to instantly purchase a specially priced course bundle from a creator I love and respect this morning, 2) my reflections on my own spending habits, 3) the barrage of pre-Black-Friday emails in my subscription inbox, 4) a desire to send a message to my email list this week (but not wanting to add to BF noise), 5) celebrating my decision NOT to spend with my bestie via Voxer, then 6) ding! starting why WHY and the letter W... downloading a handy acronym to help us WAIT before buying on impulse. That brings us to 7) this podcast + related email - which is very seasonally and specifically related to Black Friday, yet evergreen in its application.

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Offering and creating things that give you satisfaction in the process, closing that feedback loop REGARDLESS of what other peoples do with it.

When the reward for your efforts isn't dependent on anyone else's response or reaction you're free. That's your power. Completing the circuit, like you're an actual human generator.

Content, money, love you can’t freely give it, don’t. You'll put your hooks in other people (beyond your control!) and give your power away.

This way is so much more energizing.

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Takiing care of you is NOT optional. It's the key to sustainable generosity.

You gotta take care of you *so that* you can care for your people.

A great book on this topic: Real Self-Care by Dr. Pooja Lakshmin

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But there's so much fun and fulfillment in long-term REALationships.

People who have been tracking with you for SEASONS and are fully invested in the storytline.

Reflecting on that (and a wild season of Suits consumption) in this one.

Let me know what it sparks for you!

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Suffering isn't superior and we don't earn bonus points for taking the most complicated, exhausting route.

Let me know what comes up as you listen to this one!

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Recorded in Sept. 2022.

"Go and grow."

When love transcends (and our connection doesn't hinge on) physical presence.

The value of the VILLAGE.

How fast time can go (in a meta or a micro sense - time for pickup!)

What do you want to do with this time? (spoiler: it's not to tie yourself to your desk.)

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Info is limited, skewed, and some is straight up false.

The highlight REAL includes more than what makes the REEL. (Sidenote: Remind me to tell you about my horrible haircut and how this was hammered home in a whole new way. Bc whew.)

That's all. It's an incomplete picture at BEST.

Please remember before you start to judge yourself based on someone else’s storylines and plot twists.

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If ambition is "a strong desire or determination to succeed"

and success is "the accomplishment of an aim or purpose"

and purpose is "the reason for which something is done or created or for which something exists" ....

the ultimate AMBITION is to live the life *only* you can live, in the way that feels most powerful and true to YOU and what you value.

Sometimes fam takes the front seat / prime position. Sometimes it's biz. Sometimes it's your well-being. You can spin that lazy Susan of highest values multiple times in a given day (because the truth is, you feel most like yourself when they all get a bit of loving attention). But sometimes, over a length of time, one area needs more focus.

This message is for you when BIZ takes the backseat. Your ambition isn't gone. It's just changed form. For now.

Would love to help you see the perfection in that.

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This message proposes a new visual / metaphor to help you see the track / comparison / sense of urgency actually isn't REAL.

Life isn't a competition. It's a creation.

You're. not. behind.

Instead of a track with others running towards a timed finish, what if you saw your journey as a vibey treadmill experience?

What if you could set your ideal pace and environment?

What's the temp? What's on the screen? What's in your earbuds?

You can control the speed up or down, pull the emergency break if you need.

Take a break when you want to. Go faster when you want to.

The clock stops when you do, and it will resume when you do.

One more time (and again as often as you need the reminder): You are not behind.

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“No one’s thinking about me. Everyone’s thinking about themselves, just like I am right now.” - Marsha Shandur

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A spoiler from 12 years deep into my parenting journey: Contrary to what I used to think on some level - kids growing older doesn't mean they need us less.

I find the older they get, the more I want to be in "ready position" for moments big and small - homework frustration, basketball practices, friendship challenges.

A sometimes fascinating, sometimes frustrating front row seat to human behavior and personal development.

Does this mean I want to be with them all the time? Hale no. That wouldn't be good for any of us.

BUT it does mean that being there for certain moments is a top prio for me in the near and distant future. And I am designing my biz and life accordingly.

Would love to hear your thoughts on this, whether you're a new parent or a seasoned vet. Visit onherterms.com/convo to share.

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Hypothesis / observation: Tears are like a treasure map to who you are and what we're here to do. What we care about. What brings us to life.

It's helpful to consider that in real time when we're crying (or with / loving someone who is).

The Qs for consideration:

What are the moments, memories, and movies that bring a heart-opening tear to your eye? What are the patterns and common themes?

How are those showing up in how you design your days, weeks, months, years?

Related episodes:

Surrendering to the FULL CHEESE moments.

Bananabundance on Naptime Empires

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Related links and things:

naptimeempires.com/listen

onherterms.com/listen (you already are!)

workwithnikki.com

acourseaboutcopy.com/selfstudy

acourseaboutcopy.com/workshops

acourseaboutcopy.com/prep

instagram.com/nikkielledgebrown

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Related links and things:

Launched this pod in ‘22! Private feed: onherterms.com

And shares in IG stories: https://www.instagram.com/stories/highlights/17906546453549556/

More book process details in Naptime Empires Season 4: https://naptimeempires.com/archive/

Fear of dying with music still in you? https://plinkhq.com/i/1644949846/e/1000586525218

2 minutes of Hawaii’s ocean waves: https://plinkhq.com/i/1644949846/e/1000579380280

2022 Trimester of Awesome sneaky peaky: https://www.instagram.com/stories/highlights/18316088782016729/

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Related links and things:

Serving #onherterms mode private clients through the magic of Zoom and Voxer: https://www.instagram.com/stories/highlights/17918948350989605/

That fun two-fam (drivable) RV trip I mentioned: https://www.instagram.com/stories/highlights/17996649907071487/

Some of our fave RV youtubers: https://www.youtube.com/@KeepYourDaydream

RV upgrade shopping list: https://www.amazon.com/shop/nikkielledgebrown/list/V1XGDS3YVCIT?ref_=cm_sw_r_cp_ud_aipsflist_aipsfnikkielledgebrown_9YGWGQ9EWKGMMEY9EABM

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Related links and things:

Drafted a book, birthed a baby!

#3 announcement post: https://www.instagram.com/p/CAqTZJWHwBK/

Book doodles on IG stories: https://www.instagram.com/stories/highlights/17897967994610000/

Birth story on IG stories: https://www.instagram.com/stories/highlights/17898489118587197/

NE pod episode: https://naptimeempires.com/pomodoro-technique-more-done-less-time-033/

OHT pod episode: Redefining “enough”: the sacred pomodoro https://plinkhq.com/i/1644949846/e/1000579380335

OHT pod episode: Resetting your goal timeline: https://plinkhq.com/i/1644949846/e/1000606372030

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Related links and things:

Planting seeds and tending to what needed tending do.

18-19 travels and speaking via IG stories: https://www.instagram.com/stories/highlights/18043460224046391/

onherterms.com enters the chat

Divine breadcrumbs with Naptime Empires on nbcnews: naptimeempires.com/nbc

More on the summer of 2019 stories and synchronicities: https://naptimeempires.com/on-her-terms-063/

Heartbreak and Rainbows post from 2015: https://www.nikkielledgebrown.com/miscarriage/

Oahu 2019 digi-scrapbook: https://www.instagram.com/stories/highlights/18075667135046330/

More on lazy Susan / recycle emoji metaphor: https://plinkhq.com/i/1644949846/e/1000606372080

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Hawaii trip IG stories: https://www.instagram.com/stories/highlights/17972805886130023/

Oahu adventures: https://www.instagram.com/stories/highlights/17999887015058858/

Alaska trip IG stories: https://www.instagram.com/stories/highlights/17901143482266910/

Discovered Demartini work - love this values determination process: drdemartini.com/values and via IG stories here: https://www.instagram.com/stories/highlights/17983963381559064/

18-19 travels and speaking via IG stories: https://www.instagram.com/stories/highlights/18043460224046391/

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Related links and things:

naptimeempires.com/archive, officially launched 2017!

Intro to the workshops: https://www.nikkielledgebrown.com/word-pickles-social-studies-dreamails-acac-workshops/

Pod on lazy Susan / recycle emoji metaphor: https://plinkhq.com/i/1644949846/e/1000606372080

Playground FB Group: naptimeempires.com/facebook

Mom Life on IG stories: https://www.instagram.com/stories/highlights/17995624990069696/

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Related links and things:

Biz Baby Blues on Naptime Empires pod: https://naptimeempires.com/business-baby-blues-019/

Word Pickles, Dreamails, and Social Studies, the ACAC Beyond-the-Site Workshops: acourseaboutcopy.com/workshops

First Naptime Empires post: https://www.nikkielledgebrown.com/naptime-empires-intro/

Outcome of our trip to DC photo shoot: naptimeempires.com

Postpartum Anxiety and Depression resources: https://www.postpartum.net/

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Related links and things:

Gift of Mom Guilt episode: https://naptimeempires.com/gift-of-mom-guilt-054/

Webinar tips: https://www.nikkielledgebrown.com/webinar-tips/

OITNB Cameo: https://www.nikkielledgebrown.com/oitnb-cameo/

Check out ACAC Prep School: acourseaboutcopy.com/prep

Pat Flynn Smart Passive Income podcast: https://www.nikkielledgebrown.com/copywriting-101/

Amy Porterfield interview: https://www.nikkielledgebrown.com/write-better-copy-amy-porterfield-podcast/

First EoFire interview: https://www.eofire.com/podcast/nikkielledgebrown/

Heartbreak and Rainbows post re: 2014 losses and 2015 pregnancy: https://www.nikkielledgebrown.com/miscarriage/

“Lucky B” Denise DT denisedt.com/books

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A Course About Copy enrollment page: acourseaboutcopy.com/selfstudy

Special invite (aforementioned evergreen funnel with time-sensitive savings): acourseaboutcopy.com

A Course About Copy Prep School: acourseaboutcopy.com/prep

Time capsule from ACAC Summer School FB group launch: https://www.nikkielledgebrown.com/acac-summer-school-preview/

Heartbreak and Rainbows post re: 2014 losses and 2015 pregnancy: https://www.nikkielledgebrown.com/miscarriage/

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Naptime Empires pod recap of this jumpstart: naptimeempires.com/001

Aforementioned Park Ranger video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mK4_07cfVPs

Jenny Shih testimonial resource:

https://jennyshih.com/2012/06/steal-this-my-simple-system-for-getting-killer-testimonials/

Current work with me page (using some of that original copy!): nikkielledgebrown.com/shop

Baby’s first post on burnout: https://www.nikkielledgebrown.com/27-simple-ways-to-avoid-burnout/

Recap of first 1000 subscribers: https://www.nikkielledgebrown.com/my-first-1000-subscribers/

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Having the courage to speak up and call the ball - to publicly claim that you trust yourself enough to handle whatever comes next - can be a literal game-changer.

Consider that those who speak up (loudest, first, etc) are often perceived as leaders... even if they don't know what they're talking about ;)

Use your influence for (subjectively defined) good and give yourself a chance to get in the game.

Related "Get Back in the Game" Naptime Empires ep here: https://naptimeempires.com/imposter-syndrome-055/

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I'm in love with virtual coworking, and if somehow you haven't tried it yet, I think you may be too.

I hosted my first paid coworking experience back in 2017, and it's been an element of every group offering I've created since.

Today I'm finally giving (very affordable coworking platform) Focusmate a try, and 1.5 sessions in, I'm obsessed.

Tune in for science-backed benefits of bubble-wrapping time and space to put your 🍑 in 🪑 and show up for what matters most to you today, brought to us courtesy of focusmate.com/science.

BONUS: If you're listening to this in April 2023 and you'd like to give it a go, register for my priceless *pom queen* coworking series here: nikkielledgebrown.com/pom

We'll be live every Thursday at 11am Central. Would love to see your face and cheer you on in the chat box!

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Back-to-back back-to-school colds, a deer bite, a tiny toddler fracture (!), our first bout of RSV leading to our first hospitalization, our first covid, strep, and now FLU.

ONE - how thankful I am for medical pros! From front desk appointment schedulers to docs, nurses, pharmacists, and paramedics. I love natural support options *and* feel so thankful for traditional medical care as needed.

TWO - how thankful I am that years ago we chose to anchor back into our hometown so my sisters and parents can be a short drive away for porch drops and carpool help. That privilege is not lost on me.

In this message I share a simple motto that's helping me keep it moving, even and especially when I feel overwhelmed by all the things that need to happen to keep my fave humans alive and thriving as their systems are mid-upgrade.

Whether you're in a deep immune-building season or not, I hope it serves you today!

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I googled it a month or so ago to confirm my suspicions that it stood for "low fidelity," then the actual definitions ended up sparking a whole new line of thinking. Maybe even a movement.

You tell me.

Wikipedia says, "Lo-fi is a music or production quality in which elements usually regarded as imperfections in the context of a recording or performance are present, sometimes as a deliberate choice."

Domestika.org says: A popular subgenre of electronic music, lo-fi music's characteristic features include "imperfections" like incorrect notes, background noise, and low-quality audio—all of which used to be looked down on by industry players."

https://www.domestika.org/en/blog/10296-what-is-lo-fi-music-and-why-is-it-perfect-for-relaxing

Can you sense where I'm heading with this??

I've shared in many previous messages that my audio quality *and content* in this podcast is very intentional. I recorded in Voxer, direct to my phone, without a special mic or headset. I download to my desktop and upload without editiing (unless I'm merging two files because I was interrupted beyond repair ;)). One-take wonders or bust. The quality of sound and content here is by intentional design, not default.

I had the chance to share this concept I'm calling "lo-fi podcasting" in front of a live (Ciel Creative Space) audience in Berkeley recently, and the resonance was undeniable.

I lost count of the number of women (including experienced podcasters!) who came up to me throughout the weekend sharing the lightbulbs that had gone off when they heard me describe my thought process around this.

For one reason or another, they've been holding back, staying quiet, keeping their most valuable conversations to small private threads and groups because they felt like podcasting had to look (sound) a certain way.

Yet here we are in this On Her Terms feed proving that it doesn't.

If you've got something to say and way too many excuses for not saying it in podcast form... tune in for this message and see what it shakes loose.

I'm super-inspired by the possibilities of how I can support you in your own lo-fi creations, so if you'd love inspo and info around the logistics and the mindset pieces, reach out via the comment box or the application below.

Something special is stirring around this concept and conversation. I'd love to hear your thoughts.

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Just listened to a call recording from early 2016 and it sparked some big feels over here.

Context: My husband was deployed, and I was in the thick of the fourth trimester, my second full month as a mom of two. My oldest was just four at the time (he's 11 now!), needing some emo support I didn't have the capacity to give.

Press play for my reflections from seven years (and one baby girl) later...

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Sharing here 1) as a PSA because I was not familiar with the physical signs of respiratory distress and the resource linked below can help if you aren't either, and 2) in hopes that the clarity this intense experienced sparked for my own mind and creative process will spark something useful for you too.

The main takeaway Qs: How can you make the most of margin when you have it so that even when you DON'T you can still feel expressed, connected, of service, inspired, and well compensated even when life throws you a curveball?

What assets, systems, practices, and support can you put in place NOW to make life simpler when big events (opportunities, not just emergencies) require your full focus and attention?

What a gift to be able to create businesses (and relationships) that allow us to BE THERE for life's big moments.

There's so much to unpack in here. I'd love to hear what resonates, what Qs this sparks for you. Let me know here in the comment box or tagging me on IG @nikkielledgebrown.

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@shantripp's respiratory story highlight on IG - very useful info from a pediatric ER nurse and mama

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If you're ever challenged by the online "zoo," tempted to be or behave as anyone other than your magical SELF, gimme six minutes of your time today. (Three if you go 2x.)

In this episode I share how author Eric Carle spoke directly to my IG-scrolling, auto-comparing soul, by way of my first grader's backpack.

Let me know how it lands for you!

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Fact: Not every piece of content you create will be your "best."

(How do you define your "best" anyway?)

In this message I share how the law of averages can help you appreciate your less-than-masterpiece-level creations for the PLENTIFUL gifts they have to offer.

Building momentum, gathering feedback, developing confidence and resilience... YES please.

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POD: How to Appreciate Where You Are Now

POST + VID: Biz Puberty

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I've got cabinets FULL of notebooks. Google Drive FULL of docs, sheets, and even some wild slides. So many idea airplanes waiting for clearance to land.

(Hence the "Sleepy Ideas" doc I shared in a recent episode!)

Batching is great (like microwaving a donut), but there's something truly special about doing something with a message when it strikes.

There's deep and powerful resonance when your figurative Krispy Kreme Hot Light™ is on. We feel it and YOU feel it as it moves through! It's clarifying. Creative fiber.

Instead of saving your next message idea, try sharing it while it's hot and ready. Tag me when you do - bonus points for using the donut emoji.

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If sharing info / messages / content is part of your business model, tune in to this episode when you're feeling stuck in a sea of sterile how to content. When you feel like there's one type of thing you "should" share for your content to be perceived as valuable by other humans.

It's often not nearly as complicated as we make it.

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And you may already do it.

If not, give it a try and let me know what kinda gems you capture!

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This message is filled to the brim with metaphors to help you snap out of the fog of creative comparison. 

Grocery shopping, tooth brushing, book writing and dedicating... 

Choose one that resonates and GET MOVING on what matters to you!

*more thoughts / notes from before I hit record*

Someone else did / said / created x. Why would they want to hear it from you? The impact is coming from inside the house. Your kids. Partner. Parents. Siblings Neighbors. Hair stylist. 

You’ve got a one of a kind network rooting for you and your metaphorical rising tide lifts their boats too. LIVE that acknowledgements page. The dedication. The launch party. 

See their faces cheering you on before concerning yourself with the whole internet. 

You're here to live your life. To create your creations. Your voice has an impact only your voice can make bc it’s from where YOU are. Right now in this moment. Others may not even hear it, but your people will feel it. Play your game. Run / walk / fly / swim your race. You’ll inspire your cheering section like no other.

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I got a DM from a childhood buddy today that led me to scroll through messages we'd swapped back in 2011 as new moms. I cringed and I laughed (and I share why in this message).

How has your voice, your humor, your perspective on life transformed over the past decade plus? What has stayed the same?

In what ways have you grown and changed on a human level? (I'm talking changes not detectable on bank statements or camera roll strolls.)

What did you think / do / say then that may make you cringe a bit now?

Seriously I wanna know; tell me in the comment box.

Were you goofier? More serious? I cared a lot more about typos than I remember. And some of my language gives me a toothache.

Whatever your transformation may have been - however slight or extreme - I hope this micro treasure hunt helps you feel inspired to share more of who you are right NOW.

Your voice matters and resonates deeply with others who want and need to hear it today - however deep, squeaky, or smooth it may be.

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― David Whyte, Crossing the Unknown Sea: Work as a Pilgrimage of Identity

In this message I share musings on how burnout from TOO much action can actually lead to burnout from to LITTLE action.

There's magic in the middle when we start to be honest about the feedback we're experiencing. Resentment? Overwhelm? Fear of recreating the same patterns?

Enlist the support you need as you recalibrate and find a pace that works for you in THIS season of life. One micro-commitment at a time.

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A simple printed paper calendar vs. a custom fam photo calendar.

Pants that fit NOW vs. ones that may or may not fit two months (years, lifetimes) from now.

A Google doc of notes vs. a stylish slide deck.

In this <10 minute musing I'm sharing the concept of lifestyle lorem ipsum - the power of creating placeholders from a place of intention and gratitude. 

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In the little moments and the big ones: Savor the sweetness. Feel the feelings. Jingle all the way.

Snuggling and celebrating the newborn, the treasured pup, the manuscript.

When something feels amazing, feel it in every cell. Anchor it in. When something hurts, allow that to flow through you so it doesn’t get stuck only to resurface later with more pressure behind it.

Savoring the meaningful moments - especially the ones that open our hearts - helps us navigate and recalibrate when things feel extra hard.

We came here to FEEL and experience all this life has to offer.

Don’t turn down the volume on your humanity. Crank that ish up.

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Is life really that pass or fail? no participation trophy?

The spoiler alert / available reframe: we're live. The music is already playing. No need for curated perfection or quiet on the set. We have been. recording.

What's your life's "music" saying? What's the beat, the bop, the jam?

What do you love about the tracks you've laid down so far? If you'd like to change the tune for a bit, to what? And why?

I don't know much about music besides that I love that it exists and marvel that people keep creating NEW songs, sounds, and melodies... (!?) but I do genuinely believe we're all here resonating in our own ways, at our own paces, because we have unique parts to play in the orchestra pit of humanity.

If you've been judging your tune by an invisible (or perhaps very visible) standard that doesn't actually feel true to YOU and what you currently value, consider this an opportunity to shift that.

Would love to hear your thoughts.

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"It's not about making the right decision; it's about making the decision RIGHT." - John Demartini (is who I first heard it from)

You're capable of making decisions, and you're capable of dealing with whatever comes on the other side of those decisions.

Deciding not to decide is draining AF and you deserve to feel full of LIFE today and every day.

Tune in for practical ideas to help you rally your inner executive and sign those orders.

I'll be right there cheering you on and holding the extra pens.

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Don't box yourself in to the same five topics if that bores TF out of you.

A tale of a cinnamon sugar selfie, and the life lessons and Instagram engagement that came with it.

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This message is a call to get those ideas OUT of your head and into the world, so you can make room for all the others just waiting for their chance to play.

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Either way, the point is: Reminders are *gifts* to the right people.

They are helpful and appreciated. LIKE YOU.

Those who don't want or need them can delete, unsubscribe, and scoot along their merry way.

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